“My manager sucks. How do I get them to manage me better?” People ask me this question all the time. The words differ for each person but the concept is the same. Probably every client I’ve coached, no matter what issue they started with, also wanted to work on improving their situation with their manager. Having coached enough on it, I’m putting the main concepts here. If I see demand[…] Keep reading →

A client recently described how his boss’s behavior annoyed him. As we planned about how to respond he made clear he wanted to include in his message a subtly vindictive part. I told him that vindictive part would be effective in venting his feelings but suggested it would not likely be effective in influencing his boss. Rather, it would influence the boss, but not likely how he wanted. He thought[…] Keep reading →

Has anyone ever told you that even they’ve known you for a long time they still don’t feel like they know the real you? Has it come from someone you’re close to? It sucks, doesn’t it? Do you know people without really knowing them? Have you known anyone for a long time, even spent time with them, but never felt you knew the real them? It doesn’t feel good, at[…] Keep reading →

I was recommended a book called “Wheat Belly.” I read a lot more books than I write about so it has to be remarkable. I started to remark how much I disliked it. The more I put my dislike into words and the more I looked in the book to explain what I didn’t like, the more I found to dislike it more. I’m saddened to find such a popular[…] Keep reading →