The problem determines the solution, not what you’re good at, not what you want to do, not what you can do.

on October 21, 2013 in Awareness, Blog

I wanted to follow up on a recent post, “You tell me what you do best. I’ll tell you what you do worst.” When you have a problem to solve, only one thing determines the solution: the problem itself. If you’re good at doing one thing, but another thing solves the problem, it doesn’t matter how well you do the other thing. Your skill may help solve the problem, but[…] Keep reading →

Redefining failure

on October 4, 2013 in Blog

Life has only one finishing line, which is when you die (I hope I didn’t break that news to you). Everything else is a part of life — no more an end to one thing before than a beginning to something else. That view seems inarguable. Whatever happens to you, no matter how much you like it or not, if you haven’t died you’ll continue past it. So how can[…] Keep reading →

Start with emotions if you want to motivate yourself … or anyone else

on September 26, 2013 in Blog, Fitness, Nature

I find Americans try to get precise and scientific about food and exercise, in contrast to how incredibly unfit the country is. I write “try to” because I don’t think they succeed in being precise or scientific. The term carbohydrate, for example, used to have a specific scientific meaning. I think it still does, but I think in standard American usage it means “bad” or “evil,” like the term fat[…] Keep reading →

How do you decide when your decision affects other people? Involve them in the process.

on September 21, 2013 in Blog, Tips

People struggle over decisions they know will affect others. Their concern for other people sounds important for building and maintaining relationships. Their anxiety, on the other hand, suggests they’re missing its source. If they don’t know what causes their anxiety, they’ll miss the otherwise obvious solution. For some reason, people in challenging situations often withdraw from others. Typical such situations include Figuring out how to tell a client news they[…] Keep reading →

Handling life’s biggest challenges

on September 14, 2013 in Blog

In this blog I try to cover what I consider one of the main skills of leading others and yourself — the ability to manage your emotions no matter what comes your way. It shows up in many ways. One of the simplest is the phrase I use a lot: Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. … as I wrote about in my posts “A model to handle pain” and[…] Keep reading →

People who succeeded despite adversity, part 2

on September 11, 2013 in Blog, Entrepreneurship, Freedom, Leadership

[This post is part of a series on people who succeed despite adversity. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Ask yourself which helps more — having advantages or learning to overcome adversity? I base this series on noticing how many extremely successful people had problems that mediocre people claim[…] Keep reading →

Once you start composting, you can’t go back

on August 18, 2013 in Blog, Nature

Once you start putting your food scraps in a separate container from your trash, you can’t go back to filling landfills with what could create topsoil and healthier food. Once you start composting, the amount you throw away decreases yet more — after you presumably started recycling, after you presumably reduced your consumption. You become more aware of food packaging you can’t compost. I’ve noticed that the less healthy a[…] Keep reading →

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