My latest life-changing rule for visiting web sites

I used to waste three or four hours a day browsing social media sites, generally Reddit at the time, but others too, in particular after telling myself not to spend that much time on sites. I found some useful guidelines to reduce wasting time on screens. Not all time on screens is wasted, so I wanted to reduce wasted time but maintain productive time. Existing rules that have served me well Effective guidelines and guardrails I've used for a while: No internet use for the first hour of waking up Use site blockers to limit daily access to some sites. Use site blockers to limit access to any sites for thirty-minute working blocks. Make my laptop being disconnected from the internet the default so I…

0 Comments

This week’s selected media: February 25, 2024: Carmaggeddon, The Lover, Happy Fat, and Climate, Human Population and Human Survival: What the Deep Past Tells Us about the Future

I finished this week: Carmaggeddon, by Daniel Knowles: I bought a cheap used car after getting my first license at 15 years old. The experience led me to never own a car again. I knew that choice would force many later life decisions The summer after high school, when I was 16, a friend and I rode our bikes from Philadelphia to Bar Harbor, Maine and back. A couple years later I started volunteering for bike advocacy. I think I know a fair amount about cars and how designing cities, nations, and cultures prioritizing them (and planes) over other forms of transportation undermines community, health, resilience, and so on. I could have sworn I've read this book before. It comprehensively covers what I've learned over…

0 Comments

What a way to honor Gandhi

I recently watched Richard Attenborough's Gandhi movie. I often pass the Gandhi statue around the corner from my home in Union Square. The other day I saw that someone honored Gandhi's legacy with an empty beer can at his feet. I'm sure Gandhi would have loved the tribute. Or maybe our culture could use reminding of its lost values of stewardship and personal responsibility that might restore meaning and purpose to our lives. I mean, I could be wrong: maybe throwing empty cans from beer drunk in a park at the foot of statues honoring historical figures who advanced freedom, equality, democracy, and compassion improves the world more than I imagine. Maybe I'm rushing to judgment. Maybe the empty can and the Staples store in…

0 Comments

Big milestone: I turned in my latest manuscript yesterday, the last substantive edits.

Several readers read the last round and reviewed it very highly. I keep tightening it and clarifying parts, which improves it, but the big challenge in settling down to publish is that I'm learning more and faster than ever. This round got some great new stuff. I'm beyond enthusiastic about it reaching shelves and your hands. I won't lie: I also feel anxiety and fear. The reviews that matter to me are yours, the reader's. The process of writing forces me to reflect and clarify. Living more sustainably teaches me more. I can't stop reading and learning about how people did things before that worked, from our grandparents to ancestors farther back to poor people who can't pollute as much as us for lack of…

0 Comments

Attend Flight Free USA’s workshop with me! (March 13 and 20)

The invitation below says it all, but some background first: Register Here Join this two-session workshop and learn how to inspire people to freely and joyfully move to living more sustainably so they thank you. Read the pledges of the people I influenced and ask: Do they sound like they're depriving themselves or sacrificing? Evelyn Beth Josh M. Eunnye Conrad Emily, which led to the Washington Post quoting her And me Most people expect talking sustainability is a drag, not inspiring. So how do I lead people to love doing what others can't imagine and if they try they think it's impossible. Register Here Register Here

0 Comments

Beautiful, scary red sunrise, then a snow day

I don't use Instagram so even though I took only a few pictures, I'm posting them here. I'm not claiming they're great pictures. I just snapped them in the morning. First, on a Friday at 6:45am, the sky was red. The camera seems to have adjusted it to less red, but you can mostly tell. It was redder a few minutes before. I noticed it while I was doing calisthenics. I usually try to avoid interrupting them, but the sky was returning to normal. A few days later, which is now a few days ago, I woke up to a some light snow. Sorry the window is dirty, but precipitation does that and it was too cold to open the window to clean it.

0 Comments

Great time to join a CSA (farm share)

Spring is around the corner. Time to sign up for a CSA. If you don't know, CSA is an acronym for an unhelpful name Community Supported Agriculture. You pay a farm a fixed amount before the season starts. Then each week you pick up your weekly load of produce. The benefits are big: more delicious produce, lower costs, more variety, you can meet your farmer and other CSA members, more connection to nature and people. I don't know how many of you live near New York City, but the consistently best vegetables I've tasted come from the farm I do my CSA with. I recommend signing up to them if they deliver near you. If not, here's a site to find CSAs near you. Here…

0 Comments

My Cell Phone Battery and Time Use

I joke that my favorite phone app is airplane mode, but I like it. Still, my phone's hot spot is my only internet connection at home, so I'm using it now, but I'll put it on airplane mode after posting. I looked up how to take a screen shot and took shots of my battery and time use for the past ten days. I think they were usual days so probably represent regular usage. By battery use Here's the the breakdown of battery use by app (taken while in airplane mode, I notice). "Libby" is the library's app, through which I listen to audio books. Since I turn off screens while eating, listening to books works for me. So does books being free from the…

0 Comments

This week’s selected media: February 18, 2024: Keith Richards’ Life, Killers of the Flower Moon

This week I finished: Life, by Keith Richards: I'd meant to read this book since seeing it on shelves a few years ago. Bruce Springsteen's memoir prompted me. As with Springsteen, Richards' experience after connecting with the guitar resonated with me most---discovering the art, the craft, self-expression, awareness, connecting with other musicians listening to their recordings, meeting other musicians in person, and so on. I don't think I'm flattering myself to say I'm connecting with them as artists developing something nobody has seen before but knowing that the world will love it, that they crave it. My book Leadership Step by Step identifies leadership as a performance art where we express ourselves to evoke emotion in our audiences and to change them in ways they…

0 Comments

747: Go Alan Go!, part 1: The drummer rocking Washington Square Park

Regular listeners and blog readers know I talk about litter and how much we wreck nature, especially my neighborhood's back yard, Washington Square Park. Click the links below to see some of the worst litter you've seen, in a supposedly nice part of town. Today the opposite: someone who brings joy, fun, creativity, music, and dancing to the park. Alan began playing drums in the park three years ago and he rocks the place. Click to watch this video of him in action, though when he plays different music, he creates different vibes, so the video shows only a tiny slice of that magic. You wouldn't believe how much effort he needs to perform each time he plays. You also wouldn't believe how good playing…

0 Comments

Volunteering recognition from 1993

I've been writing about volunteering. Then last month I found this certificate for distinguished service in college in 1993 cleaning out my father's basement and had to share the story behind it. A church near Columbia on 114th Street and Broadway served a soup kitchen. I volunteered there every Friday. I just went on my own. Partly I consider activities like it as civic duty. Also I find it rewarding. I meet people in my community. Independently, Columbia had a program called Community Impact that motivated students to volunteer and participate in the community. So other students often volunteered. None of the students who volunteered through Community Impact attended as regularly as I did, so Community Impact invited me to join their strategy and planning…

0 Comments

Why do people apologize to me about their polluting?

I visited with a friend recently. He had just come from working at a cafe. I asked, "If you sat down and drank coffee there, you used a mug, right? . . . not a disposable cup? He replied sheepishly, "No, I used a disposable cup. Sorry." People keep apologizing to me for polluting. I said, "Don't apologize to me. It barely affects me. It does, but other people more." My questions to you, the reader, especially if you've felt apologetic about polluting: Why apologize to me? I'm barely affected. Should someone apologize? Do people apologizing to me believe they've done something meriting apologizing? If so, why don't they not do it? Why do something you believe is wrong when you can not do that…

0 Comments

746: Martin Doblmeier, part 1: What We Can Learn from Dietrich Bonhoeffer

I'm searching for role models including people who changed cultures and undid dominance hierarchies, particularly people who came from status. I can think of many who came from subjugated classes, but not many who could have declined to engage, but did instead. Dietrich Bonhoeffer is one. I could share more about him, but my guest today, Martin Doblmeier, made a wonderful documentary about him available online free. It's worth it to watch the documentary before listening to this episode if you don't know much about Bonhoeffer. Martin had more insight into Bonhoeffer than many. He met many people who knew him, and he featured them in the documentary. As you'll see, the documentary is thoughtful and considerate, which told me Martin must have thought deeply…

0 Comments

What’s “extreme” when everyone around you is acting crazy?

People describe my steps toward sustainability as "extreme." Imagine everyone you knew gave babies Pepsi to drink, as much as they wanted all the time. You might think since it's not healthy, you might not give your baby so much Pepsi. What's the right amount of Pepsi to give babies? Ten percent less than everyone else? Twenty percent? If you give fifty percent less, are you starting to get extreme? Zero Pepsi for babies must be extreme. Would you be extreme in a world where everyone gave their babies Pepsi? Or would you avoid being extreme and keep it to just a bit less than average? I'm not at zero pollution or depletion, so if you'd feed your baby no Pepsi, I'm less extreme than…

0 Comments
I bought a product almost certainly produced in part with slavery.
Processed By eBay with ImageMagick, z1.1.0. ||B2

I bought a product almost certainly produced in part with slavery.

I'm not proud but I'm not going to hide it either. I'm like everyone else: I live in a culture that relies on slavery. I try to minimize my contribution to it. I see publicizing the situation as helping change it. Each time you bought a cell phone, laptop, or electric vehicle, you bought goods almost certainly produced using slavery, possibly without realizing it. I'd like to help change our culture to end such practices. If you haven't listened to my podcast episode with Siddharth Kara or read his book Cobalt Red, I can't recommend them enough. If you find anything I write here offensive, read Cobalt Red before judging. If you find I wrote something wrong in this post, let me know. Here are…

0 Comments

This Week’s Selected Media, February 11, 2024: Born to Run by Bruce Springsteen

This week I finished: Born to Run, by Bruce Springsteen: Growing up in Philadelphia, across the river from New Jersey, Bruce was always big. I loved this book, which I listened to, Bruce himself reading it. The first third recounted his doing what it took. He struggled to buy his first guitar for $18. He slept on floors, figured out how to play. He played what gigs he could. He had a vision of greatness. He didn't need other people's permission. I doubt anyone else imagined anything he envisioned. He didn't just work blindly. He looked inside himself. He wouldn't accept halfway. Given my situation of nearly everyone othering me ("a phenomenon in which some individuals or groups are defined and labeled as not fitting…

0 Comments

Following up yesterday’s post: “Whom would you call a minority in this picture?”

I wanted to follow up yesterday's post. It missed some of the more important experiences and lessons of spending so many years as a minority, or at least not in the majority. Since starting college at Columbia and mostly living in Manhattan, I've spent a lot of time with well-educated liberals. I've found them full of preconceptions about me, generally based on my skin color and sex. People who know me well know that I'm open about the chip on my shoulder for being stereotyped for accidents of my birth, ironically by people who profess to oppose the racism and sexism they practice. I'm not saying I suffered on the scale of people who have faced more than I have, but then again, I've faced…

0 Comments

Whom would you call a minority in this picture?

Cleaning out my father's basement, I found my junior high school yearbook. Not really a yearbook, but a book with pictures of each class. Here's my class: Can you tell which one is me? Is it hard to tell? I can't tell you how often people have told me I don't know what it's like to live as a minority. This year wasn't my only such year. Here is the breakdown by sex and skin color. I'm a significant minority in both ways. African-AmericanWhiteAsianTotalPercentMale422835%Female11311565%Total155323Percent65%22%13% Still, I feel like many people will want to lecture me on how I'm not really a minority since . . . and then they'll come up with some explanation based on preconceptions. I think people think that living in Greenwich…

0 Comments

Talking to people about the environment is like talking to addicts about people they hurt.

I notice people rarely talk about themselves and the environment. They'll express outrage, recount facts, and say what other people should do, but not about themselves. So I'm thinking more about why. Seeing the overlap between behavioral addictions like social media, binge-watching TV, and gambling, and behavior that requires polluting reveals the overlap with why talking to addicts about their addiction goes nowhere. Addicted people resist acknowledging hurting people and themselves. Polluting and depleting hurt other people and themselves. It follows that people don't like acknowledging how they're hurting people, violating their own values. Eugene, who hosts a sister This Sustainable Life podcast and the Verdant Growth blog, recently asked people who want to talk about sustainability and the environment why they don't. I never…

1 Comment

One reason why talking to addicts about their addiction goes nowhere

I recently wrote about how Trying to lead an addict to admit their addiction or that they are hurting others (or themselves) is like trying to catch a fish with your bare hands. I've been thinking about why. Generally addiction means you're acting against your own values, hurting others. An addict may say he or she doesn't see that he or she is hurting others, but likely some part of them knows, however they try to suppress or deny. In the case of addiction to behaviors that pollute or deplete, like consuming doof or buying stuff compulsively online, the addict gets the feelings of reward but others have to suffer the pollution, being displaced from their homes to get the fuel and minerals underneath, and…

0 Comments

Readers’ Pledges to Avoid Flying

I pledged on Flight Free USA to avoid flying. Then last year, I inspired someone to avoid flying, which led to the Washington Post quoting her. At December's year-end meeting of organizers, I pledged to inspire five people in 2024 to pledge. I inspired five to pledge in January alone! A few cited my influence. All took my sustainability leadership workshop. I recommend it! Check out their pledges. Here's Evelyn's If you had asked me a little over a year ago the likelihood of me giving up intended flying for the rest of my life, I would have assured you the likelihood was slim to none, probably closer to none. I was a world traveler and proud of it. I had explored other cultures, lived…

0 Comments

“Traveling” with roller suitcases isn’t what traveling used to be

When I was in college and traveled abroad, I packed my stuff in an internal frame backpack. No big deal. It didn't make me special. I remember most people my age traveling with them. It just held my stuff and by putting most of the weight on my hips, allowed me to carry it far over most terrain. I don't remember the last time I saw someone with an internal frame backpack. I see nearly everyone pulling suitcases with little wheels. On the Beaten Path Why shouldn't they? Everywhere they want to go is paved and flat. NYU students hail from all over the world, though mainly China and the U.S. As a result, I see them constantly coming and going from flights. They get…

0 Comments

This week’s selected media: February 4, 2024: The Color of Law, The Parable of the Sower, and Slavery and Freedom

This week I couldn't use the computer much so read more than usual, including two long books and one hard-to-read one. I finished: The Color of Law: A Forgotten History of How Our Government Segregated America, by Richard Rothstein: I confess I recorded my podcast episode with Richard before reading the book, initially motivated by my mom's sharing (on her and my podcast episodes) about growing up in a mostly black ghetto that had been a working class neighborhood before we moved there. She talked about redlining and how government policy grew and sometimes created racial differences in wealth and income. Richard's book comprehensively and definitively covers the issue. It's infuriating in many ways: How does American culture and our educational system not make this…

0 Comments

745: Mattan Griffel, part 2: Is our dependence on polluting behavior “addiction”?

I have spoken and written at length how I see our relationship with polluting behavior as qualifying as addiction, a view that I think helps frame the challenge of sustainability. Overcoming addiction is harder than creating new technologies or taxing things. It takes powerful internal social and emotional skills. Just acknowledging one is addicted and harming others is a big hurdle, let alone acting on it. Not seeing the huge challenges of taking on one's addiction and trying to overcome it, facing withdrawal and so on leaves us not doing the hard work and using effective tools like listening, role models, compassion, and so on. Now multiply the number of people addicted by billions. If billions of people are addicted to flying, container ship-delivered goods,…

0 Comments

End of content

No more pages to load