Choose easier by visualizing choices, part 2

on October 30, 2013 in Blog, Choosing/Decision-Making, Models, Tips, Visualization

Multiple factors Not all options have only one decision factor. Many have two or more. For example, do you prefer a job with higher pay but lower chance of promotion or higher chance of promotion but lower pay? You have to look case-by-case, but let’s see how our visual representation shows them. A trivial choice The easiest two-part case is when you prefer both parts of an option to both[…] Keep reading →

Choose easier by visualizing choices, part I

on October 29, 2013 in Blog, Choosing/Decision-Making, Models, Tips, Visualization

You know choosing can be hard. I’ve written about it before from a few angles: Why are decisions hard? Difficult life decision? Here’s how to look at it. How to decide among close options A belief to choose without getting mired in indecision Today I’ll give you a tool to simplify decision-making more with a way of visualizing the challenge that shows the hard part. Partly I’m following up on[…] Keep reading →

You have to say no to a lot of good things to have a great life

on October 27, 2013 in Awareness, Blog

I say these words to myself daily or nearly so. I’ve posted them before and I expect I will again. They bear repeating and deserve a post to themselves. You have to say no to a lot of good things to have a great life. I don’t see declining an opportunity as giving it up so much as giving myself more time and resources for something I value more. I[…] Keep reading →

How do you decide when your decision affects other people? Involve them in the process.

on September 21, 2013 in Blog, Tips

People struggle over decisions they know will affect others. Their concern for other people sounds important for building and maintaining relationships. Their anxiety, on the other hand, suggests they’re missing its source. If they don’t know what causes their anxiety, they’ll miss the otherwise obvious solution. For some reason, people in challenging situations often withdraw from others. Typical such situations include Figuring out how to tell a client news they[…] Keep reading →

Do you decide rationally or emotionally?

on August 4, 2013 in Awareness, Blog, Evolutionary Psychology, Nature

One of this blog’s central focuses is self-awareness because I think to improve your life and relationships the best starting point is to know where you are. Know thyself, in other words. Today I want to give you a way to learn deeply about how your mind works. I didn’t come up with the idea, but it intrigues me and I’d love to learn other people’s thoughts. I think people[…] Keep reading →

When to get rid of things

on July 23, 2013 in Blog, Freedom

I’ve written before about getting rid of stuff and the challenges of getting rid of things you once wanted to keep. You feel like if you once valued something and now don’t you’ll lose something important. Maybe you should examine your values and how they changed. Slow-going apartment renovations have led me to live with a lot of my stuff in storage following living in Shanghai without much stuff for[…] Keep reading →

A question to ask all the time: “Is this making my life better”

on June 28, 2013 in Blog, Tips

I watch my share of television. I eat my share of unhealthy food. I find plenty of ways to waste my time. But I’m decreasing those things all the time. I think a lot of people decide what to do or not based on the thing or activity in question. Will that chocolate cake taste good? Will I enjoy watching that show? Do I want to go to that party?[…] Keep reading →

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