Monthly Archives: December 2014

Why feeling understood feels so good and feeling misunderstood feels so bad

on December 24, 2014 in Leadership, Nonjudgment

I’ve posted a lot about the effectiveness of making people feel understood to leading them. It increases your ability to influence them and makes them feel good. It also resolves a lot of arguments. Why does it feeling understood feel so good? Sometimes I describe it in seminars as close to feeling loved and no one has objected. Why does feeling misunderstood feel so bad? I’ve joked in seminars how[…] Keep reading →

More inspirational SIDCHA videos

on December 23, 2014 in Art, Creativity, Freedom, Habits, SIDCHAs

[This post is part of a series on the Self-Imposed Daily Challenging Healthy Activity (SIDCHA). If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Here are two videos of people who learned to dance by doing it every day. So much more photogenic than burpees and writing here daily. I don’t know[…] Keep reading →

Three years of burpees

on December 22, 2014 in Exercises, Fitness, Habits, SIDCHAs

Yesterday began my fourth year of burpees. I’ve written about them at length, so I’ll keep it brief today. A few sets of burpees are good fitness exercise. A few years of burpees is a solid foundation for a healthy life. Here are the top things they create for me. Sticking with them for a long time without missing any creates discipline, which is a foundation I can build other[…] Keep reading →

Non-judgmental Ethics Sunday: A Boy Named Dana

on December 21, 2014 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment, Tips

Continuing my series of alternative responses to the New York Times column, The Ethicist, looking at the consequences of one’s actions instead of imposing values on others, here is a take on today’s post,”A Boy Named Dana.” I have applied over email for internships with several high-tech companies in the Bay Area, and I suspect I have benefited from my potential employers’ incorrectly assuming that I am a woman. Many[…] Keep reading →

Particle Fever

on December 20, 2014 in Education, Nature

Do you miss an activity you used to feel passionate about, used to work hard on, but don’t do anymore? When you feel inspired, you work hard, sometimes very hard, often long hours, often sacrificing other things you would otherwise enjoy. Then when you look back you miss how inspired you felt. You’d rather feel that way and sacrifice again than to have free time or enjoy mild pleasure. You[…] Keep reading →

An unhealthy gift

on December 19, 2014 in Fitness

I noticed a package of chocolate on my shelf I’ve had for a while. I got it at an event at the Tesla store in Chelsea, which seems like a classy place. It looks like classy chocolate. It’s a package of four little truffle-like pieces. I don’t love chocolate like some people do. The first ingredient on this package is sugar. A while ago I might have eaten it, but[…] Keep reading →

The Meaning of Leadership — the class

on December 18, 2014 in Education, Exercises, Leadership

NYU posted my course next semester: “The Meaning of Leadership.” I designed it to cover developing the fundamental skills of leadership as comprehensively as one semester allows. I expect many students to find it one of if not the best class they ever take. From the syllabus, the course description begins: The Meaning of Leadership will prepare you to practice effective leadership and teamwork in a variety of contexts—business, politics,[…] Keep reading →

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