Many people make the mistake of thinking that some things they think are beliefs and others are not beliefs but facts. Or that they are just right. For example, if you ask them who they think might be the next President, they might say it could be Hillary Clinton. They’d say that was a belief because they can’t prAove who will become the next President. They just have to wait[…] Keep reading →

I coached a client recently who felt like she had a lot on her plate. She was trying to figure out plans for the next year, where many decisions depended on each other and she couldn’t figure out which to do first. When she explained them to me it seemed clear the order in which she had to do each, but she was swimming in so much information she couldn’t[…] Keep reading →

Most of my posts try to present ways to create more happiness and emotional reward. For once I’ll write the opposite, from which one can learn just as much. In the list below the items seem to clearly hurt relationships and your mood. For some reason when people do these things on their own they act like they’re acting productively, like when they give people unsolicited advice, they genuinely seem[…] Keep reading →

Here’s how to never look back at your life with regret. Do what you love. Conserve resources as much as you can so you don’t get distracted from what you love. Stick with it until you’re done. Ignore people who tell you to do something more reasonable. Be confident knowing that if you love it, others will love it too. Not everyone, but enough to form community. Then when you[…] Keep reading →

As part of this page’s new functionality, today I introduce its first series: “Communication skills exercises for business and life.” Click the link to view the series as a single page where you can jump between posts without losing the page or having to reload it. Posts in that series rank among the most read on this page. If you haven’t read them and you want to improve your social[…] Keep reading →

Without effective communication skills and comfort practicing them, whatever awesomeness you have inside you is invisible to the world. You might as well not have it. Other people will nearly always be attracted to people with better social skills. With effective communication skills and comfort practicing them, you can showcase your inner awesomeness to your heart’s content. You can attract other people, whether for business, personal, or whatever reason you[…] Keep reading →

I’ve been coaching clients one-on-one for a few years, as readers have noted from my references to clients. I’ve coached nearly a hundred clients by now, most of whom found me through word of mouth. I added a new coaching page to this site to help people find coaching with me. Why? My clients succeed. That’s why I love coaching. You can achieve more too. Because coaching works. I have[…] Keep reading →

The great satirical online newspaper The Onion illustrated one of my favorite stepping-stones to creating the life you want. I wrote about it in this relevant post, “A model that will bring you happiness.” They didn’t realize they were onto something more effective than they thought, but their description of how deeply changing your environment can change your mood shows a great way to start changing your life — whether[…] Keep reading →

I read a story with a lesson for anyone who creates anything too helpful not to copy. As much as I didn’t want to copy something you can find elsewhere, I couldn’t stop myself. I hadn’t read it before so I hope it’s new to you. It’s from a book called Art and Fear on creating art, but you’ll find it useful for creating anything — products, beliefs, rules to[…] Keep reading →