Do you like for experiences in life to have meaning? What makes an event or experience meaningful? It’s tempting to say it’s difficult to define. The dictionary defines meaningful as “Having meaning, function, or purpose” and meaning as “significant quality, especially: implication of a hidden or special significance.” Those definitions seem vague to me. They just substitute the word quality for meaning. They don’t suggest how to make something more[…] Keep reading →

Doing things consistently and daily for a long time enables you to notice nuances, which increases self-awareness. Since I have a six-day exercise cycle that I begin on the first of each month, in months with 31 days, I like to vary what I do with the extra day. In December I did two things. Sorry for the long post, but what I describe below felt like a meaningful experience[…] Keep reading →

A friend calls leadership “the l-word.” I used to think of leadership as not something anyone could learn. I thought you either had it or you didn’t. I also associated it with control. Today I associate it with help, support, empathy, compassion, listening, awareness, and social and emotional skills like them. It’s been so long since I associated it with control, I have to work to reconnect with that feeling[…] Keep reading →

First I have to make as clear as possible: I oppose imperialism, colonialism, and outcomes they produce such as slavery, racism, genocide, and the coercive, often violent and deadly destruction of cultures, including indigenous ones. That opposition contributes significantly to my work, since living unsustainably drives all those results. In light of that connection, since I know no one even trying to live sustainably, which is necessary to lead others[…] Keep reading →

I’ve meant to write this post for a while, but I feel like people will misunderstand and think I’m saying something I’m not. Sometimes I feel like everyone sees the main problems with America’s liberals, conservatives, and libertarians. Others I feel like I’m the only one. In fairness, each group does what the others do, but each specializes in the following: Does anyone else see that the biggest problems with[…] Keep reading →

I keep meaning to write a post on the pattern I keep seeing, but for the time being, I’m just going to collect and list examples of it. The pattern isn’t perfect and anyone who thinks I’m suggesting it is misunderstands me, but the pattern I see is: When society conflicts with men, we say men have to change or take responsibility. When society conflicts with women, we say society[…] Keep reading →

I said the following words today and realized I had to post them here: Chasing shiny objects means you’re running away from what you value. For background, I describe passing fancies in my book Initiative: Passing fancies are things we enjoy in the moment but don’t bring long-term emotional reward. Since everyone’s values differ, your passing fancies will differ from mine. Our world is full of passing fancies like social[…] Keep reading →

This morning’s calisthenics involved four sets of burpees. I noticed a funny thought as I started the third set. I had barely done a tenth of a burpee in that third set when I thought, “Only one set left.” That’s an odd thought. Since I had barely started the third set, I had closer to two sets left. Why did I think I had one set left when I actually[…] Keep reading →

A recent article on artificial intelligence in the New Yorker wrote about how people who are suffering from loneliness are finding help from artificial intelligence. Some people can’t help loneliness, not out of character defect but circumstance. It gets the reader thinking about the elderly, for example, who outlive everyone they’ve been close to, or it describes as worse, if those who remain are senile. Sorry to give away the[…] Keep reading →