[This post is part of a series on Communication Skills Exercises for Business and Life. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] The principles People like people who improve their lives and make conversations interesting. When you first meet someone you tell each other about yourselves in how and about[…] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on creating happiness and reward by understanding pleasure. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Two days ago and yesterday I described how seeing how easily you can create physical pleasure in your life shows how easily you can create emotional pleasure —[…] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on creating happiness and reward by understanding pleasure. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Yesterday I wrote about how to bring about emotional pleasure in your life. Today I’ll clarify and explore the analogy physical pleasure : emotional pleasure :: physical environment […] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on creating happiness and reward by understanding pleasure. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] You may have heard the phrase that we aren’t designed to be happy. I agree with the concept. More than that, since in the Model we consider not[…] Keep reading →

At my last seminar one of the attendees suggested a simple first transformation for him could be to wake up earlier. That very day, my friend wrote about how to wake up earlier, suggesting a few techniques, which his readers added to. The suggestions were helpful, but all based only in the environment or only in their behavior. Nobody wrote about changing beliefs. In fact, they tended to accept beliefs[…] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on The Method to use The Model — my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development — which I find the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the[…] Keep reading →

Once the elements of a transformation start supporting each other the transformation starts to feel like it will take root. You may still feel some inertia, fakeness, and conflict between the old and new you, but decreasingly. Examples of elements supporting each other include After starting a new hobby (behavior) you start meeting others who do the same hobby People compliment you on losing weight People you meet in new[…] Keep reading →