Monthly Archives: August 2011

Dropping friends who bring you down can hurt, but improves your life

Today I’ll take a short break from my thread on the Model to share advice to a client with a common problem: he has grown and changed and a former friend hasn’t. The former friend now holds him back. He … Continue reading

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The Model: adding reward

So far the Model comprises cycle of environment, perception (subject to belief), emotions, and behavior. Its last element represents how it regulates itself: reward. When this Model refers to reward, it means emotional reward, not something like financial reward, treats … Continue reading

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The Model: adding belief and perception

Our Model so far comprised a cycle of your environment, emotions, and behavior. We’re still building. We don’t develop motivations based on our environments directly. The limitations of our senses mean we never know the full story of anything. The … Continue reading

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The Model: adding emotions

Yesterday began the Model with the foundation of understanding yourself as someone who exists in an environment and behaves within it. Unlike many simpler life forms, people don’t merely react reflexively. I don’t know how bugs and lizards live, but … Continue reading

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The Model: environment and behavior

Today we’ll see the first part of the Model. It comes from evolution in general and the burgeoning forefront scientific field of evolutionary psychology. Let’s start with your behavior and environment. Like all life, you exist in an environment and … Continue reading

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The Model: why

Why create a model? To know yourself better despite your complexity. Every system of self-improvement, at least that I know of, has some concept of increasing your self-awareness, your knowledge of yourself. “Know thyself.” Modeling the part of you that … Continue reading

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The Model: models in general

Before talking about the Model in particular, let’s talk about models in general, a fundamental and incredibly useful concept in its own right. I’ve covered them before in this blog from several perspectives. Models are simplified representations of something for … Continue reading

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