North Korea themes, part III

More themes to expect from this blog on North Korea... Leadership, control, and how you are led and controlled You can't miss some of the North Korean government's more blatant methods to control its population -- the propaganda, unique versions of history, controlling the flow of people and information across its borders, and regulating trade, for example. Some you can't see as a tourist but the press outside North Korea reports it, like the how they punish citizens and stratify society. Some you can only speculate on, like how leaders behave in person and communicate to their staff and the rest of the population. When you see their obvious methods to influence the public methods here become suddenly obvious. We have more advertising than they…

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The Method: when to use it

When do I think of when to implement the Method? In leadership situations: especially when times call for me to motivate or influence others, to negotiate, to listen, to empathize and see things from another person's perspective. Times like these make self-awareness and knowing how to act on it important. In personal leadership situations: when times call for me to motivate myself, to understand myself better, and so on. I've learned approaching introspection with the structure of the Method more effective than an unstructured or haphazard approach. When I sense my level of reward below potential: since the feeling of reward (of all different characteristics) indicates how well my life is going, raising reward is among my most important tasks. The Method keeps me from…

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North Korea themes, part II

More themes to expect from this blog on North Korea... Seeing their lack of freedom leads you to value yours more -- and that you have to maintain it Compare your freedom to a North Korean's. Does your greater freedom bring you reward and happiness? If you consider freedom essential to happiness and you aren't much happier than most North Koreans what are you doing wrong? What are you misunderstanding? The Occupy Wall Street movement is rising as I write this. People are outraged at, among other things, the lack of accountability in people who contributed to a global financial meltdown, many knowingly, many enriching themselves at others' expenses, likely illegally, certainly violating the golden rule of "do to others as you would have them…

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North Korea themes, part I

Only having written a few posts, I've already hit some of the major themes that visiting North Korea raised in me. I'll touch on them here to clarify them since I expect they'll continue to show up in future posts. Seeing others reveals things about yourself and your culture -- and the more different they are, the deeper they reveal about you and your world. We take many parts of life for granted that aren't as universal as we suspect. Like a fish in water, we tend not to notice these things, which means they influence more strongly, since we think things are just that way. Since people are people everywhere, the more different a new culture, the more taken-for-granted things they reveal about us.…

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Reminder: My next two leadership seminars: October 23,30 and November 5,6 at the New School

  The next one is this weekend! LEADERSHIP THROUGH SELF-AWARENESS AND EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE In a two-day seminar, learn how to develop your personal leadership skills, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence by utilizing the latest advances in cognitive behavioral science, evolutionary psychology, and positive psychology. The course is open to all area business school students, alumni, and colleagues. In the past the seminars have sold out quickly, as such we are currently offering two courses.  Below you will find the dates of the courses and a link that you can follow to sign up. If you have any questions feel free to contact me. Schedule: (Note both sessions cover identical material) October session(consecutive Sundays): Day One: Sunday, October 23, 2011  noon–5pm Day Two: Sunday, October 30, 2011…

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Audio interview: sales lessons from a great failure

Spectacular failures teach us our most valuable lessons. In this interview, I talk about my first, and most painful, sales failure growth experience. I wanted to crawl under a rock and die, but the meeting crept on. Afterward I didn't want to continue in business, let alone do any sales. The word I was looking for at 2:38 was condescension, by the way. My business partner's perspective -- that you win some and you lose some; we didn't win this one but the next would be better -- changed my life for the better as one of the major steps forward into business and entrepreneurship for me. So this anecdote marked the beginning of something very rewarding in my life. Since that meeting, especially with…

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Review of non-Method methods

This post covers patterns of several non-Method methods to give context to the Method. The reason you want to improve your life is that you're feeling less reward than your potential. Unless you're highly emotional aware, in which case you would see your way forward clearly, all you know then is that at least one element of an emotional cycle is out of sync but not which. The non-Method methods of the past few posts only work on one part of your emotional cycles. In general, if your way forward isn't clear, you'll be lucky if working on only one element works. Working on only your environment can cost resources and lead to delay or giving up. Working on only your behavior is grueling and…

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Pictures of North Korea, part 4: the Arch of Reunification
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Pictures of North Korea, part 4: the Arch of Reunification

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip… More pictures. Click on them for larger views. Approaching our first bona-fide tourist site, the Arch of Reunification. North Korea claims as one of its greatest goals and sources of victimhood is the division of the two Koreas. I don't sense from South Koreans a great desire to reunify, but I don't claim any deep insight or knowledge of either culture. Approaching the first site on the first day, I took this picture from inside the bus, through the tinted window. Much of the public art consisted of grand mega-scale architecture promoting the state and various of its ideals with little individual personal expression. I guess many countries have that too. I would still call many of the…

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Pictures of North Korea, part 3: first views of Pyongyang
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Pictures of North Korea, part 3: first views of Pyongyang

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip… More pictures. Click on them for larger views. Our first morning driving out from the hotel. We experienced driving in North Korea for the first time the night before, coming in from the airport. We landed in the early evening, but night had fallen by the time we reached the city. With almost no streetlights the city was dark. People kept narrowly getting out of the way of the bus. We kept getting shocked that a family wouldn't hurry and would barely not get hit. We soon concluded North Koreans don't have much experience with cars. The streets were nearly always empty. We nearly never stopped for traffic lights. We never hit traffic. The cars we saw were…

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Non-Method method 4: positive thinking

This post covers the fourth of several non-Method methods, generally expanding on non-Method method 3, "The Secret" or "Law of Attraction." People often, somewhere in the middle of presenting the Method for the first time, for example, ask if the Method is not just positive thinking. Likewise, I hear non-Americans say things like "What is it with you Americans and always wanting to feel happy all the time? Everything in life is not about happiness." I agree with the sentiment. I don't promote trying to feel happy all the time, "positive thinking," affirmations, or the like. They feel like putting lipstick on a pig. I promote you being you, being more aware of yourself and your emotions, and developing skills to act on that knowledge…

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Pictures of North Korea, part 2: preparing for our first adventure
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Pictures of North Korea, part 2: preparing for our first adventure

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip… More pictures. Click on them for larger views. Today's pictures are more about our group than North Korea, per se, but they do feature some of the first North Koreans ever throwing frisbees (actually Discrafts, for those who know the difference). The morning after we arrived, waiting to get in the buses to go south to the Demilitarized Zone. We've all met enough to shake hands but not all to converse yet. I think by this point no one knows everyone, though we all got to be friends by the end of the trip. Ingrid on the left, her boyfriend Neil, Joseph, Jordan, Gabriel, and John. Joseph and Jordan have planned the most, for about three years. We…

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Non-Method method 3: “The Secret” or “Law of Attraction”

This post covers the third of several non-Method methods. People often try to improve their lives by changing only their beliefs. Typical examples of changing beliefs include believing money, friends, or health will come your way. Since the book and movie "The Secret" so popularly propagated this strategy a few years ago, I call this strategy "The Secret" or "Law of Attraction." Before delving into it, I'll point out that of all the non-Method methods I discuss, I believe changing your beliefs has the best chances of long-term success. Looking at the Model, changing your beliefs can influence how you perceive your environment, which can change your motivations, which can change your behavior, which can change your environment. Acting on no other place in the…

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What’s counterproductive about “making the world a better place”

I commented on a post on another board that expanded on my earlier post "What's wrong with 'making the world a better place'", referring to this post: I understand the goals of the ethic, but I'd suggest a change to one part. "World improvement" sounds noble, but every sane person believes they are making the world a better place -- whether dictators, telemarketers, soldiers, marketers of sugary beverages to children, or anyone. I guarantee not a single one of them, or anyone else, believes they are making the world a better place. You might believe they are making the world worse, but then you're evaluating them by your standards. Since they have different standards, they'll view you as making the world worse too since you…

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Non-Method method 2: New Year’s resolutions

This post covers the second of several non-Method methods. People often try to improve their lives by changing only their behavior. After doing something one way for a while they resolve to do it differently. This strategy comes from a belief that something rooted in their behavior holds them back from a better life, or at least that changing only their behavior will improve it. I call this strategy "New Year's resolutions." The change in behavior doesn't have to come over New Year's. It just has to be based only in behavior. Typically people resolve to eat more healthily, to exercise more, to finally do that thing they've meant to do for years, etc. But the change could be anything. Sometimes changing only your behavior…

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Pictures of North Korea, part I: starting at the hotel
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Pictures of North Korea, part I: starting at the hotel

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip... Now let's see some pictures. Click on them for larger views. The view from our hotel window. The sky was bluer than this picture shows, contrasting with the overcast and polluted skies of Beijing and Shanghai, the other two places I visited on this trip. Nearly all the pictures I've seen online of Pyongyang include something about our hotel. It seems all visitors stay there. They built our hotel on an island. You can see a nine-hole golf course below, but you couldn't see it from the ground level. I'm not sure if it worked. The golf course seemed incongruous with my expectation of North Korea. Every morning we were there I heard industrial dredging-like sound coming from…

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I won’t get in trouble for this

Dennis Ritchie died today. In computer circles, he is like Einstein. For those curious about this computer science version of Einstein, this Economist article will give you some background. I've written only a bit in C, which he created and is arguably the most important computer language, but of course I use GNU/Linux, arguably the closest to the spirit of the original Unix, which he co-created. Since I write more than I code, I'll note one of his most direct and enduring influences on me came through a single sentence in the book he co-wrote on the programming language called, "The C Programming Language." People write big books on programming languages, but he co-wrote a short one that has become the book on C. I…

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Flying through Shanghai
Shanghai's Bund at night viewed from an awesome restaurant after a gallery opening

Flying through Shanghai

Last summer at a Brooklyn art gallery a friend curated featuring a cityscape-like artwork, I took a camera and moved it around through the cityscape to make short movies that looked like you were flying through a city. They looked great. Unfortunately I did it with the camera of another friend, who deleted the movies. Now when I see a cityscape I like to make fly-through movies of it. Shanghai's Urban Planning Museum has a bunch of scale models of Shanghai. I couldn't help make the movies below. This time my camera battery was dying so I made them too quickly. This model is on the ground floor, near the entrance. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKLtADMSunQ This model was on a wall, on an upper floor. It's smaller so…

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Basic observations of North Korea

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip... Here are some basic observations I saw in North Korea without embellishment or analysis. When I looked out my hotel room the first night we arrived to see about half the city, because of their dearth of electrical power I could count the number of cars driving: two. Buildings outside Pyongyang were bunker-like concrete slabs, many unfinished. Many people appeared to live in unfinished buildings. On the highway between Pyongyang and the Demilitarized Zone we passed two adjacent unfinished bridges falling into streams as if construction halted unexpectedly year ago, like ancient ruins. That highway was divided, with two or three lanes in each direction. For most of the roughly two-hour trip we saw no other vehicles than…

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Expectations of North Korea

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip... One of this trip's major themes was the difference between expectations and experiences; also recognizing that expectations -- Americans have wild expectations of North Korea -- say things about yourself, not them. Experiences say something about the interaction between others and yourself. Americans, myself included, know little about North Korea and North Koreans. Our expectations tell us about what gets past the filters of their media and ours. The dominant expectations I hear Americans having of North Koreans are North Korea is dangerous and lawless The North Korean government jails westerners frequently for long times and tortures them The North Korean military is huge and omnipresent, goose-stepping about frequently The country is dreary and the people lifeless People…

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Visiting Occupy Wall Street

Living near what may potentially become a significant movement in the United States -- Occupy Wall Street -- I can't believe I took over three weeks to visit the main site they're sitting in, especially because a friend told me about the plans in the works several days before it started. That friend ended up interviewed on several national television shows. I finally visited today. I think the New York Times's editorial Sunday implied the protesters were serious. Partly I was motivated by some claims by people on discussion boards that the protesters were incoherent, dirty, privileged, and so on. So I visited in person. Here is my post to that other board. I think you can figure out the context from it. Just got…

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Non-Method method 1: “I need a new house/car/job/girlfriend/boyfriend/etc”

This post covers the first of several non-Method methods. People often try to improve their lives by changing or getting rid of something in their environment. By environment I don't mean trees and lakes and streams, but anything that affects your emotional system, as described in my posts on the environment as part of the Model. Typically that thing is their house, car, job, or significant other, but could be anything -- a new diet book, a new labor-saving device, a new degree, stopping seeing a friend, etc. This strategy comes from believing that something external is holding them back from a better life. Or at least that changing something external will improve it. I call the strategy "I need a new house/car/job/boyfriend/girlfriend/etc" Sometimes changing…

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I’ll get in trouble for this in two ways

I'll get in trouble for this post in two ways, but people who get it will appreciate it. The first is how I view death. I'm overwhelmingly swayed by this passage from the ancient book called the Zuangzi (spelled Chuang Tzu in the translation below) on the death of a loved one. Chuang Tzu's wife died. When Hui Tzu went to convey his condolences, he found Chuang Tzu sitting with his legs sprawled out, pounding on a pot and singing. "You lived with her, she brought up your children and grew old," said Hui Tzu. "It should be enough simply not to weep at her death. But pounding on a tub and singing - this is going too far, isn't it?" Chuang Tzu said, "Not…

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Audio interview: life lessons from academia: business school

If you've thought about business school or noticed unexpected changes in people you know who went there, this interview may interest you. I cover how I found and learned in business school different subjects than I expected -- like leadership, general management, negotiation, and so-called "soft skills." They began a process of increasing emotional awareness, self-awareness, and focus on emotions, motivations, and relationships. The result has been more reward overall, particularly in relationships. Before business school I focused more on facts and knowledge. Small interface: [audio:https://joshuaspodek.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/life_lessons_business_school.mp3] Big interface: [videofile]https://joshuaspodek.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/life_lessons_business_school.mp3[/videofile]

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Non-Method methods

People improve their lives in many ways. To give context to the Method, in my next few posts I'll describe several common non-Method methods you're familiar with. Then I'll describe how the Method differs from them and why I believe it improves your life better and is more rewarding to do. So far I've only described the Method broadly: to choose the elements in your emotional cycles you can control voluntarily -- your environment, beliefs, and behavior -- together to bring about the emotions and emotional reward you want. There is much more to it and upcoming posts will describe it and how to implement it in detail, but this broad level is enough for the comparisons below. They will then clarify the Method when I…

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North Korea bibliography and what I will write about

Continuing writing about my North Korea trip... Since returning I've found people incredibly interested in North Korea. For better or worse, many people ask what human rights issues I saw there, if any. People far more experienced than I have investigated and reported on North Korea beyond what I could observe. If you want to learn about their experiences, you can find them. See below for a short bibliography. I will write on what I saw, doing my best to avoid exaggeration and speculation, or at least note where I do so. I know plenty happened outside the field of view the North Korean government permitted us, perhaps outside Pyongyang or far from us, but maybe right under our noses. I don't intend to write…

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