Category Archives: Relationships

Some of the most thrilling words I’ve read in literature

on January 8, 2026 in Art, Relationships, Stories

The library near me displays books, changing them every day or week or so. Today they had Roots by Alex Haley. I read the book in college, I think in my first year, which would mean 1988-89. It wasn’t for class and it’s a long book so I don’t know how I found time for it. I don’t remember much of it, but there are a few words in it[…] Keep reading →

What Makes Things Meaningful in Life

on January 5, 2026 in Awareness, Models, Relationships

Do you like for experiences in life to have meaning? What makes an event or experience meaningful? It’s tempting to say it’s difficult to define. The dictionary defines meaningful as “Having meaning, function, or purpose” and meaning as “significant quality, especially: implication of a hidden or special significance.” Those definitions seem vague to me. They just substitute the word quality for meaning. They don’t suggest how to make something more[…] Keep reading →

If you want to travel, the opposite of what you should do is to fly

on January 1, 2026 in Relationships, Tips

The more I see flying from the outside, the more I see it as the opposite of travel, or of achieving what people want in travel. First, if you walk somewhere, or bike or even ride a horse or sail a boat, you are traveling. That is, you are actively causing yourself to move from one place to another. When you get in a vehicle like a plane, train, or[…] Keep reading →

Family, flying, and Facebook-like visits

on December 23, 2025 in Relationships

People are talking about flying to visit family these days. There’s a running joke about the weird uncle or someone who is hard to get along with. I hope you’re having a better time with family than the people I hear about, and they’re not the people I work with who are living more sustainably. I’m talking about mainstream people talking about their usual holiday plans. Before flying, we used[…] Keep reading →

Democracy, wedge issues, and calm

on December 5, 2025 in Leadership, Nonjudgment, Relationships

People’s language and emotions get intense around wedge issues like abortion, gun rights, and tax levels. One side says the other wants to control women’s bodies, the other says the one wants to kill babies. Such characterizations, mischaracterizations, and seeing the other from your view not theirs makes finding common ground nearly impossible. I call this pattern the worst problem in the world. Yet we have to live together. Secession[…] Keep reading →

My short conversation with a guy injecting heroin into his neck in broad daylight, steps from my front door

on November 20, 2025 in Addiction, Relationships, Stories

I walked past this fire truck the other day. It was bright daylight, not nighttime, like when I took this picture. I saw a guy standing about where the “18” is on the truck’s bumper, facing toward the truck, doing something with some stuff on the bumper, keeping it hidden, looking at himself in the reflection on the chrome on the grill. He was focused on what he was doing[…] Keep reading →

The average American spends 5 hours per day on social media but claims not to have time to cook. Yeah, right.

on November 12, 2025 in Addiction, Relationships

The title says it all. Anyone who spends more than an hour a day on Instagram or Facebook is lying to themselves and others if they claim they don’t have time to cook. It’s the addiction speaking. Claims you’re spending time with family are lies too. I’ll be happy if you correct me if I’m wrong, but history, anthropology, and personal experience tell me that f your children are older[…] Keep reading →

The paradox of homelessness and dependence nobody seems to see

on September 18, 2025 in Freedom, Relationships

Why are some people homeless? Why does the problem persist throughout time and across cultures? Learning about dominance hierarchies as systems helps see patterns beyond just what the eye sees. Take, for example, the observation that some cities in the US have greater homeless populations than others. People are quick to assign causality to correlation. To understand helplessness and homelessness, it helps to understand freedom. If freedom is ability to[…] Keep reading →

Which person has more love in their life?

on July 18, 2025 in HandsOnPracticalExperience, Relationships

Two people are walking down the street. There’s litter on the ground. One picks up some of the litter. The other doesn’t. Which person has more love in their life?

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