A longtime friend and I disagreed during a phone call yesterday. We raised our voices at each other and interrupted each other.
After the altercation, we resumed regular conversation, but at the end of the call I apologized. Then he apologized back, but I said he didn’t need to apologize. A consider it an act of friendship to argue with someone when you feel they deserve it.
Someone who isn’t a friend may not feel comfortable enough to oppose you. They might not want to risk a relationship that a friend feels is more secure. Without great friends, you may be unable to tell which ideas of yours need refinement.
I even noticed as I said to him, “Friends tell friends they’re full of shit. Who else will?” that the phrase would make a good blog entry.
Aren’t you glad you know people who feel comfortable and confident enough in your relationship to challenge you?