Perception


Buzzfeed’s privilege “calculator”: How I Did

Maybe you're one of the over four million people who have seen Buzzfeed's video illustrating how society affects us by having people step forward or backward based on their experience: https://youtu.be/hD5f8GuNuGQ I don't know what credence anyone gives the questionnaire, but I copied it from the YouTube page and answered it. Some answers I wasn't sure about, but tried to answer as honestly as I could. My Rating If I calculate right, my answers add to +2 out of a possible range -13 to +22. The average of those numbers is 4.5, so my score is below that average. Does this mean Buzzfeed considers me below average privilege? Or positive privilege? I don't know what the average score of people who have answered the questionnaire,…

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“Bucket list” means craving. You’ll never be satisfied with other places until you’re satisfied where you are.

The travel industry fools most of us into thinking somewhere else is more beautiful than where we are. We live in a world of people sitting on beautiful beaches or other beautiful places, looking at pictures of other beaches thinking that place must be better than here. After all I'm here looking there, so it must be better there. If where you are doesn't look beautiful, worth exploring a lifetime, or lacks novelty, or you think it won't provide insight into the universe, or whatever you look for in a place you visit, I suggest the reason you don't see it is what people have done to it. They paved it over. They covered the natural beauty. If you follow the industry's lead, you risk…

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On sustainability, technology is not the solution. It’s more part of the problem.
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On sustainability, technology is not the solution. It’s more part of the problem.

How many times have you heard people suggest the answer to our environmental problems is more technology? Have you heard of carcinogens or other toxic chemicals coming from places other than our technology? I guess some things like animal venom or naturally occurring heavy metals, but there aren't too many of them. Volcanoes may emit carbon dioxide, but not enough to raise Earth's temperature by a degree per decade. For context, remember I conceived of and wrote multiple patents, founded businesses based on them valued in the tens of millions of dollars, helped build an x-ray observational satellite still orbiting the Earth taking date, and earned a PhD in physics. I think you can only achieve this things by loving technology, understanding it, and understanding…

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The most amazing “You Are Here” map you’ve ever seen

I live in Greenwich Village. Here's an old map of the neighborhood: It's a tall building. From the roof, I can see across the street to a playground for a school between a couple brick buildings: You probably see marked on the ground the two basketball half-courts on the left and the blue track that curves beside them. You'll also see a colorful block pattern inside the track. Let's look a little closer: Since I started this post with a map, you might recognize the blocks are street blocks. It's a map of Greenwich Village. If you don't know the school, you wouldn't know where it fits on the map, but it's in the middle. I'll zoom in more. See the yellow shape in the…

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458: The Spodek Method: How to Lead Someone to Act Joyfully Sustainably

I've taught a half-dozen people the technique I use in this podcast---the hosts of the other branches of the This Sustainable Life podcast. They started calling it The Spodek Method, so now I do too. It's enabled me to reach amazing people, many of global renown, who enjoy the experience. It doesn't alone solve all the world's problems, but it works. The Spodek Method leads a person to share and act on environmental values. You can do it too with communities you'd like to join. You would contribute to a mission of changing culture from seeing stewardship and sustainability as a burden, chore, deprivation, and sacrifice to wanting to do it based on experience, expecting joy, fun, freedom, community, connecting, meaning and value.  Why Learn…

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Pandemic Fatigue? How to Achieve Pandemic Thriving

I posted on handling what people call pandemic fatigue to Thrive Global today: Pandemic Fatigue? How to Achieve Pandemic Thriving. Here's the text of the article: When I learned I would be locked down indefinitely, knowing we were all heading into unknown territory, I looked for role models. Who had handled such a situation successfully? Nelson Mandela had been locked down for twenty-seven years, most of that time on a cold island, breaking rocks, with a bucket for a toilet. He negotiated with presidents of the nation that locked him up and emerged to get their jobs. I could see what was possible under lock down. While he remained imprisoned, the world celebrated his seventieth birthday with a global celebration. Over six hundred million people…

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Why Food Is Not Medicine

I keep reading articles describing food as medicine, describing how vegetables and fruit are especially healthy. Saying so implies vegetables and fruit are abnormal, things you have to go out of your way for, and doof is normal. People can define normal how they want, but to me, fresh fruits and vegetables are normal. From my perspective, food isn't medicine. It's normal, as is health. Doof is poison and abnormal, something we'd have to go out of our way for. In other words, food is medicine like not hitting head against wall is medicine. Doof is like hitting your head against the wall. There's no mystery where your headache comes from if you do it.

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Did you make 2020 your finest hour?

"Our finest hour" never describes a bright sunny morning with the birds singing, however fine such an hour. I associate the phrase with the movie Apollo 13. The flight director said the astronauts' perilous state after an explosion in space on the way to the moon "could be the worst disaster NASA's ever experienced." His peer responded, "With all due respect, sir, I believe this is going to be our finest hour." He helped make it so. Winston Churchill said of the Battle of Britain, "if we fail, then the whole world, including the United States, including all that we have known and cared for, will sink into the abyss of a new dark age made more sinister, and perhaps more protracted, by the lights…

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The cause of our environmental problems, aka “the addiction speaking”

We were born into a world with systems and practices that pollute. I don't see how we can blame past generations for decisions they couldn't have expected to result in our world. Who could have believed when coal first boiled water to steam and that steam created mechanical motion that we could choke the sky with fossil fuel smoke and heat the whole damned planet? Who could have imagined when cars cleared the roads of horse manure that lead in the gasoline powering them would lower your intelligence and mine? Who could have imagined when plastic replaced cruel ivory for making billiard balls that we would fill the whole Pacific Ocean with it, replacing the fish to where they couldn't replace themselves? Yet they did.…

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What do you think, feel, and do when you see an addicted person?

I see more people in my neighborhood, especially my neighborhood park---Washington Square Park---addicted to I don't know what. My whole life, I've never been far from seeing addiction. I don't think I've known anyone uncontrollably addicted. Lately, in my daily picking up litter from the northwest corner of Washington Square Park, regulars there have started conversations with me. Our longest conversation lasted about thirty to forty-five minutes. One guy made a point to point out how many people there are at the end of their lines and that you can't imagine being there without having experienced. I don't know where the relationships will lead, if anywhere. What do you think when you see or talk to someone addicted to, say, heroin or crack? I don't…

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What future generations won’t believe we lacked

Looking back generations, we can't imagine how the lived without some things we take for granted---anesthetics, vaccines, understanding about germs. Can you imagine a tooth cavity meaning pulling it without anesthesia or a cut meaning possible death? I expect people before anesthetics couldn't have imagined something to numb pain as well as modern anesthetics do. I expect they looked back at what generations before them lacked and felt great that they knew they could operate at all, not knowing what anesthetics could do. If they couldn't imagine what hadn't existed yet, they probably didn't lament lacking something they couldn't imagine. What might future generations cringe at our lacking? We have too much material stuff so I doubt material things. I suspect they'll look back at…

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I used to think I lived in the best time and place for food
Do American Restaurants Only Serve Comfort Food?

I used to think I lived in the best time and place for food

Living in Manhattan, I used to think I had access to some of the best tasting food in the world and since a long time, maybe forever. With all the restaurants, chefs, and cuisines, I figured their competition and education must drive them to ever improving quality. The longer I cook at home and shop at farmers markets, the more I find restaurants don't compete on quality of ingredients. What they serve---more doof than food, if they even serve food---derives its main sensory pleasure from salt, sugar, fat, and convenience. They don't showcase the vegetables. On the contrary, they hide them under salty, sweet, or oily sauces. Do American Restaurants Only Serve Comfort Food? The more I buy and cook with fresh ingredients, the more…

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“Do men have emotions?”, she asked.

I gave a book on men and how men experience the world to my girlfriend at the time, maybe five or ten years ago. After reading it, she asked me, "Do men have emotions?" Apparently she thought men didn't have emotions. In fact, she clarified, "I thought men just did things." I'm glad she asked if she didn't know. I was surprised she didn't. For context, she had graduated a top university and was preparing for graduate school, which she has since graduated from. She wasn't holed away in a monastery. You would have seen her as a regular person. The mind reels at what could have created this situation and its ramifications. For what created this situation, what about our educational system and culture…

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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment
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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment

A friend recommended to me an exercise I hadn't heard of. It sounds like the Three Raisins exercise I learned from Jon Kabat-Zinn, included in my leadership book, and assign in my leadership class. She didn't explain much about it, but my experience with experiential exercises told me that doing it would reveal more than any explanation. The exercise The instructions: Drink a hot beverage and when I think judgmental thoughts like, "it's too hot" or "it's too strong", switch to thinking descriptive thoughts. The instructions didn't suggest much to expect, but it didn't look too hard either. I just finished the exercise. What I did Since I drink nearly only water, I didn't know what to drink. I went to the kitchen figuring I'd…

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Science discovering “tastes good” versus “wanting more”

Have you noticed the difference between something tasting good---that you like the sensation---versus wanting more---that it motivates you to eat more, though doesn't always taste good? If the nuance sounds foreign, I've written on it several times. I use it to illustrate the difference between craving and emotional reward. In my experience, the difference seems subtle until you get it. Then it's huge. Emotional reward improves life, craving enables others to control you, among other differences. Here are some of my posts on it: Tastes Good versus Want More, explored in depth "Want to eat more" and "tastes good" aren't the same feeling Examples of "tastes good" versus "want more" Avoid that addictive tug People study this difference. They usually use scientific terms, which I…

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Covid-19: Addiction to flying and other polluting behavior was a lack of motivation and imagination

In two days I begin my fifth year not flying. I estimate talking to about 1,000 people about not flying and that about 998 of them said that not flying would be impossible for them---not difficult or unwanted but impossible. Suddenly they're able not to fly. Their claims of being unable to avoid flying were never a matter of reality, as they described, but a lack of motivation and imagination. To my ears, they sound like addicts who can see the withdrawal they'd experience trying to kick their habit but not the life improvement beyond. If you tell a heroin addict that they will prefer exercise and working for a living to shooting up, I suspect they won't believe you. They'll probably consider you not…

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One way to lower white supremacists’ appeal

Why am I writing so much about white males? Partly because I am one but live in a society that denigrates and silences the group. When I read about people in other groups exploring their accidents of birth---their skin color, sex, sexual preference, geographic origin---society seems to celebrate them. My city hosts parades for many groups. Does anyone wonder how much it would accept a white male parade? I expect the media field day would destroy the careers of anyone seriously proposing it. Would you take it seriously? Would you expect it to fill with white supremacists and neo-Nazis? Would you say white men are already celebrated and don't need a parade? Anyway, my introspection and exploration is secondary. As much as I refuse to…

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The project I assigned myself following up my posts on white men

Yesterday's post Update on automatic thoughts people connect with straight white men culminated with a couple questions I found intriguing: Imagine if your entire life, every time you said you suffered, people said, "actually that's an example of you causing others to suffer."How would that affect your life? and: Imagine every time you said you worked hard at something, people said, "actually that's an example of how easy your life is."How would that affect your life? My recent conversations revealed them. I've started thinking about them. No one I spoke to answered them. As best I can tell, answering them would take empathy, imagining yourself in other people's shoes, and putting yourself in the background. From my perspective, I would value hearing someone speculate on…

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Update on automatic thoughts people connect with straight white men

Last month I asked "What automatic thoughts come to you when you think of straight white men?". I also explored the topic with Psychology Today's Editor-at-Large, Hara Estroff Marano, in an audio recording for a piece there, White Men and Preconceived Notions. A white man Some updates. . . First, context. However obvious, I'll still say that the following is a personal account with all the biases of someone just talking to the people he came across in a month, not trying for a representative sample or to account for biases. My goal was to explore life, not publish in a peer-reviewed journal. Everyone seems to go through stages talking about race. First they seem to shy away from it. Then something changes, I believe…

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Psychology Today: White Men and Preconceived Notions

Psychology Today's Editor at Large, Hara Estroff Marano, and I continue our conversations on challenging topics. Today we continue with white men and preconceived notions of us. We were talking about topics before hitting record, I started to describe the pattern that comes up a few minutes into this recording, she lit up in the way someone who has thought about something and has something to say about it does, so we picked stereotypes of white men. Here's the article. Here's the recording: https://youtu.be/HKjrnnOd-jc I think we both thought, "I hope we don't get fired," but also felt, "how can we learn if we don't speak?", so we bit the bullet and recorded. I haven't heard a conversation like it before. The number of threads…

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What automatic thoughts come to you when you think of straight white men?

Comedians joke about stereotypes. People laugh when the jokes resonate with something in their heads. Everyone is unique, but as far as I can tell, many of thoughts of groups' stereotypes come to mind automatically. I'm not sure if we can choose any thoughts. Here is an example of Larry David joking about Jewish stereotypes: https://youtu.be/uGkLjfPWqeI Here is an example of David Chappelle joking about black and white stereotypes: https://youtu.be/wJ4B7G8Rw3Q I searched online and found a couple top lists of stereotypes, which I'll quote below. Many people have automatic thoughts when seeing other people, often based on their skin color, gender, and sexual orientation. You are probably familiar with the stereotypes Larry David and David Chappelle referenced, even if you don't think them. You're probably…

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My thoughts from when the alarm goes off

I love my sidcha to wake up, make my bed, cross the room, and turn off my alarm within sixty seconds. Loving the sidcha doesn't mean I love every moment of it. On the contrary, the first few moments of it feel the same as they always have. I start with the same thoughts. Over the years, my inner monologue has come to change to purposeful enthusiasm faster. But I want to clarify: I'm the same as anyone. I don't like the feeling of an alarm waking me up. I want to stay in bed, especially in the winter, when my apartment is cool and my comforter keeps me warm. My thoughts go something like this: Oh no, what is that noise? . . .…

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We’ve made thrills boring. We can do the opposite.

Here is an 1855 painting of Paris from a hot air balloon by an artist named Victor Navlet. The first manned hot air balloon flew in Paris in 1783. Technology didn't advance as fast then as now, so I figure few people would have experienced it, let alone artists. People couldn't take pictures, so the painting must have amazed anyone who saw it. No one could see the view any other way. Here are some details of the painting: Stunning, aren't they? Imagine if you'd never reached such heights. The Eiffel Tower would rise a half-century later. People climbed mountains but couldn't arbitrarily rise. Once balloons were exciting. Then biplanes made them boring. Eventually jets made propeller planes boring. Now we're bored by flying. We…

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Adding less salt, sugar, and fat makes you taste more of each

Salt I wrote about my salt experiment of going a month adding no salt to any food. As I expected, though was still surprised at the result, when I added salt after that month, my normal amount tasted horribly over-salted. Adding maybe twenty percent made things taste as salty as before. Besides reducing my salt without using as much, I also became more sensitive to all the other flavors of my food. Since I cook with fresh, delicious vegetables, adding less salt led to more salt flavors and every other flavor too. Since I invite people over for famous no-packaging vegetable stew so much, I see some guests add as much salt as I used to. Sometimes I taste it and can't believe how salty…

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Did you ever notice when someone cancels . . .

Following my post the other day Did you ever notice when someone interrupts. . . I always have more work that I can do than time. . . but when someone cancels on me I get annoyed. And when I cancel on someone they reassure me by telling me they can use the time to work. I can to when the situation is reversed, but I still get annoyed. Until I get work done, I guess.

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