Today’s episode with guest Brad P, a dating coach and guru—well, former, since he’s moved on, as he’ll share—partly reveal a major part of my social and emotional development as an adult.
He was in a sense my boss when I coached mostly men but a few women on dating and attraction skills, which I did before coaching executives, entrepreneurs, and so on on leadership, initiative, entrepreneurship, and more mainstream things.
The episode begins with a long introduction to address the extraordinary misconception about coaching dating and attraction, especially for men.
While I haven’t kept it formally secret, I haven’t shared it publicly, though I tell all my coaching clients soon after starting working with them since it opens up the coaching relationship and makes for faster and deeper improvement. I’ve also shared with my family. Now I’m sharing it publicly, that I taught and coached people on skills in attraction and dating. I was the #1 coach in the #1 market for the #1 guru.
My corporate leadership practice is so based in openness and facing and handling vulnerability that I had to share. Not sharing it was keeping me back. Nearly everyone I’ve shared it with is intrigued and supportive, but the media covers people who like to create controversy, so I’ve feared attacks, however unsupported. Well, I can’t live in fear of people with misunderstandings. Rather, I choose to face the fear and handle the consequences, knowing that the more anyone knows about me and this part of me, the more I believe they’ll support me and my choices. I consider this work some of the most helpful to my clients, community, and world.
The episode is long but covers a lot about relationships, education, personal growth, attraction, overcoming fear, and more. It may be my most personal and vulnerable episode yet.