Category Archives: Choosing/Decision-Making

Update on the love letters with my high school girlfriend

on October 24, 2019 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Relationships

Following my post Thoughts on reading my love letters to my high school girlfriend after 30 years, I’ve gotten closer to getting rid of them. I haven’t, but I’ve gotten nearly as close as I’m willing, though I’m keeping a plan B. Since my post Less, Please, on getting rid of hundreds of books near the beginning of this blog, about ten years ago — or “putting them back into[…] Keep reading →

Thoughts on reading my love letters to my high school girlfriend after 30 years

on October 8, 2019 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Relationships

Following up my posts Mementos of my high school girlfriend and The Most Romantic Thing I Ever Did, I finally read the letters and cards from her to me and from me to her. We wrote them from around the summer of 1988, after graduating high school, to about a year later, the summer after our first years in college. She went to school outside Boston. I went to school[…] Keep reading →

Examples of “tastes good” versus “want more”

on October 7, 2019 in Awareness, Choosing/Decision-Making, Perception, SIDCHAs

I’ve written on the difference in sensation between something tasting good versus making you feel like you want more of it (see “Want to eat more” and “tastes good” aren’t the same feeling). I also spoke about them as a podcast guest in Tastes Good versus Want More, explored in depth. The difference, briefly: when you bite into a fruit you love, say an apple, it tastes good and you[…] Keep reading →

Mementos of my high school girlfriend

on July 15, 2019 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Freedom, Relationships

Part 1: College personalities not so unique In college, I remember meeting many classmates who seemed unique. I couldn’t imagine anyone else like them. Thirty years later, I’ve seen people like each. Over and over as college classes turn over every four years. I’ve also seen them grow up to become like everyone else. There’s some variation, of course, but the differences aren’t that great. Part 2: My high school[…] Keep reading →

Kicking the flying habit, which keeps you from family and income

on June 7, 2019 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Habits, Nature, Nonjudgment

In an online thread with people insisting that they have no choice but to fly for family and work reasons, I wrote the following, which I’m sure some will disagree with. I’m learning too, though I hope to help people looking to find joy in polluting less. One flight will brings people closer. Flying in general led them to move far apart so they felt they needed to fly to[…] Keep reading →

Would you rather, part 5

on April 2, 2019 in Choosing/Decision-Making

Following up my first post on this topic and my last one, and while the options below don’t have to be exclusive, people usually choose as if they are. Do you prefer . . . To burn tons of fossil fuel to see the Amazon Or grow a plant at home? To see a pristine paradise and tell everyone about it Or to let it be? Coffee in a disposable[…] Keep reading →

Letter to an 80-year-old on the environment

on November 22, 2018 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Nature

Remember this scene of Cypher’s selling out his crew for his personal pleasure in The Matrix? My letter to an 80-year-old, prompted by an article on the environment 80-year-olds and 20-year-olds will view the environment differently. 80-year-olds might consider global warming, plastic pollution, extinctions, and so on abstractly. If environmental disaster will hit around 2050, that’s someone else’s problem. To 20-year-olds, 2050 is the prime of their lives. They have[…] Keep reading →

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