Nonjudgment


I Saw A Guy Eating Ice Cream With Zero Joy

Over the weekend I went to Washington Square Park to read, so I was there for a couple hours. It was a beautiful, sunny day. Bright and just hot enough that you'd want to avoid the sun but not so hot that you couldn't stand it. A guy sat on a bench diagonally across from me with a cup of ice cream from a nearby store. Besides him, I would guess at least three-quarters of the people there brought something disposable. Litter blew everywhere in the breeze, but everyone's collective behavior isn't my point. He stuck the plastic disposable spoon into the ice cream and scooped out all the spoon could hold---a dollop close to the size of a ping pong ball. He put the…

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At a loss for words at people playing with their fat

I'm no Shakespeare, but I think I express myself well with words. Despite everyone telling me to use it more, I don't use social media that much. Someone shared the video below. I tried to describe it to someone. I said, "These two women were showing off their fat and it looked like. . ." And I found myself unable to find anything else in nature or my experience that their fat falling on the table resembled. As far as I can tell, they seem happy. If they're happy and posting videos of their happiness, I support them sharing what they choose to share. I fear I'm losing touch with American culture, though. @chubbyrosehips ##stitch with @jess.subject22 lmfao XD I'm down 70 lbs and 1…

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Should streams have rights? Should corporations?

Anyone who knows me knows how much I love spending time in nature and want to conserve it so it can regenerate. Still, even I considered the idea of giving rights to animals and nature weird and possibly counter productive. This article's headline made me cringe at first, Streams and lakes have rights, a US county decided. Now they're suing Florida: How can streams have rights? How can they sue? If we give them rights, what else will we give rights to? How do we assign interest to brainless things? I learned about this movement years ago. The article above linked to a recent history of it in another article, It's only natural: the push to give rivers, mountains and forests legal rights. What about…

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Would you rather eat as much as you want or have someone cook for you and serve you?

Do you have the same issue: I almost can't stop eating until I'm full. My only way to keep from putting on fat is to eat only fresh vegetables, fruit, whole grains, nuts, and food, not doof. Luckily it's delicious and affordable. I don't remember eating at any restaurants that served only food, not doof. They seem to add salt, sugar, and fat to everything, even expensive places with reputations for healthy food. I've learned to dislike eating out or packaged products partly because they cost more, don't taste as good, and take more time, but mainly because I can't eat as much of them. I would have to stop if I could. The choice between preparing and eating at home versus eating out or…

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A lovable bigot is still a bigot and a lovable polluter still pollutes.

Kids today might not have watched All in the Family, but it was huge in its time and focused on a clash of cultures. Quoting Wikipedia, All in the Family is an American television series that ran for nine seasons, from 1971 to 1979.The show revolves around the life of a working-class father and his family. It broke ground on issues previously considered unsuitable for a U.S. network television comedy, such as racism, antisemitism, infidelity, homosexuality, women's liberation, rape, religion, miscarriages, abortion, breast cancer, the Vietnam War, menopause, and impotence. Through these controversial issues, the series became one of television's most influential comedies, bringing dramatic moments and realistic, topical conflicts.All in the Family is often regarded in the US as one of the greatest television…

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The Weather Is Warm. Guess Who’s Back in Washington Square Park, Sadly?

You might remember my writing about the needles I'd find in Washington Square Park last fall. I presumed they came from heroin users, though I don't know what drugs people inject. You may have noticed I haven't written about them for a while. Well, I've continued my sidcha of picking up at least three pieces of litter from the northwest corner of the park and the cannabis dealers have been there every day, but the heroin users disappeared from the park over the winter. Now they're back. I'm writing about it because I've noticed the difference between them and the weed dealers and I've been challenging myself to describe the difference. The weed dealers seem like businessmen. I've talked to a few. They're lucid. They…

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“I refuse to be silenced because you’re afraid of change”

The Guardian published the following opinion piece, By breaking the silence about patriarchy, men can help end violence against women. I copied the first few paragraphs below. If you don't find its stereotyping abhorrent, consider the two rewrites that follow, which I consider abhorrent. To clarify, my goal is to increase equality between sexes, not endorsing political views. I am pointing out one simple observation: the article's treatment of one group for an accident of their birth or based on others' stereotypes would be seen as abhorrent for other groups. I contend it's equally abhorrent to do it with men. More than abhorrent, it perpetuates sexism, presumably what people want to stop. If you feel compelled to point out differences, of course I know there…

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“Do black men have a harder struggle in life than most? Are white men privileged?” see me on a Magamedia panel

Readers have given me positive feedback on my appearance on the politically conservative, Trump-supporting media outlet Magamedia. I value interacting with people with diverse views. The other day, I participated in a panel there prompted by a Congressional candidate from California facing criticism for posting an artwork representing the experience of black men. We examined the situation from a range of perspectives. https://youtu.be/TTj9w_uu8oY I'd love your thoughts, whether you agree with any of the views or not, what you think of my appearing there, what you might have done differently, or whatever your thoughts.

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Pandemic Fatigue? How to Achieve Pandemic Thriving

I posted on handling what people call pandemic fatigue to Thrive Global today: Pandemic Fatigue? How to Achieve Pandemic Thriving. Here's the text of the article: When I learned I would be locked down indefinitely, knowing we were all heading into unknown territory, I looked for role models. Who had handled such a situation successfully? Nelson Mandela had been locked down for twenty-seven years, most of that time on a cold island, breaking rocks, with a bucket for a toilet. He negotiated with presidents of the nation that locked him up and emerged to get their jobs. I could see what was possible under lock down. While he remained imprisoned, the world celebrated his seventieth birthday with a global celebration. Over six hundred million people…

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See me on MAGAMedia.org on the election

Following up my conversation last week See me on a MAGAMedia panel with five Trump supporters, here is another conversation I had with my friend Rob (@robjh1), one-on-one. We covered a few topics, then mostly settled in on the election---was it a fraud or not? What evidence is there? What do people who feel one way feel about those they disagree with? I can't figure out how to embed the video, but click here or the image. We talked about different views of the election. As before, my goal is not to persuade or debate but to understand, partly to challenge. I'd love your thoughts on what each of us said. It's not what I find in the mainstream media, but millions of my neighbors…

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See me on a MAGAMedia panel with five Trump supporters

It's been a while since I appeared on MAGAMedia, but I spoke on a panel with them last week. Here are some of my past appearances. Here is the post to MAGAMedia, MAGAMedia Podcast With Guests Agnes Gibboney, Joshua Spodek, Bebe, and Shawn [Video], and below is the video. My goal in participating was not to debate or win, but to share my views and learn others'. I've read a lot of views disputing Biden's win by a margin President Trump described as a "landslide," but not heard people describing it in conversation. Given our different views, I would much rather engage and communicate openly with people and communities who see things differently than to disengage and write off the possibility of meaningful communication. I…

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What makes America great and our greatest vulnerability

People disagree on how great or not great America is. Some say we've lost our edge in this area or that. Others say we excel in everything. By some measures like GDP we've outperformed others for generations. Our military dominates others in total size and firepower. We've almost never been invaded. What makes us excel when we do? I'll answer this question from my perspective not to say good, bad, right, or wrong---only to share my view and what it suggests. Many Americans would like to say it's the people, but people here are like people everywhere. We share DNA. Some might say our Constitution does it, but other nations have copied it more or less. What sets us apart? The map below I think…

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Lower Manhattan Off the Hook

I was here when Obama replaced George W. Bush. People were dancing in the street. This time is bigger. Lower Manhattan hasn't been this happy for years. Friends and colleagues from around the world are emailing congratulations. For me personally, since I love my sustainability work, I look forward to losing the government pushing to sell public lands to fossil fuel interests, disregarding pollution, and such---not having to swim upstream as much. America has some of the most beautiful natural land in the world and a long history of stewardship, however little nearly everyone today has strayed from it. For all the joy people feel now, I believe they'll feel more when we're breathing cleaner air and everything that comes with it. Still, I don't…

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What do you think, feel, and do when you see an addicted person?

I see more people in my neighborhood, especially my neighborhood park---Washington Square Park---addicted to I don't know what. My whole life, I've never been far from seeing addiction. I don't think I've known anyone uncontrollably addicted. Lately, in my daily picking up litter from the northwest corner of Washington Square Park, regulars there have started conversations with me. Our longest conversation lasted about thirty to forty-five minutes. One guy made a point to point out how many people there are at the end of their lines and that you can't imagine being there without having experienced. I don't know where the relationships will lead, if anywhere. What do you think when you see or talk to someone addicted to, say, heroin or crack? I don't…

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Ask not “how bad does it have to get before people act?”

People ask "How bad does it have to get for people to act?", "How many once-every-five-hundred year storms must we face in back-to-back years before we do something?", and similar questions. These questions arise from the belief that we only act to allay our own suffering, as best I can tell. I used to ask them too. They, and the model prompting, them aren't the only places we can start from. They aren't even effective. If we wait until we suffer before acting, the most polluting people---generally the richest---will never act. They have the resources to protect themselves, so they'll never feel the pain. What to ask A more relevant and useful question is "Who has acted in situations like this and how were they…

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It seems I eat food homeless people throw away

When the pandemic began, New York City began a program of giving free meals to anyone---no one turned away. The meals usually consist of a sandwich, a piece of fruit, a bag of chips, some cookies, some baby carrots, a tub of hummus, and about eight ounces of milk. In other words a mix of food and doof. Partly the program feeds hungry people, partly I suspect it funds doof producers. Since people get that food in a package, a side effect of the program is that people throw away what they don't want. How do I know? I keep seeing plastic bags with food in them on the sidewalk. I conclude what people who get the bags like and don't like by what they…

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Let’s talk about Race and White Privilege, Parts 1 and 2

As Rob Harper asked in the YouTube page: Can only white people be racist? Can black people be racist? What do you think when you see the police? What exactly is white privilege? Can blacks be privileged? Do all lives matter or just some and whose black lives? https://youtu.be/CLft33sJmmM As Rob and I speak more (here is his appearance on my podcast and my appearance on his, among many other recordings we've done since), we're speaking more candidly about more challenging subjects. We started talking about life under lockdown. We're speaking more about race now. My part of the conversation reflects my exploring speaking on the topic more recently---with bottles being thrown at me, being chastised for being a white male lacking diversity, and things…

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355: I balance values the same as anyone

People constantly suggest they have to balance different values as if I didn't. It came up in a recent conversation so I shared about it today. An element I factor in is how my pollution affects others---not just what I know about or wish I contributed, but what I actually contribute. Yet people think I factor in nothing else. It's weird to learn people see you as one-dimensional. If they felt others viewed them as they see me, they'd be insulted.

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Should we make stupid shit illegal?
Enjoy Coca-cola!

Should we make stupid shit illegal?

To clarify, I'm not serious about the following, as implementing it except by a democratic process people considered fair, but I consider it worth talking about. Sometimes crazy, impractical ideas spark useful, practical ones. Should we make stupid shit illegal? We make drunk driving and selling cigarettes to children illegal and no one complains they're evidence of a nanny state. How about doof? People can't stop buying and gorging on food engineered around craving, where its pleasure comes from salt, sugar, fat, convenience, and novelty. I don't care if people's habits burden them, but the CDC reports heart disease, diabetes, and obesity cost us more than half a trillion dollars per year. Enjoy Coca-cola! How crazy is it to consider beyond taxing sodas, making doof…

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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment
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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment

A friend recommended to me an exercise I hadn't heard of. It sounds like the Three Raisins exercise I learned from Jon Kabat-Zinn, included in my leadership book, and assign in my leadership class. She didn't explain much about it, but my experience with experiential exercises told me that doing it would reveal more than any explanation. The exercise The instructions: Drink a hot beverage and when I think judgmental thoughts like, "it's too hot" or "it's too strong", switch to thinking descriptive thoughts. The instructions didn't suggest much to expect, but it didn't look too hard either. I just finished the exercise. What I did Since I drink nearly only water, I didn't know what to drink. I went to the kitchen figuring I'd…

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Americans mistake

Americans mistake entitlement for luxury comfort and convenience for happiness effort for misery flying for adventure pleasure for emotional reward upvotes for friendship social media for community video games for fun takeout for culture cheap for value volume for quality test scores for knowledge etc and wonder why so many end up addicted to opiates, sugar, etc. The observation probably applies to many modern cultures, but I'm here in the US, seeing all the garbage by the side of the road---beer cans more than anything else, so they're drinking and driving. We can do better.

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Three Latest Videos on New York City’s lockdown with Me and Magamedia.org’s Rob Harper

I can't describe the unexpected fun and growth coming from my conversations with Rob. When I learned of Ruth Bader Ginsburg's friendship with Antonin Scalia, I couldn't get it. How could one tolerate someone who worked to make the world the opposite of what they wanted, especially with the stakes so high? Reading John Stuart Mill's On Liberty, I intellectually understood his point that you have to share your ideas to have them challenged or you don't know what you're talking about. I didn't internalize it. Living with two people---my mom and stepfather---who look on Trump with disdain, I think all three of us are surprised at the friendship and conversations Rob and I are creating. I think my surprise is pleasant. Theirs is more…

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My Question Journal

In yesterday's podcast conversation, educational leader Tony Wagner suggested starting and keeping a question journal as a way of keeping curious and young. At least, I took how he described it that way. I don't know if people have found ways to make them work better, but I've learned that starting first leads to improving faster than trying to start perfectly. As I put it, I have low standards the first time. [EDIT: After posting I searched "question journal" to find examples to learn from, but found nothing relevant, only books with questions to prompt journal writing. I'll keep looking, but I expected something. Maybe Tony and I are blazing a trail.] Questions How do you plant a tree?How do you make a pizza crust…

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See my second appearance on Magamedia.org

Rob and Andrew at Magamedia.org invited me back, this time for a three-way conversation: Maga Media Podcast ep35: Guest Joshua Spodek| Climate Change, Coronavirus & the Great American Lockdown. EDIT: I recommend everyone watch these videos on preventing pandemics including COVID-19, considering how much our behavior is causing them: Pandemics: History & PreventionCan we stop a future pandemic? Dr. Michael Greger M.D explains what's next. Their notes for this episode are brief: "Rob & Andrew speak with guest Joshua Spodek on Climate change, the Coronavirus and The Great American Lockdown. Joshua is a professor at NYU and blogger. Check out his website: joshuaspodek.com". Here's the video: https://youtu.be/f8rExtvHn70 If my appearing on a site so supportive of President Trump---few I know consider him helping the Earth's…

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