The Ethicist: Can I Spread the Word About an Unvaccinated Child?
Continuing my series of responses to the New York Timesâ€™, The Ethicist, here is my take on todayâ€™s post, â€œCan I Spread the Word About an Unvaccinated Child?”
Iâ€™m pregnant with my first child, and concern for my unborn baby has prompted me to ask my friends if their children are vaccinated. One close friend, Y, has two young (vaccinated) children, and lives near another friend, X. Both Y and I have suspected for some time that X chose not to vaccinate her child, and we have been trying to work up the courage to ask her. With the new pregnancy as an excuse, the task fell to me.
It turns out that X has indeed chosen not to vaccinate. When telling me this, she also asked me to keep her answer private. While her choice is not one I would make, I am perhaps even more upset by her request that I conceal the information.
Y and Xâ€™s children play together, and we have regular gatherings with many young children present. I feel that parents have a right to know whether they are exposing their children to unvaccinated children, especially with anti-vaxxers on the rise and herd immunity declining. My frustration is compounded by the fact that Xâ€™s child attends a public school and as far as I know has no valid grounds (for instance, an immuno-compromised child) for exemption.
I respect the privacy of others; however I donâ€™t like being asked to be complicit in placing others at risk. I feel a responsibility to other parents of young children, especially parents of new babies who are not yet vaccinated. Do I respect Xâ€™s request to keep the information secret? Name Withheld
My response: Unskilled and inexperienced people see things as black and white: Do I keep the secret or not? They dramatize things. They react passively. They suffer in silence.
Skilled and experienced people see nuance and subtlety. They look at things in proportion. They problem-solving actively. They involve people in the process.
I see the issue here less the situation the writer describes and more the writer’s lack of skill and experience. The relevant skills I see are how to communicate and behave with the relevant people, particularly X. She’s considering two options, not creating new ones between the extremes or in different directions. She’s looking at the consequences of not vaccinating, which is partly relevant but raise the specter of life and death, but not the consequences of her actions, which are more relevant at the moment.
Most of all, she doesn’t seem to consider talking to X, sharing, creating solutions together, and so on. I suspect she considers herself right and X wrong. Even if she is right and X is wrong in some absolute sense, X doesn’t feel that way. X will pick up on her condescending or lecturing her and will likely resist.
The writer can tell people X’s secret. The question is how she does it and how it affects her relationships and credibility. Effective leadership skills will enable her to do what she feels is right without hurting people or her reputation. If reaching understanding and agreement with X is impossible, at least she can act with greater confidence and effectiveness, and with less doubt.
I suggest developing the social and emotional skills to communicate and problem-solve productively with X. I wrote my book, Leadership Step by Step, because schools don’t teach these skills but anyone who wants to can learn them. I consider it the best resource to develop these skills, far more effective than reducing your situation to a yes-or-no question and posing it to a newspaper columnist. The book will change your life. Getting a newspaper columnist to say yes or no just absolves you of responsibility, limiting your ability to learn and grow.
The New York Times response:
Having children can be scary. Parental love, like all love, makes you vulnerable, because you can be profoundly threatened by harm to someone else. Unlike most other loves, however, parental love also involves overwhelming responsibility. Your young children are enormously dependent on you. In light of these intersecting conditions, itâ€™s not surprising that parents can be panicked by the possibility that they will fail as caretakers. Such panic has been promoted by activists who spread untruths about the dangers of vaccines, especially the vaccine that protects against measles. (The anti-vaccination movement was fueled by a discredited study from 1998 that linked the measles vaccine to autism.) I refer to untruths and not lies, because the anti-vaccination movement is no doubt largely sincere. Sincerity, though, doesnâ€™t make them true.
As you make clear, two benefits come from vaccination. First, a vaccinated child is less likely to suffer serious harm from exposure to the relevant pathogen. Second, if enough children are inoculated, everyoneâ€™s risk is reduced by the â€œherd immunityâ€ you mention. That means that you can help protect all the kids in your community, including those who (because they are immune-compromised or allergic to the vaccine) canâ€™t be vaccinated.
When vaccination rates are high enough, the disease disappears from the population until itâ€™s reintroduced from outside. The level where this happens is called the â€œherd-immunity thresholdâ€; and it varies depending on the efficacy of the vaccine and the contagiousness of the pathogen. Unfortunately the immunity threshold for measles is very high, around 92 to 94 percent. Fortunately, in most of the United States, weâ€™re at that level. In 2000, the disease had effectively been eliminated here. But there are 10 million cases a year outside the United States, and travelers (especially unvaccinated ones) bring it back. The anti-vaccination movement, meanwhile, appears to have depressed vaccination rates in certain communities, as happened recently in Minnesota. So the virus reappears, and outbreaks can happen.
Given the combination of vulnerability and responsibility I mentioned, one reason parents avoid vaccinations is some version of this thought: â€œIf I decide to vaccinate my child and something bad happens, my child will have suffered at my hands.â€ But if thatâ€™s a sensible thought, so should this one be: â€œIf I decide not to vaccinate my child and something bad happens, my child will have suffered at my hands.â€ Whatâ€™s important is whether the likely results of vaccination are better than the alternative. And the answer, once exposure to measles is a possibility, is yes. Even if that werenâ€™t true, there would be a second reason for being vaccinated: If we all did it, we would get herd immunity.
At that point, someone who thought that there were even small risks associated with vaccination might say, â€œHey, Iâ€™m going to avoid the risks of vaccination for my kids, because the disease is very unlikely to reach them.â€ But thatâ€™s true only because other people are vaccinating. So someone who thinks this way is a free rider, like the person who figures she doesnâ€™t need to pay the bus fare because everybody else does. One of the anti-vaxxersâ€™ offenses is refusing to undertake their fair share of the burdens for something from which they benefit.
And just to be clear about how great those benefits are: In a typical year before the measles vaccine was available in the United States, the virus infected millions, sent tens of thousands to the hospital, gave encephalitis to at least a thousand and killed hundreds. Given that measles is a highly contagious disease that can be fatal and that the risks of vaccination are minuscule, not vaccinating your children is wrong. X has done wrong, too, if sheâ€™s lying to her kidâ€™s school â€” public schools require vaccination unless thereâ€™s a recognized medical reason not to or the parents have a sincere religious objection. (Canâ€™t imagine a religious objection? Many Christian Scientists believe that health problems should be dealt with by prayer, not medicine, and so some reject vaccination, even though the founder, Mary Baker Eddy, said that a Christian Scientist should be vaccinated â€œif the law demandâ€ and then â€œappeal to gospel to save him from bad physical results.â€)
To be sure, the direct risk of infection remains very small, and the main harm done by avoiding vaccination would occur only if more people did it. But it isnâ€™t crazy to worry about the danger of contact with unvaccinated children; parents are entitled to know the status of the kids that their kids play with. Something like 3 percent of vaccinated people can still get measles (though itâ€™s very likely to be less serious than in the unvaccinated). And children arenâ€™t normally vaccinated until they are 1, so older children with infant siblings need to be kept away from the virus, too.
What about respecting Xâ€™s request that you keep her answer private? Thereâ€™s an important norm here, but it doesnâ€™t necessarily apply to information that other people are entitled to know. Besides, you and Y have conferred in your effort to find out the truth; how are you supposed to respond when Y asks you what you learned?
Tell X that she ought to inform Y about the situation and also tell the school the truth. Letting her do it shows that you acknowledge her request not to pass the information on yourself. Give her a few days. If she continues to leave Y in the dark, though, you can tell Y what youâ€™ve learned. As far as the school goes, there may be no easy alternative to informing its officials directly. Why not tell X that youâ€™ll be checking on her? Because that would turn a request to tell the truth into a threat.
But some vigilance is warranted, especially now that anti-vaccination â€œscienceâ€ has a proponent in the White House. A recent study found that even a small increase in whatâ€™s diplomatically called vaccine hesitancy would have large public-health consequences. Talk about scary.
I volunteer at a used-book store whose proceeds benefit the local public library. Our books are donations and library discards, which we sell at very low prices. Occasionally an old or rare book comes in. We then check the internet to see who else is selling that book and price it at the lower end of what others ask. Recently I came across a book that was priced by another volunteer at a normal low price. However, the book seemed to be an old and rare book that should have been checked. I bought the book at the low price. Do I have an obligation to check the going internet price myself, and if it is high, pay the difference or return the book? Name Withheld
My response: I don’t think it matters if you have an obligation in an absolute, abstract sense.
Only you know the situation. What do you think is right?
Acting by what you think is right when no one else knows, even to your loss, is what I call integrity. I’ve found acting that way improves my life. I find it filters into every other part of my life, including my relationships. I doubt the value of the book would compete with that value, however intangible.
The New York Times response:
You can tell yourself that you just did what anyone interested in the book would have done. After all, your store is no worse off than if a random customer had bought it. But people who work for charitable businesses have an obligation to look after their interests. If you thought the book was underpriced, you should probably have brought it up with the other staff members and, if you still wanted it, paid the price that was set once its value was known.
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