Category Archives: Nonjudgment

Parents just don’t understand

on May 13, 2026 in Nonjudgment, PollutionAndDepletion, Relationships

George Washington, Andrew Jackson, and Jesus Christ didn’t have kids, but JD Vance said about “people without children,” that “How does it make any sense that we’ve turned our country over to people who don’t really have a direct stake in it?” I guess Vance isn’t a fan of Washington or Christ, though he was referring at the time to Kamala Harris, Pete Buttigieg, and AOC as leaders of the[…] Keep reading →

Wounded warriors, by Clint Eastwood, and us

on May 12, 2026 in Addiction, Art, Nonjudgment, PollutionAndDepletion

Yesterday I posted a passage from Steven Pressfield’s new book The Arcadian about how being induced to act against our values—being corrupted from our values—affects us, in Wounded Warriors, by Steven Pressfield, and Ourselves. Yesterday I quoted a scene from Steven’s book where three warriors share the effects on their minds of their heroism. It began with what happened to their bodies, which seems the visible counterpart of what happens[…] Keep reading →

Wounded Warriors, by Steven Pressfield, and Ourselves

on May 11, 2026 in Art, Nonjudgment, PollutionAndDepletion

I finished The Arcadian by podcast guest Steven Pressfield yesterday. I found the whole book gripping, but one passage stood out as relevant to my work and upcoming book. A big part of my upcoming book is what happens to us when we are induced to act against our values—that is, when we are corrupted from our values. We didn’t ask to be born into a culture that makes it[…] Keep reading →

RIP Edith Eger, Survivor of Auschwitz, Author of The Choice

on May 9, 2026 in Nonjudgment

I rated Eger’s book The Choice as one of My favorite books and movies of 2025 as well as my life, comparable to Victor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. I listened to The Choice and I don’t remember another book that led me to tears so much. I was outright bawling. I can’t recommend it enough. I found her through Philip Zimbardo’s work. They were friends and colleagues. She knew[…] Keep reading →

May Day / No Kings Garbage.

on May 2, 2026 in Nonjudgment, PollutionAndDepletion, Visualization

The other day I posted pictures of the needless garbage Democratic candidates send to my mailbox. They talk sustainability, but look at their action. You can see the pictures in Democrat Garbage: When Democrats Say They Value Sustainability, They Mean When It’s Convenient For Themselves (Republicans Probably No Different). Am I unfairly judging them? On the contrary, the conflict is between their values and their actions. I didn’t ask for[…] Keep reading →

What we can learn from jarring images from the Civil War Museum in Harrisburg, PA

on April 17, 2026 in Awareness, Freedom, Nonjudgment, Visualization

I gave a keynote and led a leadership workshop near Harrisburg, PA—a place halfway between where I grew up in Philadelphia and where my dad grew up, in Pittsburgh, so we passed through there many times growing up. I learned that the city hosts a Civil War Museum, so arranged to spend half a day there. I recommend it. A few items affected me beyond what I would have expected.[…] Keep reading →

Colonized doesn’t mean Indigenous. Being there when colonizers arrived doesn’t mean there first.

on April 8, 2026 in Freedom, Nonjudgment

Over and over, people refer to societies that were colonized as indigenous. For example, I see nearly all Native American groups referred to as indigenous. Here’s a dictionary definition of indigenous, which covers the meaning here. indigenous adjective in·​dig·​e·​nous 1 a : produced, growing, living, or occurring natively or naturally in a particular region or environment b usually Indigenous : of, relating to, or descended from the earliest known inhabitants[…] Keep reading →

Every group claims Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Douglass. Every group says the other produced Calhoun and eugenics.

on April 4, 2026 in Freedom, Models, Nonjudgment, Perception

The more I learn from different traditions, the more I find each group claims that their intellectual and cultural forebears are the people everyone likes and says the others descend from the ones everyone dislikes. I grew up in liberal, progressive households and schools. I learned that people who worked for liberty and freedom, and who fought against slavery and tyranny were the ones our traditions descended from. I learned[…] Keep reading →

What’s with toothpaste globs in sinks and pointless hot water use?

on April 3, 2026 in Habits, HandsOnPracticalExperience, Nonjudgment, PollutionAndDepletion

Living in New York City means eventually many people will pass through my neighborhood so I host people for visits in my home a fair amount. Though I spend most of my time here and visitors average maybe a few hours a week, I think they cause more pollution and depletion in my apartment than I do. One big reason is that they use hot water for everything and heating[…] Keep reading →

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