Category Archives: Relationships

A chapter of my life, in the words of a massively bestselling author

on January 30, 2022 in Nonjudgment, Relationships, Stories

Regular readers of my blog and listeners of my podcast know that before I started coaching executives and leading famous people and after decades of struggling with social and emotional skills, limiting my intimacy, especially with women, I dove headlong into learning attraction skills. I shared about it in depth in my Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll series on my podcast, where I was the guest, particularly the episode[…] Keep reading →

Why grocery stores destroy food: Serving the market versus serving people

on January 24, 2022 in Relationships

When farmers grow for CSAs (where buyers like me pick up a weekly drop-off direct from the farm), they grow for specific people. They’re motivated to grow for flavor and quantity most, it seems, as a customer who keeps buying from his CSA because the flavor is out of this world and the quantity for the price is high. When farmers grow for a farmers market, they grow for the[…] Keep reading →

The three people who understand my sustainability least

on December 16, 2021 in Relationships

As I mentioned in my post on the biggest chips on my shoulder, the three people who understand my sustainability leadership work least: My dad, my mom, and my stepfather. For my father, as best I can tell, his impact on the environment and the people and other life in it are always trumped by family and his desire to travel. I think he understands that there are environmental problems[…] Keep reading →

A gift your partner will love receiving. No cost or waste. Minutes to prepare.

on November 26, 2021 in Creativity, Relationships, Tips

Following up on my post yesterday about Buy Nothing Season, I came up with a gift idea that costs nothing, takes almost no time to prepare, and only uses a sheet of scrap paper. I don’t know about you, but I would love to receive it. I think it would build a relationship. I doubt I came up with it. More likely I heard it a while ago and it[…] Keep reading →

What do you think is the main thing that makes a healthy, long lasting relationship?

on May 24, 2021 in Relationships

I don’t often mention here how before coaching executives in the social and emotional skills of leadership, I coached mostly men and a few women on the social and emotional skills of attraction and dating. I still do, but less so, although most of my clients touch on it at some point in our coaching relationship. Intimacy and vulnerability in any area touch on intimate relationships. I mention it more[…] Keep reading →

Vasectomies aren’t about fewer children. They’re about more sex.

on April 10, 2021 in Freedom, Nature, Relationships

When you talk about population as often as I do, the topic of vasectomies and other forms of contraception arises. People think vasectomies are about not having children. They’re not. A discovery I made about a different surgery will clarify. Almost two decades ago I got lasik surgery for my eyes. One day I needed glasses, the next I didn’t. I thought lasik gave me 20/20 vision, but that’s not[…] Keep reading →

“I refuse to be silenced because you’re afraid of change”

on March 22, 2021 in Freedom, Nonjudgment, Relationships

The Guardian published the following opinion piece, By breaking the silence about patriarchy, men can help end violence against women. I copied the first few paragraphs below. If you don’t find its stereotyping abhorrent, consider the two rewrites that follow, which I consider abhorrent. To clarify, my goal is to increase equality between sexes, not endorsing political views. I am pointing out one simple observation: the article’s treatment of one[…] Keep reading →

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