Category Archives: Nonjudgment

Frederick Douglass promoted imperialism, was anti-catholic, promoted hunting whales

on March 21, 2024 in Nonjudgment

It’s tempting to point out flaws of people like Thomas Jefferson, who spoke eloquently about freedom but didn’t practice it in his own life as a slaveholder and racist, to discredit them. George Washington only freed his slaves in his will, not while he lived. Gandhi did odd things regarding his chastity, like sleeping naked with young girls. Mother Teresa let helpless people suffer she could have helped and called[…] Keep reading →

DARVO: how many people feeling guilt and shame protect themselves (including polluters/depleters)

on March 19, 2024 in Nonjudgment, Relationships

I forget what led me to learn the acronym DARVO (see below for definition and more), but it sounded like how people respond to sustainability talk. I read a few articles and watched a few videos on it (also below). They mostly talk about it as something narcissists do, though Wikipedia says “perpetrators of wrongdoing” do it, so not surprising that I see it in polluters. Identifying the pattern and[…] Keep reading →

I’ve learned to enjoy just thinking

on March 1, 2024 in Awareness, Habits, Nonjudgment

I’ve held back on posting this discovery since I think people might confuse it with boredom or having nothing better to do and I didn’t want to be judged, but as I’ve cut out more media, I’ve found it enjoyable, relaxing, and rewarding just to think . . . to ponder, consider, reflect, introspect, daydream, and such. I mean something different than meditating. I meditate too, as one of my[…] Keep reading →

Whom would you call a minority in this picture?

on February 9, 2024 in Education, Nonjudgment, Visualization

Cleaning out my father’s basement, I found my junior high school yearbook. Not really a yearbook, but a book with pictures of each class. Here’s my class: Can you tell which one is me? Is it hard to tell? I can’t tell you how often people have told me I don’t know what it’s like to live as a minority. This year wasn’t my only such year. Here is the[…] Keep reading →

Why do people apologize to me when they mention their polluting?

on October 28, 2023 in Nonjudgment

It happens all the time. Someone is talking to me and happens to mention they flew somewhere, used disposable plastic, or the like. Then they apologize to me. For example, they might be talking about upcoming plans and say something like, “. . . and then I’ll go to Europe . . .”, pause, look at me, and say, ” . . . sorry, Josh, I’ll be flying there.” I[…] Keep reading →

More of: I eat food homeless people throw away

on October 25, 2023 in Doof, Fitness, Nonjudgment

I wrote a couple years ago about how I end up eating food that homeless and poor people throw away when given lunches. Like if you give them a bag containing a sandwich, bag of chips, and a piece of fruit or bag of baby carrots, you’re going to find a lot of uneaten fruit and carrots discarded on the street. Picking up litter daily, I can’t miss it. Today,[…] Keep reading →

Why do people say history books are filled with people like me when they aren’t?

on October 21, 2023 in Nonjudgment

I don’t learn of anyone like me in history books, but I’m told that’s all who is in them. I’ll link to a bunch of articles that history books are filled with dead white men. I’m told the best I can do is “shut up and listen.” Why do people who don’t know me tell me who I am? Should I think I’m represented because Hitler, Stalin, and Columbus were[…] Keep reading →

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