How you develop social skills
The pattern for developing a new social skill goes like: 1. Lack of awareness of something I want to change 2. Awareness of it 3. Realizing I can do something about it 4. Try do something about it but notice a day later that I missed the opportunity 5. Notice an hour later 6. Notice a minute later 7. Notice in the moment 8. Unconscious mastery Advancing from one step to the next is just a matter of practice and time. If I don't practice I don't advance. If I don't give it enough time I don't advance. If I practice it's only a matter of time until unconscious mastery. I edited this from a response to a client on a question about behavioral change.…
