Habits aren’t my thing, despite what you might think
I want to clarify a point of confusion, probably my fault. Since I talk a lot about sidchas and habits, one could conclude that I focus on habits as a big part of my life.
On the contrary, though I consider them important, they are less a big part of my life than they make worry and insecurity a small part of my life. For clients that come to me for them, I focus some of my coaching on them. Even then, the goal is to make them automatic—a source of mental freedom.
Someone today suggested that I must be a blogger, as in a big part of my identity, since I blog daily. I said that would make me a tooth brusher since I brush twice a day. He laughed and got that blogging was a means to an end.
To see what my habits do for me, consider that Americans spend billions on diet and exercise. I spend around a dollar a year. Americans feel insecure and worry about their weight and health. My exercise and food bring me joy, confidence, and security. Instead of worrying, I use my mental freedom to apply myself to my passions—for example, leadership and nature.
Sidchas are a background activity that liberate me to focus on foreground activities—my passions.
For more on habits and mental freedom, see my webinar on habits. Attendees loved it, saying:
â€œMy boyfriend was an Olympic fencer and I texted him: this webinar is like an insight into your brain. Now I see how you do everything and how youâ€™re so productive.â€
â€œHoly cow, itâ€™s so simple. Itâ€™s so true. I could immediately see the ways . . . Iâ€™m pretty fit, I was a collegiate athlete. I work out. Iâ€™m doing the insanity program now and I was like â€˜Wow!’â€
â€œWe talk a lot about freedom, whether itâ€™s financial freedom. Mental freedom is not something Iâ€™ve thought of. I thought about freedom with my timeâ€”Iâ€™m an advertising producer in my nine to five and just thinking about, â€œWow, If I had the mental freedom to explore to do this, holy cow!â€
â€œThat was revolutionary. Thatâ€™s going to really help me a lot. Thatâ€™s the goal of mental freedom.â€
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