Perception


A new insight on beliefs

In Leadership Step by Step, I give several exercises on how to influence how you perceive the world. I recently found a simpler way of describing them. We all know that our beliefs influence our perception. If you believe a person approaching you is friendly, you perceive them differently than if you believe they intend to hurt you. Many people don't know that they can choose their beliefs, even people who work on mindfulness. I participate in a meditation group that includes people who have meditated regularly for decades. They generally know that if they feel an emotion or thought that they don't like then if they observe it, it will pass. This skill helps calm one's life. It makes you less reactive. I work…

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Every group claims Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Douglass. Every group says the other produced Calhoun and eugenics.
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Every group claims Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Douglass. Every group says the other produced Calhoun and eugenics.

The more I learn from different traditions, the more I find each group claims that their intellectual and cultural forebears are the people everyone likes and says the others descend from the ones everyone dislikes. I grew up in liberal, progressive households and schools. I learned that people who worked for liberty and freedom, and who fought against slavery and tyranny were the ones our traditions descended from. I learned that conservatives and libertarians just wanted profit. They would sacrifice the things we valued, like liberty and freedom, in favor of helping themselves. Hence, they were responsible for slavery and laissez-faire practices that caused hunger and poverty. I didn't learn to see the world from their perspectives. When I started to, in recent decades, I…

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A sidcha and self-awareness update

Doing things consistently and daily for a long time enables you to notice nuances, which increases self-awareness. Since I have a six-day exercise cycle that I begin on the first of each month, in months with 31 days, I like to vary what I do with the extra day. In December I did two things. Sorry for the long post, but what I describe below felt like a meaningful experience of aging, contemplation, risk, and humility. Longer meditation Some background on one: I've meditated daily for about five years and counting. Normally I set my timer for 31 minutes and sit for that long. Why 31 and not a rounder number? No special reason. I worked up from shorter times and ended up there. A…

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We respond differently when society conflicts with men versus with women

I keep meaning to write a post on the pattern I keep seeing, but for the time being, I'm just going to collect and list examples of it. The pattern isn't perfect and anyone who thinks I'm suggesting it is misunderstands me, but the pattern I see is: When society conflicts with men, we say men have to change or take responsibility. When society conflicts with women, we say society has to change and we all have to take responsibility. I welcome counterexamples. I like to learn when I'm wrong. For now, I don't plan to go out of my way to find examples, just to post them as I find them. Here's the one that prompted me today to start the list: An event:…

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Another summer without air conditioning. What’s the problem?

I thought we'd have another day or two hitting 90 F (32 C), but the forecast for the next ten days shows the highest temperature will be 86 F, so I figure it won't hit 90 again this year. I didn't use air conditioning in my apartment for another summer. A few nights I woke up sweating in the middle of the night. I didn't write the number down, but I think it happened six times, maybe five, maybe seven. Whatever the number and however annoying in the moment, I didn't feel I suffered. I think many Americans consider sleeping in heat and humidity a fate worse than death, or nearly so, when the option to use an air conditioner exists. They know Oscar Schindler…

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The problem with sleeping in summer weather in cities

You'd think the problem with sleeping in summer weather would be the heat and humidity. I wake up sweating several nights per summer and it's annoying. I don't want to touch the sheets and it's hard to fall back asleep. Still, I think of many places that are hotter and more humid than here where people have lived for thousands of years. Also, after a few nights of it, I find I can tolerate the heat and humidity of regular days more after such nights, even though the days are hotter and more humid than the evenings. I think my overall summer misery ends up less that that of someone who sleeps in air conditioning every summer night. Which brings me to the most annoying…

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More fresh juicy local peaches and heirloom tomatoes than I can handle, saved from waste by rich and poor alike

I've eaten ten or twelve juicy ripe peaches and about that number of bowls of heirloom tomato gazpacho in the past two days. I got them from volunteering. I brought food that a store was going to throw away. The store produce isn't as flavorful as the fresh, local produce in season in the height of the summer from farmers markets. Other volunteers bring different things from different places. It all gets distributed to whoever shows up to receive it at Tompkins Square Park in the East Village, generally poor people. I'm not sure how many are homeless, live in shelters with or without kitchens, or just come for free food. Someone else brought the farmers market stuff. Two large plastic bags contained the unsold,…

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I love developing resilience and strength: AI version, part 1

A recent article on artificial intelligence in the New Yorker wrote about how people who are suffering from loneliness are finding help from artificial intelligence. Some people can't help loneliness, not out of character defect but circumstance. It gets the reader thinking about the elderly, for example, who outlive everyone they've been close to, or it describes as worse, if those who remain are senile. Sorry to give away the ending but it suggests that for however it helps people who can't escape, it will create dependence in far more. The article is A.I. Is About to Solve Loneliness. That’s a Problem: The discomfort of loneliness shapes us in ways we don’t recognize—and we may not like what we become without it. by academic psychologist…

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More on “How the liberation of living more sustainably feels”

I have to add to what I wrote last month on How the liberation of living more sustainably feels. In that post, I wrote To describe what living more sustainably feels like, imagine one morning you walk out from your home and step into a puddle, drenching your feet. Imagine further that you’re in such a hurry that you don’t have time to change so you end up wearing wet socks the entire day. Living more sustainably is like taking off wet socks that have been making you miserable all day, the awareness of which you tried to repress but you never did. It’s like that but many times stronger. It feels like freedom and liberation. I left out scope and scale I left out…

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Another sad reminder of our culture as it is: dumping garbage on memorials of our loved ones

I walked past what was once likely a planter bed filled with lovely flowers or maybe a tree. I presume it was something nice because someone installed a plaque that began "In loving memory of." Instead of flowers, a tree, or anything lovely or nice, the bed was filled with garbage. I've passed it before and seen it filled with garbage. It's nice to think that environmental problems haven't hit us yet, since then we'll act. What more sign do you need than that were desecrating our ancestors? Can you imagine what our ancestors from before plastic would have thought of how we honor our loved ones? I can't imagine them finding filling a space dedicated to love and memory of loved ones with garbage.…

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How the liberation of living more sustainably feels

Want to know what living more sustainably feels like? Our culture is so dependent and addicted to things like takeout, cars, and flying that pollution and depletion enable, we forget that using them destroys life, liberty, and property. We don't notice that our government benefits and grows in money and power from licensing and promoting one of its few core responsibilities nearly everyone agrees on. We don't notice that they have corrupted us from our deepest values, such as the Golden Rule, as far as I know found in every culture we've looked at. Living more sustainably brings mental freedom from the internal contradictions of living contrary to our values. Corruption doesn't feel good. I know from experience. I lived in accordance with mainstream culture…

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Gandhi’s Salt March wasn’t about salt or marching, nor is my work about solar or living off-grid.

I can tell people consistently misunderstand what I'm doing from the questions they ask: how long does it take to charge the battery or what do I do for toothbrushes. Or they say it's harder for people with kids. In 1930, Gandhi protested the British monopoly on selling salt. Did he attack them with weapons? No, they were too powerful. He marched to the sea, got some salt from evaporated sea water, sold it, and showed that the British had made illegal something anyone should be able to do freely. Hundreds of thousands participated in the march. Millions of Indians followed him in selling salt, making a mockery of the British law, which deserved mockery, and garnering global attention and support. Gandhi's Salt March was…

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An astronaut I agree with in principle, but who is hurting sustainability, I fear

A reader sent me a link to this video by an astronaut, Ron Garan. He shares how seeing the earth from space changes astronaut's views on life and humanity's relationship with nature. I don't think it achieves the goal he wants. https://youtu.be/pJGCAWTgbn0 People can interpret it differently, but I conclude that he is saying seeing the earth from space offers a special and unique view of life that enables someone who has it to say and do more than others. I see this message hurting sustainability in several ways. (The Spodek Method avoids all the following problems. It connects us with intrinsic emotions and motivations we all have. Instead of suggesting people need to go to space to see humanity's fragility and connect us to…

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When you know someone will (mis)interpret everything you say their way, do you talk to them?

The title says half of it: When you know someone will interpret everything you say their way, do you talk to them? The other half: What if they're your parents? No, I didn't just have a fight with a parent, but I do talk to a lot of people who interpret what I say as best I can tell based on preconceptions of what they expect someone talking about what I talk about to say. For example, if I suggest how for nearly all of human existence our ancestors lived with more equality and freedom than we do, they respond "You want to return to the Stone Age?" If you want, I can list more examples. The pattern reminds me of my parents growing up,…

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Americans are so addicted, they can’t see our unbalanced their “balance” is

Every time someone tells me they balance their behavior regarding the environment, guaranteed the next thing they say will concern only themselves. They want to help the environment but they want to live their life too. They want not to pollute but they can't afford not to fly. They want to eat less meat but they want to stay healthy. For one thing, most of what they say doesn't make sense, like that avoiding meat would be unhealthy. The bigger thing is that the huge issue with pollution is that it affects other other people (and wildlife) without their consent. People talking about balancing their environmental balance never include other people in their considerations. They think balancing their conscience with the bank account while paying…

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How sweet vegetables have become. They used to taste bland.

Vegetables have been blowing me away with their sweetness lately. For years since stopping consuming doof nearly completely, I've been finding fresh produce increasingly delicious. I usually say how I used to consider Ben and Jerry's delicious and apples relatively bland. Now apples taste sweeter than ice cream ever did. In time, more vegetables have come to taste sweeter than fruit used to. I don't think their composition changed. I think that my taste buds grow more sensitive---or rather less saturated---so I'm more sensitive to their sugars. Lately broccoli and cauliflower have come to taste sweet and juicy. A couple months ago I tasted a slice of cucumber and it knocked me speechless. I used to think of cucumbers as bland, like crunchy green water.…

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I’m pointing to a brighter future. They keep looking at my hand.

I finally found how to describe how the New Yorker and other outlets covered me: I'm pointing to a brighter future. They keep looking at my hand. The New Yorker wrote how I have dirt under my fingernails, which you get when you dig deep. I can't blame anyone. It's no one else's responsibility for me to be understood. My book should help change this outcome, where I can clarify and state more comprehensively what I'm trying to communicate. I didn't make up the analogy. I think I heard it from Buddhism. Some quote Gautama as saying "I am a finger pointing to the moon. Don't look at me; look at the moon." Some Buddhist teachers say "The teachings are like a finger pointing to…

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Us from their perspective

We invented washing machines and things like it to remove the need for backbreaking labor every day just to survive. We created vaccines to cure and anesthesia to remove pain. Why would anyone consider reverting to the Stone Age, risk it, or even move in that direction? Moving backward is the last thing we should do. Why give up on what we worked so hard for? Yet cultures remain that resist joining the modern world that we call indigenous. Why don't they get with the program? Some do, but some see our culture with its airplanes, longevity, and cell phones and choose their own, out of knowledge and experience, not ignorance or stupidity. Recording my third podcast episode with Alan Ereira, who has lived among…

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Meditation: Thoughts aren’t just ideas that arise and pass away. Each wants to hook you.

Meditation instructors often talk about thoughts arising and passing away in consciousness, as if they just come out of nowhere and go to nowhere. I've found otherwise. No part of your mind is superfluous. The human brain uses up too much energy for evolution to allow unnecessary parts to persist. Each part does something that helped your ancestors survive and pass their genes on to you. For example, some part of your brain interprets things that could look like faces to be faces, whether you want it to or not. So when face-like things enter your field of vision, that part of the brain puts a face into your consciousness. All parts of your brain, when activated, speak up into your consciousness when prompted that…

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I’d rather see it so I can act than act like I don’t see it.

I was picking up litter with a friend and colleague, describing why I do it, even though most people say it's pointless. Why wouldn't I clean any space I live in? Anyway, when the phrase in the subject came out: "I'd rather see it so I can act than act like I don't see it." we both identified it as catchy and worth writing about. I don't like sweeping problems under the rug.

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Cities aren’t loud, cars are.

I prefer writing my own posts, but some material is so valuable but not what the internet will spread enough, and I post them. The material in question is a series called Not Just Bikes, by a guy born in Canada who moved to Holland, preferred how the Dutch designed their cities, and makes videos describing what they do that works. I love the videos. I probably refer more people to the series than any other. I think of the one below probably most, though I recommend them all. This one is that cities aren't loud, cars are. It's illuminating. In New York, I think of it every day. I hear cars all the time. I didn't realize how much we could do about it,…

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Liberals: get your stories straight, part 1: individual ability and responsibility.

I'll start with a liberal inconsistency relevant to sustainability, not that they monopolize them or are the most egregious, but I have to start somewhere. Mention anything related to my environmental footprint or personal action to many liberals and I'd better prepare for them to lecture me on how BP publicized the concept to deflect blame from them to individuals, or some similar reason why their or my actions don't matter. I think they partly want to show off how smart they are knowing about BP's nefarious plots, or think they are, but mostly I think they want to rationalize that they don't want to sacrifice their creature comforts, like flying, takeout, and such. Their intended message: "You can't change the system through individual action.…

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There is an ‘I’, it’s just not who you think it is.

Life poses two questions people have probably asked for thousands of years that I've seen zero progress in answering from any source: Why does reality exist?What is consciousness? Or, alternatively, why is there a sense of "me" or "I" that seems to exist outside reality? Regarding the first question, I can't imagine any way of finding an answer using the tools within reality. It's weird to ask or even conceive to ask "why is there anything?". But today I want to write about the second question. As far as I can tell, some time in the past, no humans existed and no consciousness existed. Some time farther back, no life existed, so I'm confident believing no consciousness like human consciousness existed. Somehow it came to…

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Sustainability basics almost everyone gets backward, twisting them up inside.

Things I've learned from experience: Apples taste sweeter than Ben and Jerry's, though not at first. Broccoli tastes better than Doritos, though not at first. Exercise feels better than heroin, though not at first. Not flying connects you with family more than flying, though not at first. Eating only local foods in season gives you more variety and connects you to more cuisines than foods flown in from anywhere, though not at first. Not flying teaches you more about other cultures and connects you with them than flying, though not at first. More electric cars pollute more than fewer cars, though not at first. More solar, wind, nuclear, and fusion doesn't mean less fossil fuels burned. Making a polluting system more efficient makes it pollute…

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Euphoria from food

I feel a euphoria when eating fresh fruits and vegetables, in particular my famous no-packaging vegan stews. It's subtle enough to miss if I'm talking to someone or listening to a podcast, but wonderful. I'd pick it over the high from things refined from plants like coca, poppy, etc since I can do it every day my whole life with no unwanted side effects. It gives me plenty of wanted ones, like eating to full every meal and having defined abs, despite congenital conditions that if I eat more calories than I burn or excrete, I put on weight and that I almost can't stop eating until I'm full. I suspect the feeling comes from the slow release of sugar and maybe fat. It would…

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