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Free short-term coaching from me!

Usually I take on clients for a couple months at a time. I am testing something new: very short-term coaching, as in twenty minutes. On any topic you want -- business, personal, family, school, ... it's up to you. Sound too short? I bet you already started thinking if you have anything you could get effective help for in twenty minutes. And I bet you could think of something. And I bet just preparing for a twenty-minute call will get you to organize your thoughts, helping you understand it better and starting to solve it already. Besides, it's only twenty minutes. When I coach business school students at Columbia it's for fifty minutes, and I've seen them make big transformations. You can too. I am…

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May 7, 2013
Awareness / Exercises / Freedom / Models / Tips

A belief to help you let go when you want to

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] People say "You should just let it go" all the time. Are you able just to let go of important things? Personally, I never could. I don't think many people can. Yet I've been able to achieve the same effect. Today's model covers how I've achieved it for myself, at least. I don't claim to have made up this model -- only that it works. A model to help you let go: I can't let ideas go, but I can crowd…

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May 7, 2013
Awareness / Exercises / Leadership / Models

What happens when you change beliefs

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] The movie Moneyball and the book it's based on illustrate how new beliefs take root and can challenge and crowd out your old beliefs. Today's post is long, but the movie very well illustrates some stages and the emotional challenge of adopting a new belief, facing and overcoming resistance, and how it can lead to effective leadership and creating community. I'll quote enough of it here if you haven't seen the movie, but it was nominated for seven Oscars and stars…

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May 6, 2013
Exercises / Models / Tips

A model to help create the life and relationships you want

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you want an awesome life filled with things you love or do you want a crappy life filled with things you dislike and hate? I'd consider today's belief too simple and obvious to post except that so few people seem to get it. At least they don't live consistently with the strategy it suggests. A model to help create the life and relationships you want: You get good at feeling and expressing the emotions you practice and express. Today's belief, that…

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May 5, 2013
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A model to remove limits from your life

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you want an okay life? Do you want limits on how much you can get out of life? Or do you prefer to have no limits on how much you can get out of life? Remember from two days ago that the value, meaning, importance, and purpose (MVIP) of a thing comes from the emotions it evokes. Remember from yesterday that you can create reward any time any place. It follows that you can create more reward all the time,…

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May 4, 2013
Exercises / Models / Tips

A model to find reward anywhere, anytime

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you ever find yourself frustrated, impatient, disappointed, anxious, or feeling some similar emotion and wish you could not feel it? Do you wonder how some people can keep calm or at least not lose control in situations more difficult than you can and wish you could too? Do you want to know how to handle yourself in situations you don't like and can't control? Today's model derives from the Model. If you get the Model, it will be obvious. I'll…

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May 3, 2013
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A model of where value, meaning, importance, and purpose come from

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] You hear about values-based leadership, living based in their values, giving meaning to their teams, having meaning in their lives, having purpose in their endeavors. If I asked you your values, you could probably mention your family, projects, friends, making the world a better place, security, and a few things like that. If I asked what gave you meaning or purpose or what was important, you'd probably give a similar list. You might not list money or television, but many people…

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May 2, 2013
A model to implement the answers to all of life’s most important questions
Awareness / Exercises / Models

A model to implement the answers to all of life’s most important questions

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Putting into practice the answers to all of life's most important questions -- that is, the Model -- may seem like a tall order, but I've written up how to do it. I call the process the Method. If you worked with the Model long enough, you'd probably develop the Method yourself, but why not learn from my mistakes and get farther with less effort? A model to implement the answers to all of life's most important questions: The Method I've written…

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May 1, 2013

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