I first fell in love in high school, 1987 or 1988—more than two-thirds of my life ago. It was on my mind a couple weeks ago, after I attended a panel discussion my friend invited me to. It turned out that I happened to know all the panelists, though not the host. Since I arrived late and sat in the back of the room, they didn’t know I was there,[…] Keep reading →

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, here is my take on today’s post, “My Wife Found My Sexy Phone Pics and Won’t Let It Go,” My wife and I have been married for just a few years. Early in our marriage I started chatting with a female acquaintance, and things got verbally sexual and eventually led to sexual pictures between the other woman and[…] Keep reading →

Continuing my series of responses to the New York Times’, The Ethicist, without imposing values, here is my take on today’s post, “Should I Help an Unjustly Fired Co-Worker?” A work colleague, a level below me, has managed to succeed despite a pattern of bad performance. She doesn’t seek feedback early or take it well, so her projects consistently become last-minute scrambles that others must fix. She has also been[…] Keep reading →

Tathra Street hosts the Tall Poppy podcast. Today she posted our wonderful conversation, which covered leadership, burpees, competition, and important things we all wish we talked about more. The top of her page says: Change – Leadership – Wisdom The top of mine used to say: Meaning – Value – Purpose You can tell we’d complement in interests. Anyway, she listened and sounded like she took what I shared to[…] Keep reading →

I’m honored and privileged for Reinvention Radio with Steve Olsher to have interviewed me. There’s nothing like live radio to make a conversation exciting and spontaneous. We did exercises from the book on the air. Now the conversation is online for you to listen to at your leisure. About Reinvention Radio: Reinvention Radio … Obliterates the limits of possibility Boldly reinvents average Unequivocally expands your knowledge Massively impacts the trajectory[…] Keep reading →

I met Emilio Ron at an event for public speakers. We started talking and he invited me to be a guest on his new podcast, Inspirational Chronicles. The following fits into the conversation we recorded: He invited me to record in the studio he set up. Somehow, despite living in Manhattan, I agreed to take the train—not even the subway, but the Long Island Railroad—all the way out to Long[…] Keep reading →

Jimmy Rohampton of Forbes caught up with and interviewed me. He posted the article today, “An Executive Coach’s Best Tips On Facebook Groups, Habits And Doing Work You Love.” Longtime readers who know how much I owe my success to writing daily in my blog will appreciate Jimmy’s page: HowToCreateABlog.org. I found the connection helped us connect and make the interview more relevant. I was delighted to find that Forbes[…] Keep reading →

Ultimately all the advice in the world leads to one simple starting point: You have to act, practice, and rehearse new skills to get their benefit and those first acts, as with any new skill, will be clumsy, embarrassing, and full of other challenges that will lead the novice to feel bad. If you try, you will fail and feel bad, worse than if you never tried, but if you[…] Keep reading →

Have you ever loved a job or person without the love resulting in more work and commitment? Did the work lead to loving it, him, or her more? But did feeling that you’d have to work more stopped you, often unconsciously, from allowing yourself to love something or someone? Do we move away from passions for the reasons we should move toward them? I call the feeling driving that inhibition,[…] Keep reading →