Nonjudgment


If your pollution causes extreme weather, you’re extreme, not me.

There's no mystery what causes more forest fires than ever: our polluting, depleting behavior causing global warming. If your behavior causes fires like humanity has never seen before, you are extreme for causing extreme results, not me for behaving traditionally. Not flying is normal. Jesus didn't fly. George Washington didn't fly. Abraham Lincoln didn't fly. Power grids are not normal. The Buddha never plugged into an electric grid, nor did Mary Wollstonecraft, Laozi, or Aristotle. Adding 80 million people per year to our population isn't normal either. Meanwhile, you and your extreme polluting behavior make New York City look like a nightmare, as if California experiencing more for years wasn't enough or millions of people dying annually. It's not hard never to fly again, never…

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People who pollute are judgmental and defensive

I didn't pay attention to it, but now that I do, people who pollute judge nonstop on sustainability issues. They also defend themselves even when the issue has nothing to do with them. I think they feel judged, which tells me they know they are doing something they believe is wrong. They can't resolve this internal conflict so suppress and deny it. Then when the issue comes up, they feel judgment and blame whoever brought it up for their feeling guilt and shame. They call me extreme for living as sustainably as all humans did until about a century ago, but it seems easier to me to resolve the inner conflict by not doing what I believe is wrong so I don't cause my own…

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Do you value family over sustainability?

Over and over people tell me they care about the environment but family comes first. Their parent is sick and they've chosen to live flying distance away, they married a spouse from another country and feel they have to fly there twice a year, and things like that. Okay, say family is important enough to disregard hurting other people. Imagine someone else wanted to see their parent, suddenly hospitalized, but for them to do so, your home would be demolished, you would be put in a refugee camp, and your water sources would be polluted. If they wanted a cell phone to keep track of their child, your child would be put to hard labor, maybe given a birth defect like the child below, from…

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The Ruling Race: Quotes on those who improve their lives on the suffering of others, corrupting them

Podcast guest James Oakes's book The Ruling Race describes the demographics, beliefs, and views of slaveholders in the U.S. south. They are no more or less human than you. The book reveals how being on the dominant side of a dominance hierarchy corrupts one's values. Following the What is Politics? podcast by podcast guest Daniel, I've learned that dominance hierarchies emerge when two conditions apply: one person or group can control access to a needed resource and others have no alternative. When you see a hierarchy giving one group dominance over another, look for the necessary resource that group can control to and how the group subjugated lacks alternatives. Want to remove the hierarchy? Work on that control and lack of alternatives. Today, I see…

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Waking before the alarm, writing in the dark

I told a friend how sometimes when I wake up before the alarm I get my best ideas. Most of the time I don't write them down, figuring if they're important enough, I'll remember them when I wake up for the day. I learned the habit of not trying to save everything during my first silent meditation retreat. They don't let attendees bring anything to write with. At first I recoiled: "What about all the things I learn?!" Then during the first couple days I tried to keep track of every thought, trying to remember them for the rest of life. I'd write them after the retreat. It didn't take long to realize that I came up with memorable thoughts a dozen times every hour-long…

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Living in the 21st century means there are a million ways to connect and they all break.

I can't believe I haven't posted this topic before. I say this phrase nearly every day: Living in the 21st century means there are a million ways to connect and they all break. Everyone agrees. No one even hints otherwise. On the contrary, they share stories. [EDIT: After posting this post I see I did post this topic before: The 21st Century: dozens of ways to communicate . . . and all of them break. Sorry to repeat myself, though it's been over two years since that post and I still hit bugs in media almost daily.]

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Fossil fuels and slavery from a systems perspective (new diagrams)

You've heard my conversations with award-winning authors, scholars, and other experts on slavery. With a couple I've talked about the connection between that system and ours. Most of the time, I've thought of the connection as an analogy. For a while, I've seen the connection as closer. Andrew Hoffman, University of Michigan professor in its business school and its School of Natural Resources and Environment, wrote of his discovering the historical connection between slavery and fossil fuels: The first time these two concepts were linked for me was seven years ago, when a senior oil industry executive in London asked me a rhetorical question: "If it wasn’t for oil, where would we get our energy?” His answer, to my astonishment, was “slavery” The book Industrial…

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Poor people throwing away food

Regular readers know I volunteer to bring food from stores that throw away stock at the end of the day to a community center. Nearly all that food is fresh. It hasn't gone bad, they just have new shipments coming in and have to make space. The system is broken. I'm just trying to keep some waste from entering landfills and into peoples' stomachs. Sometimes people donate food from other sources. This evening when I dropped off my delivery, a guy from a non-profit was dropping off a bunch of produce from an event or their office, mostly bruised and overripe, but still edible and tasty. When the guy delivering it left, the people at the community center, a mix of volunteers and guests, started…

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If Exxon Knew, So Did You. Today in 1988, Climate Change made the front page in the New York Times

As the title said, today 34 years ago---Friday, June 24, 1988---the New York Times printed on the front page, above the fold as its main headline: Global Warming Has Begun, Expert Tells Senate If Exxon Knew, So Did You A lot of people say Exxon knew and therefore are guilty of crimes for not acting on it. Well, front page of the New York Times means it's no secret. You knew. Besides scale, I see more similarity than difference in how individuals respond than Exxon. I'm not saying they're innocent. But if they're guilty, why isn't everyone who bought their gas, paid for flights, and so on? Just because you consider someone guilty for something big doesn't mean someone who does that thing on a…

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James Bond: revolting?

There are two types of political revolution, at least. One changes the type of government. The American Revolution replaced a monarchy with a democracy. The other changes the person in charge but keeps the system. Many coups result in the second type. I'm not sure they qualify as revolutions, but people call them revolutions. What does James Bond have to do with revolutions? I recently saw the last James Bond movie, No Time to Die. I counted six bad guys, or five bad ones and one would-be good guy whose hubris caused the big problem. The main bad guy is Lyutsifer Safin, who kills people left and right, builds the lair Bond has to infiltrate, and so on. He even engineers killing the second bad…

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Assaulted again in broad daylight

In Washington Square Park, I was sitting on a bench talking to a friend. A person came up and, unprovoked, started threatening me. I've written and recorded podcast episodes about the many times I've been assaulted and mugged, as far back as some of my earliest memories. I understand "battery" means physically hurting someone and "assault" means threatening it, which this person did. It began by him approaching and starting to say something. As he did, I said, "I'm sorry, we're in a conversation." He just went off on that, menacing and threatening for no reason I could tell. I stayed mostly calm, doing my best to talk him down. After a few minutes he walked away without touching or hurting me. I feel compelled…

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I loathe being interrupted, but here’s when to do it. I’ll thank you for it.
Man stopping domino effect on wooden table. Business success concept. Copy space.

I loathe being interrupted, but here’s when to do it. I’ll thank you for it.

I can't stand when people interrupt me. I don't like myself when I do it either. But there is at least one time when I would consider you my friend for interrupting me. More than interruptions, I can't stand when someone who can do something and believes they should but has filled their head and heart with some cockamamie limiting belief. They say they can't get in shape, get promoted, learn some skill, save money, eat healthy, stop polluting, and so on for reasons if they looked in their hearts they'd know where lies, but palliative, comfortable lies. They don't say them for others to believe them. They say them for themselves to sleep at night. Since they don't even say them out loud to…

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What if you believe life begins at conception? Is that belief part of diversity and inclusion?

Abortion is in the news, which hinges on when a sperm and egg transition to becoming a life protected by the law. My world is filled with people whose beliefs in the supernatural differ from mine and whose conflicts with others' supernatural beliefs cause suffering and death around the world. Their justification seems to be nothing more than strong feeling that they're right, yet people they disagree with justify themselves similarly. And they kill each other for it. My readers probably don't kill others directly, but you probably believe things that justify behavior that causes others to suffer without you realizing it. My point is that we live in a world with diverse views that we accept. Most people I know, including you, I bet,…

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Reading and listening to the Christian Bible

I'll tell you a great relieving feeling of my life. It comes from stories non-straight friends have shared, as well as stories from non-straight people I've read. They tell me of being raised in a mostly straight world, expected to be straight. Everyone's story is unique, but several have shared of realizing they never were straight. They may have gone through the motions and even felt it at times, but they never were. That experience resonates with my being raised in a predominantly religious world, expected to be religious. I had to go to Jewish day school every school day from kindergarten through sixth grade, then Sunday school for years later, was brought to synagogue many Saturdays and holidays, and was forced to participate in…

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The book The Moral Case for Fossil Fuels; freedom, ingenuity, progress, and related books, videos, and resources.

I've read a lot of books and watched a lot of movies on the environment and leadership. The ones I find most valuable I put on my environmental leadership resource page. Recently, I read the New York Times bestseller The Moral Case for Fossil Fuels by Alex Epstein. I put a brief summary of his case, as I understand it, at the bottom of this post. I had seen the title before but was prompted to read by reading the Master Resource blog and a conversation with podcast guest (and now friend), Michael Carlino. From Master Resource's About page: MasterResource is a forum about energy markets and public policy. Precisely because energy is the lifeblood of the modern economy – the “master resource” that affects…

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Who sees the other as more racist and sexist, the left or the right?

I think both the political left and right want to end racism and sexism, but as best I can tell, each considers the other as racist and sexist to the core, while they see their own movement as maybe having had some of each in its past, but it's made them less so for the lessons. Can you tell which group seems more racist and sexist from the other's perspective? I'd guess they see the other nearly how the other sees them. If I didn't see it, I can't imagine dreaming such a situation, yet it permeates this country. I wish people could rise above misunderstanding the side they aren't so much.

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One of the tragedies of addiction

The tragedy I want to point out today isn't on the scale of people losing their futures or their lives, or funding the organizations that supply the cause of the addiction and death, like drug cartels, the Sackler family, McDonald's, or their peers. (I would bet of the drug cartels, Sackler family, and McDonald's, McDonald's and its doof caused the loss of more cumulative years of life than the other two). The tragedy is when you know someone who is addicted but in denial, lying to you, themselves, and everyone to distract from the addiction others can see, hurting people with these lies, thinking only of themselves and their next hit, doing what they have to to make it happen. It hurts to see an…

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Fossil fuels and slavery from a systems perspective

You've heard my conversations with award-winning authors, scholars, and other experts on slavery. With a couple I've talked about the connection between that system and ours. Most of the time, I've thought of the connection as an analogy. For a while, I've seen the connection as closer. Andrew Hoffman, University of Michigan professor in its business school and its School of Natural Resources and Environment, wrote of his discovering the historical connection between slavery and fossil fuels: The first time these two concepts were linked for me was seven years ago, when a senior oil industry executive in London asked me a rhetorical question: "If it wasn’t for oil, where would we get our energy?” His answer, to my astonishment, was “slavery” The book Industrial…

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If Columbus statues should be removed, what about our behavior today?

You've likely read that many places are taking down statues of Columbus. Here's a CBS News story from 2020, Dozens of Christopher Columbus statues have been removed since June. There are plenty of stories explaining why. The story above says, Protests have targeted Columbus because he is accused of the genocide of indigenous people. A 2019 study published in the journal Quaternary Science Review estimated that between 1492 and 1600, about 55 million people in the Americas died. The Taíno people were virtually wiped out in the decades after Columbus first arrived on the island of Hispaniola, where Haiti and the Dominican Republic sit today.  55 million people in over a century is a lot. Columbus didn't kill all of them. He was part of…

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Nuclear and renewables look like methadone

I wrote how I found someone's suboxone and syringes on a picnic table in the park a few weeks ago. I had to look up suboxone. It's like methadone. I didn't really know what methadone was, but knew the name better than suboxone so I'll describe methadone, then connect it to sustainability. Here's what it does: How Methadone WorksWhen people become addicted to heroin, they crave the drug so strongly that, even when they know what consequences they face as a result of their heroin use, they are unable to stay away from the drug. This makes relapse to heroin use incredibly likely after detox. Often, those struggling with heroin addiction experience multiple episodes of relapse on their road to recovery.In some instances, methadone can…

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Liberals: get your stories straight, part 1: individual ability and responsibility.

I'll start with a liberal inconsistency relevant to sustainability, not that they monopolize them or are the most egregious, but I have to start somewhere. Mention anything related to my environmental footprint or personal action to many liberals and I'd better prepare for them to lecture me on how BP publicized the concept to deflect blame from them to individuals, or some similar reason why their or my actions don't matter. I think they partly want to show off how smart they are knowing about BP's nefarious plots, or think they are, but mostly I think they want to rationalize that they don't want to sacrifice their creature comforts, like flying, takeout, and such. Their intended message: "You can't change the system through individual action.…

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When does a human life begin when we can clone?

Does a human life begin at conception or some time after? I can see arguments for at conception, at birth, and some time between. I believe most people today would be horrified at it, but I think when infant mortality was higher, people wouldn't consider a life viable until after a few days or even years. Various cultures have traditions that mark the beginning of life well after birth. What if we can clone humans? What if we could clone---that is, create a new human from any other human cell? If you believe life begins at viable cell, does that not make every human cell everywhere the equivalent of a fertilized egg? Say we created a cloning machine. Would we not be obliged to create…

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A chapter of my life, in the words of a massively bestselling author

Regular readers of my blog and listeners of my podcast know that before I started coaching executives and leading famous people and after decades of struggling with social and emotional skills, limiting my intimacy, especially with women, I dove headlong into learning attraction skills. I shared about it in depth in my Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll series on my podcast, where I was the guest, particularly the episode on sex. For years, I kept that identity secret out of fear of people with loud voices and preconceived notions that society listened to more than people like me: a guy who had to go out of his way to learn social and emotional skills. Now I don't promote it, but I don't hide it…

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What God meant by fruitful and dominion.

Major cultural touchstones and motivators for many people to growing material production, sales, and population are the words "be fruitful and multiply" and "have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth." People nearly universally misunderstand both parts. You can be fruitful by living a sweet life and you can multiply by multiplying happiness. To live a sweet life and multiply happiness sounds divine. Even if you interpret the first part to mean to have offspring, which isn't a given, the second part would limit that growth. For one thing, you can't have dominion over something extinct. Human overpopulation and overconsumption are causing millions of species to go extinct.…

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More places I’d be killed for just being me

I wrote recently about the two biggest chips on my shoulder, one of them being that when I describe challenges I've faced, people keep saying that I've had an easy life, I think because they see a straight white male in the United States. When I talk to people who have lost limbs or eyesight, which seem pretty significant losses, they don't talk that way. The ones who tell me I've had life easy never ask about my experiences, they just tell me what they must have been. I've long felt scared to share my experiences, since they box me in, but I'm going to explore these areas and stop accepting their checkmating me. I have had an easier life than most people on Earth.…

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