Category Archives: Ethicist

The Ethicist: My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere?

on November 19, 2017 in Ethicist

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere?” I am in my mid-60s and have been happily married for decades. I have always been a very sexual person and consider myself healthy and normal, though at one end of the bell curve. A few years ago, my wife’s health[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: Can I Turn In a Bad Fraternity at My Son’s College?

on November 5, 2017 in Ethicist

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “Can I Turn In a Bad Fraternity at My Son’s College?” My son is on his college football team. Most of the football team is in a fraternity known for its boorishness; it prides itself on disparaging other frats and behaving badly. My son wisely chose not to join it, opting[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: Should I Reveal That My Dad Pretended to Be a Vietnam Vet?

on October 29, 2017 in Ethicist

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “Should I Reveal That My Dad Pretended to Be a Vietnam Vet?” When he was alive, my father sometimes talked of his military service during the Vietnam War. He would oscillate between being open about details and not wanting to speak of his experience. Despite not having any “war buddies,” photographs[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: My Wife Found My Sexy Phone Pics and Won’t Let It Go

on October 22, 2017 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment, Relationships

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “My Wife Found My Sexy Phone Pics and Won’t Let It Go,” My wife and I have been married for just a few years. Early in our marriage I started chatting with a female acquaintance, and things got verbally sexual and eventually led to sexual pictures between the other woman and[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: Can My Cat Go Out if He Bullies Other Cats?

on October 15, 2017 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “Can My Cat Go Out if He Bullies Other Cats?” Playing outside is my cat’s greatest joy. During the long Maine winters, he stares wistfully out the window. The moment the snow melts, he’s outside climbing trees and running laps. The whole street knows my cat, Jasper, by name. Children play[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: Is It O.K. to Give Cigarettes to a Homeless Person?

on October 8, 2017 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “Is It O.K. to Give Cigarettes to a Homeless Person?” After a passer-by handed over a half-used pack of cigarettes to a homeless man on a Melbourne street, the man asked that I accompany him to a nearby convenience store to help him buy more cigarettes as he was running low[…] Keep reading →

The Ethicist: Can I Spread the Word About an Unvaccinated Child?

on October 1, 2017 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “Can I Spread the Word About an Unvaccinated Child?” I’m pregnant with my first child, and concern for my unborn baby has prompted me to ask my friends if their children are vaccinated. One close friend, Y, has two young (vaccinated) children, and lives near another friend, X. Both Y and[…] Keep reading →