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Monthly Archives: November 2013

I never take responsibility for someone else’s emotions.

posted by Joshua on September 30, 2013 in Blog, Nature

I try to understand people. I think doing so improves my relationships with them and my understanding of myself. I find feeling compassion for others helps me improve my relationships with them too. Same with empathy. I find taking responsibility for my emotions helps me improve my life and keeps me from blaming others. I[…] Keep reading →

Jack Welch’s Gardening Model of Leadership

posted by Joshua on September 29, 2013 in Blog, Leadership

If you read this blog you know I write a lot about beliefs and mental models and how they filter how you perceive your environment and influence your motivations and behavior. If you’ve read my series on my Model or taken my leadership seminar, you know that models can diverge from what you perceive with[…] Keep reading →

A doubly improved representation of Flow-related emotional states

posted by Joshua on September 28, 2013 in Awareness, Models, Visualization

A couple years ago I wrote two posts on the emotional state where you get so lost in an activity you lose track of time, focused with all your attention. Hours pass without your noticing while minutes may seem like hours as you focus intently. We like this state. A researcher named Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi studied[…] Keep reading →

Oops! Haha … did I say four miles? … Uh, I meant seven.

posted by Joshua on September 27, 2013 in Blog, Fitness

I didn’t mean to write yesterday’s post on starting with emotion on exercise, food, and habits. I meant to contrast how I like to exercise with how people who don’t exercise seem to and then to tell today’s story. People who don’t exercise seem to characterize it as torture and dislike it. I see it as[…] Keep reading →

Start with emotions if you want to motivate yourself … or anyone else

posted by Joshua on September 26, 2013 in Blog, Fitness, Nature

I find Americans try to get precise and scientific about food and exercise, in contrast to how incredibly unfit the country is. I write “try to” because I don’t think they succeed in being precise or scientific. The term carbohydrate, for example, used to have a specific scientific meaning. I think it still does, but[…] Keep reading →

An example of effective, understated leadership

posted by Joshua on September 25, 2013 in Blog, Education, Leadership

I wanted to share an example of effective leadership I once saw. When I was in graduate school, Columbia was considering its policy on allowing the military to have programs like ROTC on campus or not and held hearings anyone in the university could attend to speak their mind. I attended one. The President of the[…] Keep reading →