When do I think of when to implement the Method? In leadership situations: especially when times call for me to motivate or influence others, to negotiate, to listen, to empathize and see things from another person’s perspective. Times like these make self-awareness and knowing how to act on it important. In personal leadership situations: when times call for me to motivate myself, to understand myself better, and so on. I’ve[…] Keep reading →

This post covers patterns of several non-Method methods to give context to the Method. The reason you want to improve your life is that you’re feeling less reward than your potential. Unless you’re highly emotional aware, in which case you would see your way forward clearly, all you know then is that at least one element of an emotional cycle is out of sync but not which. The non-Method methods[…] Keep reading →

I commented on a post on another board that expanded on my earlier post “What’s wrong with ‘making the world a better place‘”, referring to this post: I understand the goals of the ethic, but I’d suggest a change to one part. “World improvement” sounds noble, but every sane person believes they are making the world a better place — whether dictators, telemarketers, soldiers, marketers of sugary beverages to children,[…] Keep reading →

This post covers the second of several non-Method methods. People often try to improve their lives by changing only their behavior. After doing something one way for a while they resolve to do it differently. This strategy comes from a belief that something rooted in their behavior holds them back from a better life, or at least that changing only their behavior will improve it. I call this strategy “New[…] Keep reading →

People improve their lives in many ways. To give context to the Method, in my next few posts I’ll describe several common non-Method methods you’re familiar with. Then I’ll describe how the Method differs from them and why I believe it improves your life better and is more rewarding to do. So far I’ve only described the Method broadly: to choose the elements in your emotional cycles you can control voluntarily[…] Keep reading →

If you’re reading my blog you may be considering getting a coach, maybe even considering me. I’ve observed that the people who perform best at things tend to have coaches whereas the people who don’t do so well remark that they don’t need coaching or bristle at the prospect of getting help. Derek Jeter has multiple coaches. Forty percent of Fortune 500 CEOs have personal coaches. This week’s New Yorker[…] Keep reading →

You used to get frustrated by taxes, right? You probably don’t like getting older. We all prefer accepting things we can’t change to frustration, disappointment, etc. You’ve learned to improve your life through acceptance. Why stop there, implying the thing still bothers us? You can learn to celebrate anything you can accept, turning problems into sources of reward. On a related note, judging tends to repel others, just like people[…] Keep reading →