Beware arch problems
"Arch problems" is my name for problems where their would-be solutions exacerbate the problem. Their cure is the disease. Why "arch"? Arches in architecture are strong under pressure, supporting something. If you think an arch is weak and try to help it by supporting it, you weaken it, which may lead you to support it more. This cycle of weakening it by supporting it more can lead to either the arch collapsing or you doing all the support for the arch. They can be insidious because the more you try to help, the more they require your help. You strengthen an arch by putting it under stress. Not too much. There are lots of problems that show this pattern. I'll list a few. Helicopter parenting:…
