A friend introduced me to someone he suggested I might be able to do something with. That friend has made phenomenal introductions for me before and has always given great advice, so I followed up. I met with him. I enjoyed meeting him. Near the beginning of the conversation, though, he told me he enjoyed connecting people. At the end of the conversation he told me he wanted to put[…] Keep reading →

Many of my clients tell me they want leadership positions. Come to think of it, many of them are already in what most people would call leadership positions. They manage people, direct them, decide on bonuses, hiring, and firing, and so on. But they aren’t satisfied with their current positions. They don’t know why. They just think they’ll like things more when they are higher on the organizational chart or[…] Keep reading →

If you want to change something important in your life, you’d better understand the concept called “empathy gaps.” An example of an empathy gap is when you say in December you’ll go to the gym twice a week for the next year, that you have the fortitude to do it and will simply will yourself to do it no matter what, then find yourself in February saying you’re not in[…] Keep reading →

Yesterday I wrote about freeing yourself from constraining beliefs. Today I’ll expand on creating new beliefs to free yourself from such constraints. I wanted to illustrate at least one alternative to the standard one-dimensional model of introversion and extroversion that I find impedes self-awareness, understanding, and personal growth and development. Many people continue to believe it because they have no alternative that helps their life more. Others rigidly hold on[…] Keep reading →

Growing and developing as a person means changing. Changing deeply held beliefs is hard. When people talk about getting out of their comfort zones, changing deeply held beliefs is one of the major places. Most people can’t do it. They have beliefs they can’t get rid of. They don’t even distinguish between their beliefs (something inside their heads) and the object of their beliefs (something outside their heads). They confuse[…] Keep reading →

The article “Do Women-Only Initiatives Really Help Women?” began Recently I’ve noticed an uptick in “women-focused” pitches in my inbox. It seems in the last year there has been a lot of momentum in the “women-focused” space. Women accelerators, women incubators, women crowdfunding sites, women angel funds. We’ve covered some of those initiatives here and here at Nibletz, but I have to admit I’ve been a little ambivalent about doing[…] Keep reading →

30,000 burpees! That’s a lot of burpees. I will hit that milestone tomorrow morning, or thereabouts, assuming forty burpees per day starting December 21, 2011. The first few months I ramped up from ten per day so I might have done fewer, but I’ve also done a bunch of extras to make up for eating or drinking too much unhealthy food or drink. I’ve influenced a few people to do[…] Keep reading →

A few weeks ago I posted in “Introversion is not the opposite of extroversion,” an alternative model for what people call introversion and extroversion. As you know from that post, I don’t agree with the one-dimensional model so many people believe in. It promotes complacency and I find it leads people to miss behaviors and beliefs of many people who don’t fall on that continuum who can behave like so-called[…] Keep reading →

A think a concept I wrote about the other day will become useful as a reference for the life you get if you value passive physical pleasure and comfort over emotional reward and development, which often come from actively challenging yourself and taking risks. How to create perfect comfortable life If you want to avoid physical or emotional pain, since the following things risk creating them, you’d better cut them[…] Keep reading →