Surprises are for birthdays and competitors. Nothing else.
I don’t like getting or giving surprises in relationships. The only exceptions are for birthday parties and the competition.
Everyone else I try to prepare as early as I can. I do my best to foster relationships where people feel comfortable telling me things as early as they can, even if it would make me uncomfortable. I believe my courses teach these habits through teaching empathy, compassion, and self-awareness.
I’ve written about my relationship policy of “No surprises” before and I probably will again. I consider it worth repeating.
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