Sometimes something unexpected blindsides you, catches you off guard, moves you in the opposite direction you wanted, and you realize it’s going to take a lot of work to fix things. It discourages from trying. It demoralizes you.
Most of my posts about problems are about developing skills and how to handle them, at least I think. I’m not sure how others read it, but I think I write like I think I can handle anything and nothing goes too wrong.
There are lots of ways to handle such things but my point now isn’t about advice. It’s just to acknowledge the feeling of discouragement and demoralization and the inevitability of such things happening some times. Nobody escapes it.
It’s usually considered weak to feel or even to just acknowledge discouragement. I used to buy that earlier and it would lead to spending a lot of energy in justifying my actions or blaming others, instead of exploring potential solutions. The self-talk and beliefs exercises helped me a lot in being able to deal with these kind of mental states. Thanks!
Well put!
You’re welcome and thank you.