Category Archives: Awareness

The project I assigned myself following up my posts on white men

on February 22, 2020 in Awareness, Models, Nonjudgment, Perception, psychologytoday

Yesterday’s post Update on automatic thoughts people connect with straight white men culminated with a couple questions I found intriguing: Imagine if your entire life, every time you said you suffered, people said, “actually that’s an example of you causing others to suffer.” How would that affect your life? and: Imagine every time you said you worked hard at something, people said, “actually that’s an example of how easy your[…] Keep reading →

Update on automatic thoughts people connect with straight white men

on February 21, 2020 in Awareness, Models, Nonjudgment, Perception, psychologytoday

Last month I asked “What automatic thoughts come to you when you think of straight white men?“. I also explored the topic with Psychology Today‘s Editor-at-Large, Hara Estroff Marano, in an audio recording for a piece there, White Men and Preconceived Notions. Some updates. . . First, context. However obvious, I’ll still say that the following is a personal account with all the biases of someone just talking to the[…] Keep reading →

Psychology Today: White Men and Preconceived Notions

on February 17, 2020 in Audio, Awareness, Models, Nonjudgment, Perception, psychologytoday

Psychology Today’s Editor at Large, Hara Estroff Marano, and I continue our conversations on challenging topics. Today we continue with white men and preconceived notions of us. We were talking about topics before hitting record, I started to describe the pattern that comes up a few minutes into this recording, she lit up in the way someone who has thought about something and has something to say about it does,[…] Keep reading →

What automatic thoughts come to you when you think of straight white men?

on January 27, 2020 in Awareness, Nonjudgment, Perception

Comedians joke about stereotypes. People laugh when the jokes resonate with something in their heads. Everyone is unique, but as far as I can tell, many of thoughts of groups’ stereotypes come to mind automatically. I’m not sure if we can choose any thoughts. Here is an example of Larry David joking about Jewish stereotypes: Here is an example of David Chappelle joking about black and white stereotypes: I searched[…] Keep reading →

Why record temperatures matter

on January 26, 2020 in Awareness, Nature

The temperature in New York City hit 65F (18C) earlier this month. This week’s forecast predicts highs in the 40s every day but one—higher than the historic average high of 38F. The following conclusion should be obvious, I would think, and lead people to change their behavior big and soon. Somehow people aren’t acting, or are acting minimally. So what’s the problem? 45F is more comfortable than 38F. When the[…] Keep reading →

My thoughts from when the alarm goes off

on January 17, 2020 in Awareness, Habits, Perception, SIDCHAs

I love my sidcha to wake up, make my bed, cross the room, and turn off my alarm within sixty seconds. Loving the sidcha doesn’t mean I love every moment of it. On the contrary, the first few moments of it feel the same as they always have. I start with the same thoughts. Over the years, my inner monologue has come to change to purposeful enthusiasm faster. But I[…] Keep reading →

Why do people ask about energy levels?

on January 8, 2020 in Awareness, Fitness

Tell someone you’re vegetarian and the most common response will have something to do with protein—where you get it from, how much they eat, etc. The next most common I hear is a question I don’t understand nor know how to ask: Do you have more energy? The question comes in other forms: do you have less energy, how has it affected your energy levels, etc. Can someone help me[…] Keep reading →

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