Monthly Archives: July 2014

Common traits among leaders and successful people across industries, fields, and disciplines

on July 31, 2014 in Education, Entrepreneurship, Leadership

A reader asked me to write about common traits of leaders and successful people across different industries and fields. Of course there’s a famous business book that covers seven of their habits. I’ll look at it from a couple different perspectives. Functional skills hold you back at higher levels Functional skills are ones to do a specific type of work, like sales, programming, engineering, marketing, and so on. Most people[…] Keep reading →

How to discipline a friend, an example

on July 30, 2014 in Leadership, Tips

How do you discipline a friend? Even when you feel they deserve it, it’s not so easy. Too harsh and you lose a friend. Too soft and they’ll do it again. I generally advise against giving advice to someone who hasn’t asked for it, but sometimes you know someone well enough. To me friendship means you’re responsible to help a friend. Below is an example of balancing things effectively. Not[…] Keep reading →

I want skills, not inborn talent, intelligence, wishes, or hope

on July 29, 2014 in Blog

Skills I can develop. If I don’t have them I can learn them. If someone else has a skill, it means I can get it too. If I value it and want it, I just have to learn it. Learning skills may take effort, time, attention, and other resources, but I can develop them. I coach skills to my clients because I find it enables them most to improve their[…] Keep reading →

Is the New Yorker following me?

on July 28, 2014 in Humor

It seems the New Yorker is following me, or at least fishing for stories in my blog. Witness the evidence in this week’s issue. Item 1 In week’s article “Swim, Swam, Swum,” Ben McGrath writes about some people thinking about swimming in the Hudson River. Four years ago, three guys had an idea: that it might be nice to swim in the East River. “It came about pretty simply,” one[…] Keep reading →

Six pack pic for accountability

on July 27, 2014 in Fitness, Freedom

Scroll down for the picture I’ve held back from posting since this site is mostly about leadership, meaning, value, importance, purpose, emotional awareness, emotional skills, etc. First a few words. I find people’s attitudes toward diet and exercise become self-righteous so I prefer not to bring up diet and exercise in conversation, so I’d generally not bring it up here. Plenty of sites show before and after pictures of people’s[…] Keep reading →

See Joshua Spodek on leadership at General Assembly, August 23

on July 26, 2014 in Education, Leadership

If you like entrepreneurship and you don’t know General Assembly, you should. They teach great courses and have built a great community around teaching relevant skills. On Saturday, August 23, 10am-5pm, I’ll lead a seminar with General Assembly on leadership in New York City. Register here, you’ll be glad you did. Here is the announcement (they use short descriptions, for a fuller description, see this announcement from an earlier event):[…] Keep reading →

There’s no point in trying to figure *everything* out

on July 25, 2014 in Awareness, Education, Nature

Do you get hung up trying to figure everything out or worry you can’t succeed if you don’t learn enough? A lot of people seem to, to the point it debilitates them. I like information, but I don’t get hung up trying to figure everything out like I used to. Another way of looking at everything I find the following perspective helps. Our minds didn’t evolve to understand everything. They[…] Keep reading →