How many kids should you have?
I’ve heard people justify how many kids they should have for various reasons.
I think of how decisions happen. We tend to decide first, based on emotions—the wiring we were born with that helped our ancestors live—then rationalize it to make it feel right now that we’ve decided to do it. If our motivations don’t match what we claim our reasons are, might we be acting on motivations that don’t help us or even hurt us?
In this episode I consider how we might be acting against our interests in deciding how many children to have if we have too many.