[This post is part of a series on the Self-Imposed Daily Challenging Healthy Activity (SIDCHA). If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Since conceiving of the idea of the Self-Imposed Daily Challenging Healthy Activity (during a SIDCHA — in particular, a cold shower), I’ve been taken by it. Naturally I want[…] Keep reading →

I wrote a series of posts on willpower. I assembled them into series format so you can read them all at once. Check it out. For reference, the first post goes like this: Most people know what they should do to create the life for themselves they want. Sadly, most people don’t do what they feel they should. They do what’s easy. People who want to lose weight keep eating[…] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on the Self-Imposed Daily Challenging Healthy Activity (SIDCHA). If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] I bet most successful people have at least one self-imposed daily challenging healthy activity (introducing what should become a standard personal development term SIDCHA, pronounced sid’-chah), whether they[…] Keep reading →

I wrote a series of posts on “Getting rid of guilt and blame for good.” I assembled them into series format so you can read them all at once. Check it out. For reference, the first post begins like this. Do you like feeling guilty or doing things that make you feel guilt? Do you find blaming people improves your life? Not likely. Would you prefer alternatives that don’t make[…] Keep reading →

I neither like feeling guilt or blame nor do I find them helpful to solve problems. While I still feel the emotions sometimes, I feel them far less than I used to. This series describes how to overcome them. I hope the techniques and perspectives work for you. Click on the entries in the table of contents to the left. Note I pulled the last entry from another series, but[…] Keep reading →

Do you ever think about a message you’ve sent and wonder when you’ll get a response, if you should follow up, and get stuck not knowing if you should respond now, while you’re thinking about it, or later, but risk forgetting about it? When your mind is occupied like this you lose mental freedom. Often you can’t stop your mind from dwelling on things like this — important but that[…] Keep reading →

“I don’t like my job and I have to get a new one.” Probably more than half my coaching clients say something like this, followed by “Please help me.” A recent session with a client who started that way reinforced my standard approach, as I’ll describe. The client I spoke to the other day so disliked his job he was ready to drive across the country to a city he’d[…] Keep reading →