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NYU’s president breaks NYU’s rules, to pollute and deplete of course

I wrote in 2023 about NYU consistently violating its own rules in NYU in 2019: We will stop buying bottled water. NYU in 2023: Here’s some bottled water from us. It's tempting to read something I'm not writing. I'm talking about leadership, which requires credibility and integrity, which require hands-on practical experience, not mere talk. I'm not writing in judgment. During a bus boycott, Martin Luther King would undermine everything if he occasionally took the bus, or even once, even if it took him places faster than any other way and he could do more with that extra time than anyone else. I attended a wonderful event hosted by NYU this week. The prominent author Walter Isaacson spoke about his book on the Declaration of Independence…

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Did you know Stalin was Asian? As were other historic figures including Jesus, Abraham, and Muhammad.

In the last book of Gulag Archipelago, Solzhenitsyn wrote about Stalin's death, "This was the moment my friends and I had looked forward to even in our student days. The moment for which every zek in Gulag (except the orthodox Communists) had prayed! He’s dead, the Asiatic dictator is dead! The villain has curled up and died!" I was curious about the term 'Asiatic.' I also just finished the book Fetishized, which talked about a lack of Asians in media. Was Stalin an example? He may not be a role model, but he gets plenty of coverage. Presumably you want accurate representation, not preferential. I looked up where Stalin was born: Gori, now part of Georgia. In the process I also learned that Stalin himself…

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Parents just don’t understand

George Washington, Andrew Jackson, and Jesus Christ didn't have kids, but JD Vance said about "people without children," that "How does it make any sense that we’ve turned our country over to people who don’t really have a direct stake in it?" I guess Vance isn't a fan of Washington or Christ, though he was referring at the time to Kamala Harris, Pete Buttigieg, and AOC as leaders of the Democrat party. If he disagrees with their politics, that's his prerogative, but why the venom against people without children? Why the claim that people without children are less connected to humanity's future? [EDIT: I had the idea to write this post months, maybe years ago. I kept not writing it because I wasn't sure it…

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Wounded warriors, by Clint Eastwood, and us

Yesterday I posted a passage from Steven Pressfield's new book The Arcadian about how being induced to act against our values---being corrupted from our values---affects us, in Wounded Warriors, by Steven Pressfield, and Ourselves. Yesterday I quoted a scene from Steven's book where three warriors share the effects on their minds of their heroism. It began with what happened to their bodies, which seems the visible counterpart of what happens to their minds, not counting those who were killed and aren’t there to be seen or heard. The passage built up to the last paragraph, which described pissing, pickling, and kicking corpses to try to diminish what they'd done. The actions show what people do when we are corrupted from our values. Steven describes warriors…

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Wounded Warriors, by Steven Pressfield, and Ourselves

I finished The Arcadian by podcast guest Steven Pressfield yesterday. I found the whole book gripping, but one passage stood out as relevant to my work and upcoming book. A big part of my upcoming book is what happens to us when we are induced to act against our values---that is, when we are corrupted from our values. We didn't ask to be born into a culture that makes it impossible to get past eating breakfast without hurting people---for example through plastic packaging and transporting food across continents when our ancestors just walked to it---and causing more of it---for example, by funding future extraction and lobbying for more---but we were. The result: we tell ourselves multiple times per day every day for decades whatever it…

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RIP Edith Eger, Survivor of Auschwitz, Author of The Choice

I rated Eger's book The Choice as one of My favorite books and movies of 2025 as well as my life, comparable to Victor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. I listened to The Choice and I don't remember another book that led me to tears so much. I was outright bawling. I can't recommend it enough. I found her through Philip Zimbardo's work. They were friends and colleagues. She knew Frankl too. She died on April 27. I recommend starting with The Choice, then watching videos of her, of which there are plenty. Her book became an international bestseller. Oprah featured her. She was covered globally. Here are some articles, followed by some quotes from them. Forced to dance for Mengele at Auschwitz, she was…

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May Day / No Kings Garbage.

The other day I posted pictures of the needless garbage Democratic candidates send to my mailbox. They talk sustainability, but look at their action. You can see the pictures in Democrat Garbage: When Democrats Say They Value Sustainability, They Mean When It's Convenient For Themselves (Republicans Probably No Different). Am I unfairly judging them? On the contrary, the conflict is between their values and their actions. I didn't ask for them to send me garbage. I work to stop junk mail being sent to me. I hardly receive any now, but Democrats do it. Holding people accountable to their values helps them. It doesn't hurt them. Their garbage continued to arrive after the election. I put an image of more recent garbage of theirs at…

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What we can learn from jarring images from the Civil War Museum in Harrisburg, PA

I gave a keynote and led a leadership workshop near Harrisburg, PA---a place halfway between where I grew up in Philadelphia and where my dad grew up, in Pittsburgh, so we passed through there many times growing up. I learned that the city hosts a Civil War Museum, so arranged to spend half a day there. I recommend it. A few items affected me beyond what I would have expected. Scroll down and you'll see the leg irons, collar with spikes, and whip with spiky metal spurs (the card implied that it wasn't known if this particular whip was actually used, but even if not, just that someone made it says a lot). First a few words. I'm not sure the pictures will hit you…

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Colonized doesn’t mean Indigenous. Being there when colonizers arrived doesn’t mean there first.

Over and over, people refer to societies that were colonized as indigenous. For example, I see nearly all Native American groups referred to as indigenous. Here's a dictionary definition of indigenous, which covers the meaning here. indigenous adjective in·​dig·​e·​nous 1 a : produced, growing, living, or occurring natively or naturally in a particular region or environment b usually Indigenous : of, relating to, or descended from the earliest known inhabitants of a place and especially of a place that was colonized Here's another: "Being a member of the original inhabitants of a particular place." Consider Manhattan, where I live. Humans have lived here for five or ten thousand years. Europeans arrived ten percent of that time ago. If someone calls the people who lived on…

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Every group claims Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Douglass. Every group says the other produced Calhoun and eugenics.
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Every group claims Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Douglass. Every group says the other produced Calhoun and eugenics.

The more I learn from different traditions, the more I find each group claims that their intellectual and cultural forebears are the people everyone likes and says the others descend from the ones everyone dislikes. I grew up in liberal, progressive households and schools. I learned that people who worked for liberty and freedom, and who fought against slavery and tyranny were the ones our traditions descended from. I learned that conservatives and libertarians just wanted profit. They would sacrifice the things we valued, like liberty and freedom, in favor of helping themselves. Hence, they were responsible for slavery and laissez-faire practices that caused hunger and poverty. I didn't learn to see the world from their perspectives. When I started to, in recent decades, I…

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What’s with toothpaste globs in sinks and pointless hot water use?

Living in New York City means eventually many people will pass through my neighborhood so I host people for visits in my home a fair amount. Though I spend most of my time here and visitors average maybe a few hours a week, I think they cause more pollution and depletion in my apartment than I do. One big reason is that they use hot water for everything and heating water uses more energy than many things. How do I know? My faucet knobs are always to the right because I use only unheated water to cook, drink, brush my teeth with, and so on, but whenever someone visits, I find the knobs in the middle or hot end. Why does everyone---everyone---use warm or hot…

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Reader responses from “Help restore my shaken confidence in people from Christmas Eve day”

On December 25, 2025, I wrote a post Help restore my shaken confidence in people from Christmas Eve day that recounted a troubling experience I had delivering food to a community fridge. I wrote about how after spending a lot of time and energy on a holiday, a group of people showed tons of aggression and zero gratitude pushing everyone out of the way to get all the food they could for themselves. In the US in 2025, it felt risky to specify that they were elderly Chinese women, but they were. People there who weren't elderly Chinese women didn't get a chance. They were pushed out. One had a tug of war with me over food I didn't intend to distribute. She grabbed it…

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More on Eric Williams’s “Slavery was not born of racism: rather, racism was the consequence of slavery”

I found a piece that expanded on something I wrote in Sustainability Simplified about how racism developed. Since I found that we needed to change culture to restore sustainability, I've been learning about abolitionism and related issues, since abolitionism is an example of humans changing global culture where no one thought it possible, then it happened, started by a small number of visionary people. In my book, I wrote: Oxford-educated Trinidadian historian Eric Williams wrote, “A racial twist has thereby been given to what is basically an economic phenomenon. Slavery was not born of racism: rather, racism was the consequence of slavery.” Recently, historian Ibram X. Kendi agreed. He wrote, “I had been taught that racist ideas cause racist policies. That ignorance and hate cause…

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Did Paul Ehrlich Help or Hurt His Cause?

Paul Ehrlich died two weeks ago. I read The Population Bomb a while ago and heard him speak in many interviews. I recently listened again to a few recordings of his and read a few articles of him. In each he was speaking to people who liked him and agreed with him so he spoke freely. In each he called people who disagreed with him "idiots" or something like "people who can't count to twenty without taking their shoes off." He wasn't perfect. Nobody is, but though he acknowledged he was wrong on some points, he didn't take responsibility for mistakes. He just said that he would be right in the long run. He didn't acknowledge that he didn't take huge factors that would affect…

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Are we pseudoscientists?

It's difficult to empathize with people we disagree with. It's difficult to look at the world as if you knew only what they knew and nothing of what you know that they didn't. Many people seem unable to distinguish understanding and empathizing with someone from agree with or supporting them. I think part of our inhibition comes from fearing that we'll find that we would have felt and done things we consider abhorrent. Psychological research shows most of us can be induced to act in violation of our values. I think many of us fear acknowledging what we would have done had we been born with white skin in the South before the Civil War or in Germany as a German to come of age…

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The United States situation regarding pollution and depletion
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The United States situation regarding pollution and depletion

We are living in the wake of the corruption of otherwise great people, in particular George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, and James Madison, as well as their peers. They risked their lives to promote liberty, freedom, equality, democracy, and national security. They claimed those values were universal but defended them for themselves and their peers only. Their corruption was not to extend them to their slaves. The legacy of their corruption follows a direct line to John C. Calhoun and Jefferson Davis, then to Margaret Sanger, Henry Ford, and Ford's dear friend Adolph Hitler, through to today's persistent, enduring racism and greatest risks to national and global security. Still, I don't blame them. They didn't ask to be born into a slave culture. They couldn't help…

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Does every group think they’re the best?

I've meant to start compiling this list for a while. People often equate racism with white supremacy. Even if they say they aren't the same, many people consider all white people as privileged, whether they want to be or not, and all people of color as being oppressed, at least to some degree. They consider that white people may face challenges, but not because of their skin color, whereas people with skin that isn't white face headwinds and start behind the starting line. My book explores how these beliefs and the practices that prompted them, as well as the conditions that prompted the practices in more depth. In particular, I explore beyond what historians and anthropologists who just look at the past few centuries or…

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Why don’t the left and right look at themselves the way the other does? Or do they, but I can’t find it?

We've all heard how since the left and right get their news from different sources and those sources present different facts, it's as if two parts of the nation live in different realities. If so, how can they agree on points based on different facts? A related issue I don't think I've seen treated stems from each group evaluating themselves and the others based on different criteria. The left judges the right based on its criteria, not the right's, so it sees the right as failing, wrong, or bad. It also judges itself by its criteria and finds itself as succeeding as best it can, right, and good. Meanwhile, the right does it the other way. It judges the right based on its criteria, not…

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Did Thomas Jefferson start scientific racism?
Thomas Jefferson

Did Thomas Jefferson start scientific racism?

I was watching a dialog on Slavery and the Constitutional Convention hosted by the US National Archives (see the video below). Thomas Jefferson My upcoming book focuses on many relevant things, especially how culture induces people to act against their values, then to create beliefs to rationalize and justify the behavior violating their own values. Thomas Jefferson represents one of the most prominent cases of someone who promoted liberty, freedom, equality, and democracy to the point of risking his life for these values for himself and his peers. He didn't extend them to his slaves. A renowned and accomplished historian and lawyer, Paul Finkelman (bio below) said the following, which I found interesting and relevant. Most of us have been induced to violate our values…

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Meditation thoughts: What is meditation?

I lead a meditation group that meets in person a couple times a month. We've found we can get a laugh if we talk in the group about talking about meditation to others who don't meditate by saying, "I can't meditate. My mind is too crazy to empty it of thoughts," or words to that effect. Why does it make us laugh? Because it's like a knee-jerk reaction that betrays a misunderstanding of meditation closer to its opposite. Everyone's mind is full of thoughts we can't help. Meditation doesn't empty your mind. Meditation can do many different things for different people, but a common goal is to find comfort with the eternal state of all human minds: scattered like yours. We know that what they…

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The Atlantic Magazine ads

I read stories on The Atlantic's website sometimes, but rarely read the physical magazine. I found a copy in my building's mailing room's recycling bin. I guess a neighbor with a subscription didn't feel like reading this month's issue. Here's the issue in particular online. The articles tended to be intellectual, left-leaning or full anti-Trump, but largely portraying either victimhood or implying solidarity with or support for the downtrodden. The back had an ad for Rolex. Inside I noticed a few ads promoting flying to self-indulgent or elite things, like programs for college-bound kids to pad their transcripts and travel agencies offering luxury vacations. Ads tell you about readers since advertisers don't want to waste their money. The magazine felt aspirational, for rich people whose…

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Help restore my shaken confidence in people from Christmas Eve day

Regular readers know I volunteer once or twice a week to deliver food from stores that were going to throw it away to community fridges, shelters, and other places for people to get it for free. I wasn't scheduled to volunteer yesterday (Christmas Eve day), but the person who was reported so much overstock that we needed three people to clear it all. Not many other volunteers were around so I was one of them. Here's the load I picked up: So far so good. For better or worse, the usual place I deliver to had this sign on its door: Darn! Now I had to find a place to donate around 3pm on Christmas Eve day, pulling a big load of food. You can't…

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Democracy, wedge issues, and calm

People's language and emotions get intense around wedge issues like abortion, gun rights, and tax levels. One side says the other wants to control women's bodies, the other says the one wants to kill babies. Such characterizations, mischaracterizations, and seeing the other from your view not theirs makes finding common ground nearly impossible. I call this pattern the worst problem in the world. Yet we have to live together. Secession didn't work so well in 1861. That's at the national level. At the individual level, if we can't talk calmly to our neighbors or think calmly, we can't become calm in the rest of life. Being angry all the time, or being stuck in emotions in that direction, doesn't make for a fulfilling life. My…

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An important perspective to understand the Israel-Gaza conflict

Everyone seems to pick sides. Everyone who expresses an opinion seems to support one or the other but not both. I probably missed something or offended someone in what I write below. If so, I don't mind being told my mistakes so I can learn. There are plenty of ways to look at the situation, and you may have heard more than I have, but I hear people describing the two sides as two cultures with different values and goals that are clashing violently. It seems to me that both sides show different faces of the same culture, which we are in too: a global culture of living unsustainably that drives each community to exhaust its resources and require it to seek those resources elsewhere.…

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Library strollers and nannies. Why are nannies almost only female? Where is the call for equal employment for male nannies?

Longtime readers may know that when I lived for a year in Paris in 1990-91, I was an au pair. I lived with a family and took care of their young daughter. It was a wonderful opportunity for all. I don't know if you can tell from the pictures below, but my neighborhood library is a popular place for young kids in strollers, taken there by adults. As far as I can tell, all the adults are not the parents of the kids. I think they are all nannies. I haven't met any of them, but they are all women. I don't know about you, but my world is filled with calls for equality in professions that are segregated by sex. A big call is…

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