Reply To: Exercise 10: No, But, However
#10 Using No, But, However as the initial response to something someone has said to you.
1. What faction do you think you caught?
Don’t really know. I’ve been practicing for quite a while through outside awareness and other advice from communication experts.
Challenged my group to catch me for a $5 reward each time. They asked that the time period be extended from Dec 31 to Jan 31. I said yes and encouraged them to monitor and try to trick me.
2. Did you notice changes on other peoples’ reaction?
I didn’t have many opportunities where I was challenged this week. I know the feeling though. You feel dismissed, scolded, shamed. I’ve witnessed several examples where other people essentially shut down someone trying to contribute.
3. How do you think the difference responses felt?
You feel dismissed, scolded, shamed.
4. How else could you begin your responses?
With a question, Tell me more, That’s an interesting point of view, how did you come up with that, could you explain more,
5. Do you think others noticed a difference?
Wasn’t in many situations this week where it was noticed. Need to run this experiment for longer.
People do notice though when it happens. Above circumstances I indicated, the group in attendance knew when it happened.
6. Where and how might you apply your experience in the remainder of your life?
Communication, relationship building, leadership,