Psychology Today’s Editor at Large, Hara Estroff Marano, and I continue our conversations on challenging topics. Today we continue with white men and preconceived notions of us. We were talking about topics before hitting record, I started to describe the pattern that comes up a few minutes into this recording, she lit up in the way someone who has thought about something and has something to say about it does,[…] Keep reading →

Would you expect me on a podcast called Ask Women Podcast: What Women Want? With an episode title “How To Be A Leader With Women | The BJ Technique“? Yes, ‘BJ’ meaning what you think. Here are the notes about the hosts, Marni Kinrys and Kristen Carney: What do a female comic and a professional wing girl have in common? The realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY[…] Keep reading →

Comedians joke about stereotypes. People laugh when the jokes resonate with something in their heads. Everyone is unique, but as far as I can tell, many of thoughts of groups’ stereotypes come to mind automatically. I’m not sure if we can choose any thoughts. Here is an example of Larry David joking about Jewish stereotypes: Here is an example of David Chappelle joking about black and white stereotypes: I searched[…] Keep reading →

An organization called Trust for America’s Health released its latest obesity report. I don’t think many would call it good news. This graph caught my eye. We’re more obese than ever. The report said a lot more so I recommend reading more. It proposes remedies, but people have proposed remedies for decades and the trend continues. A quote from the report: “As recently as 2012, no state had an adult[…] Keep reading →

I just learned that Eva Kor died. Her story in the movie Forgiving Dr. Mengele expanded empathy and forgiveness for me. Decades after recovering from Nazi torture in Auschwitz under “Doctor” Mengele, she returned, as shown in the documentary. She learned that harboring anger didn’t improve her life, so chose to forgive the Nazis, including Dr. Mengele. Many people speak of turning the other cheek, loving their enemies, or similar[…] Keep reading →

In an online thread with people insisting that they have no choice but to fly for family and work reasons, I wrote the following, which I’m sure some will disagree with. I’m learning too, though I hope to help people looking to find joy in polluting less. One flight will brings people closer. Flying in general led them to move far apart so they felt they needed to fly to[…] Keep reading →

I met Jared Angaza appearing on each other’s podcast a couple years ago. We became great friends at first only online. I met him in person for the first time in San Diego in November after I attended the Summit in Los Angeles. We “broke bread” together by cooking a couple loads of my famous no-packaging vegetable stew for his family and a few of his family groups—about twenty people.[…] Keep reading →

When more men are in congress, STEM fields, and corporate board rooms, it’s “Women can do what men can. Something must be holding them back.” When more men commit crimes, it’s “Men are more violent, they’re just that way.” When more men occupy leadership roles in acting on the environment, it’s “The environmental movement has a problem recruiting women.” When more men are in jail, it’s “There are still too[…] Keep reading →

Frances Hesselbein is a hero and mentor to me. Her TED talk’s bio is too brief to covers all her achievements, but gets the top ones: One of the most highly respected experts in the field of contemporary leadership development, Frances Hesselbein is the President and CEO of The Frances Hesselbein Leadership Institute, founded as The Peter F. Drucker Foundation for Nonprofit Management and renamed in 2012 to honor Hesselbein’s[…] Keep reading →