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The Ethicist: My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere?

on November 19, 2017 in Ethicist

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere?” I am in my mid-60s and have been happily married for decades. I have always been a very sexual person and consider myself healthy and normal, though at one end of the bell curve. A few years ago, my wife’s health[…] Keep reading →

Would you give a friend heroin?

on November 18, 2017 in Fitness, Habits, Stories

My LinkedIn post today, “Would you give a friend heroin?,” began Would you give a friend heroin? A few months ago the host of a podcast I was on sent me a package of brownies to thank me for appearing on his show. The brownies were prepackaged and looked like this: A younger me would have eaten them right away. My longtime readers know several reasons I wouldn’t eat them. First, they[…] Keep reading →

I’m going to watch a lot more TV

on November 17, 2017 in Fitness, Habits, SIDCHAs

Fun with language Longtime readers may remember that most of my life I ate chips, pretzels, and ice cream almost daily. I felt helpless to stop. It was frustrating. A few years ago I switched to fruit, nuts, and vegetables for snacks. I’m never going back. I wrote about how I started calling a head of cabbage a bag of chips in my post How to eat a bag of[…] Keep reading →

Texting enables lateness… and now everyone is late to everything

on November 16, 2017 in Blog

You’re preparing for an appointment. You realize you may be late. Then you realize you can text that you’re on your way. You think: keeping them waiting isn’t so bad knowing you had a problem and will be a few minutes late. Whew! That was close. You almost faced results for being late but got out of it. When you’re texting you’ll be late, it feels like a minor get-out-of-jail-free[…] Keep reading →

It takes effort to learn to eat more vegetables and legumes

on November 15, 2017 in Nature, Perception

I grew up learning to avoid eating as much as I could or wanted. That is, I learned to try to stop eating before I was full. Eating became an exercise in self-restraint. It was hard. I don’t think I picked up this practice from my parents. I think it came from society. I think I learned to view food as unhealthy, all the more so the better it tasted.[…] Keep reading →

The Coat of the Future: Bring on the Winter

on November 14, 2017 in

My Inc. post yesterday, “The Coat of the Future: Bring on the Winter,” began The Coat of the Future: Bring on the Winter When the temperature dropped into the 20s, I was prepared, looked great, and lived by my values. A couple years ago on a winter vacation toward the end of my last parka’s life, I saw a beautiful coat. Despite the designer name it was affordable. But I[…] Keep reading →

6 Lessons I Learned Teaching Leadership With a 4-Star General at West Point

on November 13, 2017 in Education,, Leadership

My Inc. story today, “6 Lessons I Learned Teaching Leadership With a 4-Star General at West Point,” began 6 Lessons I Learned Teaching Leadership With a 4-Star General at West Point What I learned teaching leadership with a four-star general at West Point. Who is America’s greatest leader? Longtime readers of my column will remember Six Lessons I Learned at Lunch With the Best Leader in America, where I called Frances Hesselbein the nation’s[…] Keep reading →