Category Archives: Tips

A model to replace jerks with people who improve your life

on May 22, 2013 in Blog, Exercises, Models, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Who hasn’t had to deal with an annoying coworker? Or boss? Or family member? … someone you couldn’t get away from and had to treat respectfully,[…] Keep reading →

A model for what makes a great story

on May 21, 2013 in Art, Exercises, Humor, Models, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Storytelling seems so common to all cultures it’s probably in our genes to like a good story. We love hearing messages in the format of a[…] Keep reading →

A model that explains why your enthusiasm when planning disappears when doing

on May 20, 2013 in Awareness, Evolutionary Psychology, Exercises, Models, Nature, Perception, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Scene 1: You plan something big. You’re excited. You know there will be challenges, but you also know you’ll overcome them. You will do what it[…] Keep reading →

A model to think deeper

on May 19, 2013 in Awareness, Exercises, Leadership, Models, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Have you gotten to consider and tackle the important things in your life? Do some important issues still elude you? Do you still spend time in[…] Keep reading →

A model to get in fewer arguments and influence more effectively

on May 15, 2013 in Awareness, Exercises, Models, Nonjudgment, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you get in more arguments than you’d like? Do you feel like people don’t understand you and you have to explain yourself a lot in[…] Keep reading →

A model to help accept things without judgment or feeling sorry for yourself

on May 14, 2013 in Exercises, Freedom, Models, Nonjudgment, Perception, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself and not like feeling that way? Do you get depressed or feel helpless when things don’t go your[…] Keep reading →

A model to live like beautiful people do

on May 13, 2013 in Awareness, Blog, Leadership, Tips

[Today is the forty-second in a series on daily and weekly beliefs that improve my life and may improve yours, in no particular order. See the introduction to the series and the value of flexibility in beliefs for background.] People commonly believe that beautiful women have better lives than everybody else and that they have access to more valuable things. I came across that belief a lot when I used[…] Keep reading →

A model for consistency

on May 12, 2013 in Exercises, Fitness, Habits, Models, SIDCHAs, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Do you have trouble keeping a habit going? Today’s model is my model for maintaining my daily habits. A model for consistency: If you miss one[…] Keep reading →

A model to handle pain

on May 9, 2013 in Awareness, Evolutionary Psychology, Exercises, Models, Nature, Perception, Tips

[This post is part of a series on “Mental models and beliefs: an exercise to identify yours.” If you don’t see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you’ll get more value than reading just this post.] Does pain make you miserable? I like the phrase “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” It says that pain doesn’t have to make you feel bad[…] Keep reading →

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