“The world you see is not what you think it is.” How many organizations start with this philosophy? It piques your curiosity—“It isn’t?”—to hear what comes next. The next step is the tricky one: “We’ll tell you what it’s really like.” They rarely word it so bluntly, but many organizations start this way. For all I know they’re right. What I do know is that once someone gets you to[…] Keep reading →

If someone wins the lottery or gets something you wish you had, would you feel jealous of them? No, you wouldn’t. If you wish you had something someone else did, you would envy them, which is different from jealousy. Today people use the terms interchangeably, but they describe distinct feelings. I only learned the difference a few years ago when someone pointed it out to me. Since then I’ve become[…] Keep reading →

Want to simplify your life? Try this: at the end of every day, clear your desk of all your work material. Think you can’t do it? Try it. You’ll be surprised at how much simpler it is than you think, and how much it affects your calmness when not at work. I’ve been doing it a few months. Before I did it I would have thought it would take too[…] Keep reading →

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, None but our self can free our mind. — Bob Marley, Redemption Song Context How do you move from living reactively, like in this graph, where you can’t help but react to any intense motivation: To living aware and non-reactively like this, where you are aware of many motivations but don’t feel compelled to react blindly to any? That change brings freedom. It comes from[…] Keep reading →

Think of a time you reacted blindly. Did it go well? How do you feel about leaders who react without thinking or intuition? You don’t want to react blindly—the opposite of leadership, since it means you’re reacting to someone else, or unpredictable events in your environment, which I call blowing in the breeze. Most people understand the term “reactive” vaguely, so they can’t do much about it. I find visualizing[…] Keep reading →

The last ten days’ experience was challenging and rewarding—too much to cover fully, so I’ll just put some highlights. Top benefit 1: time without distraction Few vacations give you undistracted time like ten days without internet, phone, reading, writing, talking, or almost any obligations. This retreat gave that, though it was not a vacation. It was work. You know your world distracts you. Sometimes you can tune some of it[…] Keep reading →

If you didn’t know, I spent my past ten days at my second ten-day mediation retreat. Here are old posts on it for your background: Vipassana Meditation Goenka and 10-day meditation retreats These retreats have no internet, phone, reading, writing, or talking. You sit still for about ten to twelve hours a day. Because writing here is one of my SIDCHAs and I don’t want to deprive readers of my[…] Keep reading →

Another coach emailed me about my posts about the bankrupt concepts of introversion and extroversion, which he described as That binary thinking you highlight is the bane of my working life! People who escape from that kind of thinking discover great freedom in their thoughts, which they usually use to create better lifestyles, relationships, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. They also find great tools to lead others. People who don’t escape[…] Keep reading →

Exploring and expanding your boundaries and horizons creates freedom and comfort in your life. Doing so can be challenging—“getting out of your comfort zone,” as many put it—but creates results and emotional reward. The more experience you have in it, the more you can lead others to do the same, creating freedom and comfort in their lives. I’ll illustrate the process with some simple diagrams. I find visualizing would-be complex[…] Keep reading →