Choosing/Decision-Making


Most people don’t realize how much stupid stuff they do every day that they consider critical

The title says it all, but it bears repeating: "Most people don't realize how much stupid stuff they do every day that they consider critical" I've been meaning to write this post for a while. People constantly say how busy they are, often as an excuse not to do something meaningful. As best I can tell, most people today don't know their values enough to know how to choose to act on their values and create meaning in their lives over acting in ways to entertain them and deliver short-term reward but nothing or less-than-nothing in the long term. Coaching clients and workshop participants find that the exercises bring them more free time and save them money, even though those results aren't the main goal.…

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How are government incentives for larger families not socialist, New Deal-type programs?

I keep thinking more about what I covered last month in my post Heritage Foundation promoting socialism, as usual. Charlie Kirk did too. Many factors go into how many children people have. One of them is finance: can someone afford to raise kids. I think a lot of people think it's not fair that it should be harder for people with less money to have kids. Oddly, people also react to me when I say that polluting and depleting save money and time that not having kids, somehow I can't know what it's like. But I grew up expecting to have kids. Financial considerations factor heavily in my choice not to have kids so far. These people never offer me consolation or empathy for what…

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Did Paul Ehrlich Help or Hurt His Cause?

Paul Ehrlich died two weeks ago. I read The Population Bomb a while ago and heard him speak in many interviews. I recently listened again to a few recordings of his and read a few articles of him. In each he was speaking to people who liked him and agreed with him so he spoke freely. In each he called people who disagreed with him "idiots" or something like "people who can't count to twenty without taking their shoes off." He wasn't perfect. Nobody is, but though he acknowledged he was wrong on some points, he didn't take responsibility for mistakes. He just said that he would be right in the long run. He didn't acknowledge that he didn't take huge factors that would affect…

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Would you have acted in the gravest historical times?

People consistently say they don't do what they believe is right regarding pollution and depletion because it won't change the system. I point out that independent of what anyone else does, their personal pollution and depletion will hurt people who have not consented. They rarely even minimally decrease their pollution and depletion. I'm curious what people think they would have done under slavery, the Holocaust, Stalinism, or other dominance hierarchy. If you found yourself magically transported to being in the group that owned slaves in a slave culture---say to become a plantation owner in the US South---would you have freed your slaves even if you knew that nobody else would and your actions wouldn't change the system, but you would reduce the suffering of the…

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TYMCALM: Common and Advanced Legitimizing Myths around polluting and depleting

This post shares a long series of legitimizing myths. Why cover these beliefs so comprehensively? Recall the response of a wise person who was asked, “If you had one hour to save the world, how would you spend it?” The reply: "I would spend 55 minutes defining the problem and 5 minutes solving it.” Another wise person said, “If I had 4 hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend the first 3 hours sharpening the ax.” This post is about understanding the problem and sharpening the ax. If you've thought any of the following, the thoughts may have felt personal, but they likely resulted from your having been induced to act against your values—that is, from being corrupted. You don't have to create legitimizing…

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That’s Your Mind Creating A Legitimizing Myth (TYMCALM)

I may update the acronym, but I've created one for my upcoming book that I've found relevant to many people's views on pollution, depletion, and the prospect of life and culture without either. I've found useful the acronym TYMCALM (pronounced: Tim-calm, for “That's Your Mind Creating A Legitimizing Myth”) useful for when people respond reflexively to rationalize or justify a behavior that violates their values. For example, when I say that I haven't flown since 2016, people often respond that I must not have family flying-distance away, or (outrageously) that I must not love them, or that must not have had to fly for my income. Now I think, “TYMCALM.” I don't begrudge them for their minds working the way human minds work. That the…

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Silly bathroom question: Am I missing something here?

I think I usually write about important topics, but I like to share silly things my mind ponders. I think it builds self-awareness. I don't know how the following situation will seem to a reader, but I hope it reads as it feels to me playing with ideas: being curious. I brush my teeth after dinner, before going to bed. Sometimes after dinner I also need to poop. I figure this situation is common to all. When I have to do both, I brush my teeth first and poop second. I figure the order makes sense to all, but basically, brushing teeth seems cleaner so should happen first. When I think about it, though, after pooping, I wash my hands, so they are cleanest then.…

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On open email on Scott Galloway’s “Resist and Unsubscribe” initiative

A friend of mine who is also friends with Scott Galloway emailed me about Galloway's initiative to influence politics by changing consumer behavior. The initiative aims to lead people to stop doing business with companies that influence politics he and his followers disagree with. Context Galloway calls it "Resist and Unsubscribe." Our mutual friend's email included screen shots of his cancelling his accounts with Amazon, X, and ChatGPT. He included his strongly-worded statements for why: their support for actions he despised. Years ago, I spoke to this mutual friend about reducing support for pollution and depletion. He flies a lot. He responded that flying only contributes a few percent to global carbon emissions. I left it there, since I felt like I was in Monticello…

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There will always be something just beyond our grasp we crave. Or we can learn to stop craving.

Artificial intelligence is just the latest instance of a technology that, by polluting and depleting, deprive people of life, liberty, and property without due process of law. People think of the perks it might bring them despite violating the Constitution. So they convince themselves that it will actually benefit those it hurts. They can't say exactly how, but they think if we just use more of it, it will somehow harm less than if we use less of it or not use it. I'm a fan of technology and innovation. I'm a bigger fan of liberty, freedom, equality, and democracy, which I don't see working if we don't enforce the Constitution. If we have to choose between a technology that violates the Constitution and honoring…

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Where the problems with social media come from and the big result, part 1

I've meant to start developing a view for a while but I keep not starting because I haven't fully developed it. I'm going to bite the bullet and write a few ideas down, not yet complete and coherent. Sorry if it ends up confusing. When the internet was starting to become mainstream, say the 1990s, people looked forward to it democratizing communication compared to the press and broadcast since anyone could communicate to anyone else. Yet today social media creates many problems. Two of the top ones are (again, speaking loosely as I'm developing my thoughts) Cancel mobs Algorithms determining what messages to propagate determine culture These problems seem tyrannical. How did what seemed moving toward democracy became that way? Dominance hierarchies form when there…

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What I wonder when people ask how I get by

People ask me all the time things like "how do you get by without flying?", "How do you get by without a contract with the power company?", and "how do you get by producing so little trash?" I know they're thinking about material things and mainstream values of acquiring more stuff even at the expense of relationships so from their perspective I'm depriving myself and sacrificing. From my perspective, I'm avoiding hurting people. I'm living by the US Constitution, which says that no person shall be deprived of life, liberty, or property without due process of law even though the US government isn't enforcing it. Pollution and depletion deprive people of life, liberty, and property without due process of law. The government gains revenue and…

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A sidcha and self-awareness update

Doing things consistently and daily for a long time enables you to notice nuances, which increases self-awareness. Since I have a six-day exercise cycle that I begin on the first of each month, in months with 31 days, I like to vary what I do with the extra day. In December I did two things. Sorry for the long post, but what I describe below felt like a meaningful experience of aging, contemplation, risk, and humility. Longer meditation Some background on one: I've meditated daily for about five years and counting. Normally I set my timer for 31 minutes and sit for that long. Why 31 and not a rounder number? No special reason. I worked up from shorter times and ended up there. A…

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Having the number of kids you want is freedom. People, especially government, telling you otherwise is usually coercion.

The news keeps covering that population is growing less fast than before. Note that it is still increasing, just the rate of increase is slowing. They overwhelmingly treat it as a problem. They say so because they use economic models built to show population growth always helps, which is wrong. Their models saying something is a problem wouldn't necessarily mean it was a problem even if their models weren't wrong. In any case, how is people having the number of children they want a problem? Isn't people choosing how they live freedom? By the same token, isn't trying to get people to have more children coercion? In my post Are more people always better? I showed the medals of all the nations I could find…

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Why I work on sustainability leadership here and now despite other things I could do instead

You've probably heard the advice not to compare things to the Holocaust or slavery. I have. It says that however bad you think your thing is, it's not as bad and you just end up looking ignorant. [EDIT November 16: Immediately after posting this post, I started updating and editing the graphs, explanations, and more. The changes were too big to just update this post. I'll keep it here for reference and post new versions, but consider it a rough draft. Here is a later version, in two parts: The Scale and Pollution and Depletion’s Effects on People: Here, now, not future projections The Timeline for Pollution and Depletion’s Effects on People ] I've written before about the difference in levels of suffering and death…

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Tik Tok and Instagram or hands-on practical experience?

Two things I haven't kept track of but happen over and over: People saying, "Your material is great! You should promote it more on Tik Tok, Instagram, etc to make it available to more people." Me saying, "Leadership requires credibility and integrity, which require hands-on practical experience." Sure, I could go for the quick clicks as the guy off the grid in Manhattan. I could probably get a million followers, but to change global culture, continuing the legacy of Abraham Lincoln, requires a solid, deep foundation. I'm getting closer to launch all the time, but not there yet. The reason my material has value and meaning and that there is so much of it is that I'm not going for the quick clicks, which would…

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Passing fancies and shiny objects sap life of meaning, if you don’t know your values and how to live them

I said the following words today and realized I had to post them here: Chasing shiny objects means you're running away from what you value. For background, I describe passing fancies in my book Initiative: Passing fancies are things we enjoy in the moment but don’t bring long-term emotional reward. Since everyone’s values differ, your passing fancies will differ from mine. Our world is full of passing fancies like social media, fun classes, action movies, and some friendships. Our culture bombards us with more. From grade school through commencement, mainstream education spreads us thin with classes, extracurriculars, double majors, triple minors, sports, after-school jobs, and so on—too thin to go into depth with any of them. Most jobs continue the pattern. Rarely do you act…

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Their motivation to make doof: to drive your emotional system to buy more

I was thinking about the people who manufacture addictive things like doof. If you believe that someone choosing to buy something means they valued what they bought more than what they paid for it, then you think that the more they buy, the more they've improved their lives. Then the more addictive you make the product, the more you sell. You can tell yourself that your profit means their life improvement. The way it looks to me is that science has figured out how to control the human emotional system more effectively than the person with that system, at least in some cases. They've learned to use short-term motivation to override long-term reward and ability to regulate oneself. Then it's a stretch to say that…

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Two personal bests in a week: Freedom.

When I started doing Turkish Get Ups, I struggled with a 25-pound kettle bell. Over the years, I worked up to where I comfortably do them with a 28-kilogram one, which is 61.6 pounds. My next heavier kettle bell is 70 pounds, which is a big jump. I wondered if I would ever be able to do it. I dented my floor when I lost control of a kettle bell and I once injured a rib that way, so I respect the exercise's potential for injury, or rather, the need for safety and form. Personal Best #2 Today I did my first 70 pound Turkish Get Up, one on each side. For those who don't know what they are, here are many posts. In a…

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The necessity of the APPLE PIE Amendment

For those who haven't read Sustainability Simplified, one of the main things it builds to is something that I thought crazy when I first thought it. The idea is a constitutional amendment in the style of the thirteenth, but instead of banning slavery, two main clauses, both traditional, both Enlightendigenous. One protects life, liberty, and property when the threat to them came through the environment. The other disallowing making property out of nature unless you leave enough as good in common for others, quoting John Locke. I call it an APPLE PIE Amendment for reasons you have to read the book for. The more I thought about it, the less crazy it felt, no more than the thirteenth must have before its passage. Now I'm…

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A simple way to view the choice to live sustainably: Think of others more than yourself

People tell me how hard it looks to them to live sustainably. I recently wrote about people thinking it's hard: First they say it’s impossible, then easy, then easy for me but hard for them. Anything but acting or responsibility. Almost always, they talk about themselves: "Me, me, me. It's hard for me. I don't want to give up doing what I like." They never talk about the people that their actions necessarily hurt. They know the plastic, pollution, etc hurt others, but they only talk about themselves and what they want or feel entitled to. They don't say they feel entitled to whatever perk they get for being at the top of a dominance hierarchy. They just act entitled. How they can think about…

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Do conservatives oppose the practices of seeking diversity, equity, and inclusion or just those practices being mandated?

I understand that liberals/progressives support DEI programs and that conservatives attack them, but I haven't followed this culture war that closely. I think the battle affected the presidential election. I hope I don't make myself look too ignorant about an important issue, but it seems that there is a distinction between what is being attacked and what conservatives actually object to. I wonder if conservatives value practicing these things, though they may define them differently than liberals and progressives. Could it be that they just don't like making the programs mandatory? Speaking only for myself, I don't like being coerced, but I value diverse opinions and backgrounds, treating people equally when I can and being treated equally, and to include people. I think anyone who…

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Replacing “comfort and convenience” with “the perks of being at the top of a dominance hierarchy” or “the perks of being a tyrant”

Word choice matters. Why speak if you don't want to be understood? It's not their responsibility for me to be understood, even if I get mad at them for not understanding me. I recently wrote how I was Replacing "sustainability" with "not hurting people" and "polluting" with "hurting people" since "sustainability" is too abstract in many cases, as is the "environment." I'm not trying to help some abstract environment. I'm trying to help people and to alleviate their suffering. (I followed up with the post Corollaries to my recent post: Replacing “sustainability” with “not hurting people” and “polluting” with “hurting people”.) I'm experimenting with another change of word choice. People talk about comfort and convenience and juxtapose these things with struggle and challenge. We treat…

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Helping the poor whom unsustainability hurts is nice and essential but by definition isn’t solving the problem

You've heard "the people most affected by our environmental problems are causing it the least, and those causing it the most are the least affected by it." It sounds unfair. People who say that sentiment seem then to suggest we should help those hurt the most---the disadvantaged. They sure do try to explain to me that if I don't focus on them, I'm out of touch. No one wants to help them more than I do, but look at the statement. If the people affected most aren't causing the problems, focusing on them means not solving the problem. You might feel good for helping helpless people, but you aren't solving the problem. To solve the problem, you have to change the people causing it. I…

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Inspiring words of resolution from great historical figures to fight coercion and tyranny

It's nice to know about problems and people seem to like complaining about them, but these reactions don't compare with solving them. Acting takes resolution. Gandhi wasn't just thrown off a train. He resolved to fight the injustice. Some historical heroes who transformed cultures wrote their experiences of such moments of resolution. We can learn from them. I find their words inspirational. Robert Carter III Robert Carter III freed his slaves when his neighbors Thomas Jefferson, George Washington, and James Madison didn't, showing that they could have. He wrote in his Deed of Gift (1791)---the document which implemented this freedom: "I have for some time past been convinced that to retain them in Slavery is contrary to the true Principles of Religion and Justice, and…

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The emotional struggles of living by your values when society opposes them: Janae Marie Kroczaleski, part 1

Almost ten years ago in this blog I wrote about an experience of art expressing something I didn't know could be expressed. Ingmar Bergman's Fanny and Alexander captured an emotion I felt with my father and no one else. That emotion hit me hard. It was powerful. It influenced big decisions in my life, especially to learn and teach the social and emotional skills of leadership. I just experienced a similar effect, this time with my relationship with my mom in the movie Transformer, which I wrote about last week. Whereas Fanny and Alexander evoked my childhood relationship with my dad, Transformer evoked my present relationship with my mother. I show the clip below of the scene with the main character and the mother. First…

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