Reply To: Exercise 9: Adopt a Challenging Belief
Leadership Step by Step Exercise 9: Adopt a Challenging Belief
1. Think of a belief that leads to emotions that you don’t like
2. Think of emotions you would prefer in that context
3. Think of a belief that would create an emotion you prefer
4. Consciously and deliberately think the new belief
I can be late without impacting the impression others have of me and the relationship between us.
I feel conflicted, self-loathing, self-justification, rushed, impatient, judged, and more. – this is because I have conflicting beliefs such as – I have time; being late is okay; being early is a respect to both people; I have to hurry to be on time; being late is disrespectful; being early means I can feel in control and a more steady state of emotions; waking up early gives me more time.
I would prefer to feel abundance, calmness, self-aligned, patient, and in-control.
My new belief is that being late impacts the relationship in a way that I do not enjoy nor that I can afford.
Reflection:
I noticed a trend in myself that I tend to be late to the first thing on my calendar each day. I hate this about myself. I seem to be fairly punctual to everything else in the day except for the very first thing on my calendar. I always plan to wake up early and do things well in advance of time. Because I do wake up early, I believe I have enough time. This leads me to taking more time than I anticipate or plan for and ultimately causing me to rush out at the last minute. Often leading me to travel with more urgency which is less safe, and falling into self-criticism when I am 5-10 minutes late.
I don’t necessarily feel more able than last time because this is something that I struggle harder with than the last belief that I worked on. The thought is taking root. The skill of changing ones’ beliefs has been one I’ve exercised before and often, but not broken down so deliberately. It felt most challenging to identify the belief that I would need to practice to feel the emotions I would want to feel. I still don’t know that I’ve hit the nail on the head. Overall as an exercise – I can use this with my most painful relationships and my most inhibiting limiting beliefs.