I heard that advice and thought it sounded useful:

Don’t take things personally when they aren’t.

Even more useful, it was followed up with the question and answer.

So when are they personal?

Maybe never.

Whether the answer is right or wrong, I don’t know, but it sounds like a useful belief or model.

How many times when people attack, insult, or make you feel something is personal do you realize later they were talking about their own insecurity or problem? Or not even paying attention to you at all?

How often after something makes you feel personally attacked does the person later apologize for their bad mood or that they learned something later that would have changed their approach?

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