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Joshua earned a PhD in Astrophysics and an MBA, both at Columbia University, where he studied under a Nobel Laureate. He teaches and coaches leadership at Columbia, NYU, and privately. He has founded several companies, one operating globally since 1999, with a half-dozen patents to his name. He competed athletically at a national and world level.

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How to get a mentor in two easy steps that work

posted by Joshua on May 27, 2015 in Education, Leadership, Relationships, Tips
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I trust you know the value of a mentor. I’ll take for granted you also know how to create a connection with someone. If not, read my Meaningful Connection exercise and my social skills exercise series. So I’ll start at a point where you have at least a rudimentary dialog with someone whose mentorship will help you.

Step 1: Ask them for advice

Ask them for advice on something that matters to both of you.

After enough time passes for you to act on the advice, go to step 2. It helps if you act on the advice, but not necessary

Step 2: Tell them how acting on the advice went and ask more advice

If you acted on the advice and it worked out, tell them that.

If you did and it didn’t, tell them that.

If you didn’t act on it and you had a reason, tell them that.

If you were lazy and just didn’t act, you may not earn their mentorship.

Don’t forget to ask them for new advice. The more times you act on advice of theirs, even if you don’t follow it, the more you’ll motivate them to give you advice again. Eventually they become a mentor.


As long as you keep following up, they’ll keep giving you advice. Over time the relationship will develop.

It works every time.

Why it works

Think of when someone respectfully asks your advice. You feel honored and flattered. At least I do. After you advise them you want them to act on your advice and, if so, you want to learn how it went. So when they return to tell you how it went, you want to hear.

If they act on it you consider them intelligent and a good judge of character—after all, they found you and used their resources, even if only time, to act on your advice.

If, while you’re feeling honored and flattered and you’re impressed with their acting on your advice, they ask you more advice, you feel yet more honored and flattered and inclined to give them more advice. They’ve led you to enjoy mentoring them.

Over time, the relationship inevitably grows.

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Closing remarks to my leadership class

posted by Joshua on May 26, 2015 in Education, Leadership
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Here is how I closed my last leadership class session a few days ago. It followed talking about Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream” speech. We happen to have lived through a semester where the headlines show we haven’t realized his dream. You only had to read the headlines for more problems. I’m volunteering[…] Keep reading →

When were you last out of breath?

posted by Joshua on May 25, 2015 in Fitness, Nature
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When were you last out of breath? Not just winded. I mean completely, thoroughly, can’t-speak-for-a-minute, can’t-think-straight out of breath? Was getting there glorious? Painful? Fun? In competitions, sprinters get there in ten seconds, though they recover fast. Kids do it a lot. Dogs seem to do it. Did it happen to you because you were[…] Keep reading →