This quote by the actor in the video below reveals such profound lack of awareness, you can only imagine the denial that could resolve the conflict between accepting direct government aid and welfare while decrying government aid and welfare and saying nobody helped him. I don’t know if the programs he talked about help or hurt society or him. I don’t know his situation. I only know what he said[…] Keep reading →

I wrote on my model for personal development and coaching of setting your angel free based on Michelangelo’s answer on how he carved David out of a block of marble: “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.“ My model says that since we feel most natural and people are most attracted to us when we behave free of the constraints and motivations others[…] Keep reading →

Perhaps the best honor one person can give another is to understand them and continue their legacy. I’m writing today’s post to suggest you can do that with Martin Luther King more than you think. Many people believe Einstein got bad grades, but I understand he didn’t. Martin Luther King, Jr got bad grades. He started graduate school at a school near Philadelphia called Crozer. Note among his grades —[…] Keep reading →

Many more people believe in minimalism than practice it. They want to get rid of things but fail at it. I’ve gotten decent at it and found three things work best. First, some context to understand why people fail. The best first step for solving a challenging problem is nearly always awareness. Context: why people fail to get rid of things When people think about getting rid of things, even[…] Keep reading →

Many of my clients tell me they want leadership positions. Come to think of it, many of them are already in what most people would call leadership positions. They manage people, direct them, decide on bonuses, hiring, and firing, and so on. But they aren’t satisfied with their current positions. They don’t know why. They just think they’ll like things more when they are higher on the organizational chart or[…] Keep reading →

Yesterday I wrote about freeing yourself from constraining beliefs. Today I’ll expand on creating new beliefs to free yourself from such constraints. I wanted to illustrate at least one alternative to the standard one-dimensional model of introversion and extroversion that I find impedes self-awareness, understanding, and personal growth and development. Many people continue to believe it because they have no alternative that helps their life more. Others rigidly hold on[…] Keep reading →

Growing and developing as a person means changing. Changing deeply held beliefs is hard. When people talk about getting out of their comfort zones, changing deeply held beliefs is one of the major places. Most people can’t do it. They have beliefs they can’t get rid of. They don’t even distinguish between their beliefs (something inside their heads) and the object of their beliefs (something outside their heads). They confuse[…] Keep reading →

I’m so swept up by SIDCHAs I made a series for them. Click here for the SIDCHA series. Do you want success or failure? Do you want to lead yourself or to follow others? Do you want a shot at greatness or mediocrity? Do you want resilience from feeling bad when things don’t go your way or do you want your emotions to wreak havoc with you when things inevitably[…] Keep reading →

Yesterday’s clip on Ike deciding whether to risk sending tens of thousands of men into potentially pointless suicide missions with losses up to seventy percent didn’t show how he followed up. Those paratroopers were the first wave of the invasion, to jump the night before the amphibious invasion. He decided to send them. What do you do when you decide to send tens of thousands of young men possibly to[…] Keep reading →