I wrote a series of posts on “Getting rid of guilt and blame for good.” I assembled them into series format so you can read them all at once. Check it out. For reference, the first post begins like this. Do you like feeling guilty or doing things that make you feel guilt? Do you find blaming people improves your life? Not likely. Would you prefer alternatives that don’t make[…] Keep reading →

I neither like feeling guilt or blame nor do I find them helpful to solve problems. While I still feel the emotions sometimes, I feel them far less than I used to. This series describes how to overcome them. I hope the techniques and perspectives work for you. Click on the entries in the table of contents to the left. Note I pulled the last entry from another series, but[…] Keep reading →

Martha Graham’s words on discipline, conformity, and freedom influenced me enough that I quoted her in several posts. She quotes T. S. Eliot describing “complete simplicity (costing not less than everything).” Two of my posts on her are “A master speaks on creative expression” and “A model on the foundation of personal freedom.” I had to look up the T. S. Eliot reference, so, in case you would too, I’ll[…] Keep reading →

[This post is part of a series on my daily exercise and starting and keeping challenging habits. If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Today marks two years of daily burpees! Challenging healthy daily habits If you want a stable foundation on which to build a life of health, resilience,[…] Keep reading →

You can learn a lot about leadership from what great leaders say about people who led them. I’ll show a video of Kareem Abdul-Jabbar on his college coach, John Wooden, and then describe how it teaches a lot about leadership — specifically motivating others. First a few words on each. Who are Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and John Wooden? Abdul-Jabbar ranks among the best basketball players (and athletes of any sport) ever.[…] Keep reading →

Do you ever think about a message you’ve sent and wonder when you’ll get a response, if you should follow up, and get stuck not knowing if you should respond now, while you’re thinking about it, or later, but risk forgetting about it? When your mind is occupied like this you lose mental freedom. Often you can’t stop your mind from dwelling on things like this — important but that[…] Keep reading →

I posted The Method on how to use The Model—my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development—in series form. Here is a link to it. I find the Model and Method the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. The Model tells you how we work. The Method shows you how[…] Keep reading →

I posted The Model — my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development — in series form. Here is the link to it. I find this Model the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. Why? A model’s value comes not from its accuracy but how well it serves its purpose,[…] Keep reading →

“I don’t like my job and I have to get a new one.” Probably more than half my coaching clients say something like this, followed by “Please help me.” A recent session with a client who started that way reinforced my standard approach, as I’ll describe. The client I spoke to the other day so disliked his job he was ready to drive across the country to a city he’d[…] Keep reading →