Have you ever loved a job or person without the love resulting in more work and commitment?

Did the work lead to loving it, him, or her more?

But did feeling that you’d have to work more stopped you, often unconsciously, from allowing yourself to love something or someone?

Do we move away from passions for the reasons we should move toward them?

I call the feeling driving that inhibition, when it motivates us unconsciously. low-level anxiety, which inhibits lots of behaviors. It’s helpful to learn to recognize, make conscious, and act on.

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