204: Michelle Tillis Lederman, part 1: The Connector’s Advantage

August 2, 2019 by Joshua
in Podcast

I’ve known Michelle longer than almost any guest. I met her in business school, which would mean 2005 or 6.

She may be the friendliest guest of the show, partly from our being friends. But I’ve seen her in a room of unknown people where she attracts people. They like her. It happens from skills she learned through practice. She’s devoted herself to teach and develop them in others.

I know because she wasn’t always that way, nor did becoming that way come naturally, as she shares. She approaches connecting to help you develop your skills and to enjoy your results. To make the work feel good and for you to feel good working.

I have little patience for people whose idea of connecting and networking means exchanging business cards only. I don’t know what happens in other fields, but after you write a few books, coach a few executives, and give a few talks, LinkedIn floods you with people claiming to help you find clients, market your books, and so on. They claim to be connectors and to help you connect. They claim. I’ve found almost none deliver.

Michelle is the opposite. She creates meaningful connections. She creates networks where people want to help you.

Anyway, after our early joking, Michelle gets into her specialty to hear what her book is about. The self-leadership aspect of this episode is rooted in changing your self, your identity, your story, your inner monologue, and such elements of personal leadership. Michelle lives it. She writes about it. She shares it for you to develop.

I consider these skills among the most important that you can earn.

When we get to the environment, I’d say it sounded moderately important to her, but she sounds like she’s taking on her challenge with enthusiasm.

Too many people present environmental action as a chore. I try to lead people to feel otherwise. Michelle transformed her frame automatically. I saw unconscious competence.

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